1. I graduated with a non-stem degree. Tech companies are ALWAYS looking for non-stem people. Don’t ever discount your skills.

2. Working for big names matter. I used to not think it did bc I could do the same work as anybody else, even better bc I’m hard worker. It wasn’t until I interned for a big tech company that other companies started instantly looking at my resume. If you want to make good money, get internships/entry level roles in big name companies.

3. If you’re having a hard time finding roles directly at tech companies, USE A CONTRACT AGENCY. It’s short term, you get to put a big ass corporate name on your resume, make good money and still job hop if you feel like the industry’s not for you.

4. NETWORK WITH ALUM. Go on LinkedIn (it’s corny but an unfortunate necessity.) I got almost all my jobs from referrals.

Rooting for everyone always!

- post grad loneliness anon

You either learn… or you repeat the cycle

Every. Single. Relationship.

We don’t discover who we are in isolation

We find out through connection, how we show up, what we tolerate, what we fear, what we attract and what we accept

It’s not about who you think you are

Not who you say you are

But who you allow into your life. That’s the mirror. That’s the truth

Relationships reflect parts of you that still need healing, understanding or strengthening. Whether it’s your boundaries, your self worth, your attachment style or your communication, it all comes up through people

So instead of asking “Why did this happen to me?”

Start asking “What part of me aligned with this? What is this trying to teach me?”

I’m not going to change the ambitious, determined, bad bitch I am for any man, even if this breakup hurts like crazy. I work a demanding 9-5, own my car fully paid off, and even work freelance gigs to explore my creativity. I travel internationally regularly and pay for everything myself. I have a beautiful group of girlfriends that I love and I’m even thinking about going back to get my masters degree now post break up.

This isn’t going to break me, even if I feel so sad. Do you have any tips or thoughts on how to get over a break up?

As I read this I thought to myself wow she sounds amazing! It’s clear that this breakup hurts, but it also reveals how grounded you are in your values. Love this for you

What you’re going through also brings up something important... relationships require alignment, not just love. It’s about emotional maturity, values and how power dynamics play out. It sounds like you were more emotionally evolved and further along in life than he was, not just professionally but personally. And instead of growing with you, he got insecure. It’s clear he needed to feel dominant in the relationship, and when your light started shining brighter, he dimmed himself instead of rising beside you. That’s not your fault, nor are you going to water yourself down or settle, but it is useful information

Now, as for healing... take the time to grieve. We often think that just because something wasn’t our fault, we should be able to brush it off, but healing comes from letting yourself feel everything. Grieve the future you pictured, the version of him you loved and even the part of yourself that hoped he’d show up differently. Once you’ve felt it, learn from it. Take the wisdom with you, not the wound. Then focus on becoming even better and stay true to your potential and your own capabilities

I will say, and maybe this should be a separate post all together, but I would try to also understand why you chose this person, what your attachment to them was, and their overall qualities. I would also make a mental note to cover these type of things early on with the next person, so that you don't fall in the same situation. Like I said.. there is always something to learn about ourselves even if it was not our fault

Even if you know deep down that you don’t want to work a 9–5 or stay in the corporate world forever, at the very least, get your degree. Higher education broadens your mind. It exposes you to new ideas, people, and environments you wouldn’t have encountered otherwise. It challenges your thinking, refines your perspective, and makes you more intellectually equipped for life. And if you manage to get practical experience in the field while you’re studying or after graduating, you may even discover that you enjoy the field, or that the skills and credentials can be used later to build a business or pursue something more creative with a solid foundation behind you.

I'm curating my summer to be as eventful as possible lol.

I'm training for a 5k race. In preparation, I'm setting running goals every week. I'm a super beginner so I'm looking into joining a running group this summer to keep me motivated.

I'm taking my ballet hobby up a notch. I've been back into ballet for a year now and want to start challenging myself now that I've familiarized myself with everything. There are some masterclasses at Alvin Ailey that I really want to take.

I'm challenging myself to read 10 books by the end of August/beginning of September. I curated a summer reading list so we'll see if I get through it all to keep me on track with my yearly reading goals lol

I'm taking in-person French classes. I can not for the life of me learn French by myself. These classes are only once a week, but I highly believe that physically going to these classes, and having a set module that I have to follow on top of being consistent with Duolingo will help me get the basics down pact by August.