Anyone who says "love is love" to me this month has to give me five dollars
Sorry, sorry. It's just. I don't have to be in love to be a lesbian. It's who I am.
I *am* in love with a woman, now. (Two of them, actually.) But I was a lesbian when I was 14 years old and felt like there was something wrong with me. I was a lesbian before I felt safe enough to understand it.
"Love is love" makes it sound like, "Oh, it's okay everyone, the gays are just spicy heteros! Queers, they're just like us!" No. No I'm really not.
"Love is love" feels like it was made for cis white gays, but pride is for all of us. Those of us who aren't palatable to the masses, and don't fucking want to be. I tried that. I hated it.
Queer love isn't just love, it's revolutionary. And it goes beyond romantic love. It's love for our friends, for our community, for our queer ancestors. And love for ourselves. Because goddamn society spent a long ass time making me feel like it wasn't okay to love myself.
Well guess what. I'm going to love myself twice as hard now.
















