babygirl😘

“Have you eaten?”

“Drive carefully.”

“Good morning, beautiful.”

“What did you have for lunch today?”

“Sleep well.”

“I’m proud of you.”

“Are you feeling better?”

“Take a sweater, it’s cold out.”

Also, he’s written a sci-fi novel and has spent time in Africa building a school and orphanage for abused teenage girls. So, good for that guy.

In the interest of trying to help those new to dominance better understand the core concepts that I try to convey with what it means to be an Ethical Dominance, I thought I would share with my readers Section One, Article One of every D/s agreement I’ve ever written: 

Your Dominant’s Responsibilities to His Submissive: The essential responsibility of the dominant to always do that which is in the best interest of his submissive. He is therefor ultimately responsible for being attentive to every aspect of his submissive’s happiness, safety, and growth, both as a submissive, and as a person. It is the submissive’s right to expect that her dominant will always do so. He is to earn, maintain, and grow his submissive’s level of trust and respect for him by being attentive to her every need. He is responsible for being stern in his enforcement of the pre-agreed upon rules, and when necessary, the application of punishment. Your dominant may not arbitrarily inflict punishment; there must be pre-agreed upon, established cause. Your dominant may not, under any circumstance, inflict injury of any kind; physical, mental, or emotional. Your dominant is required to consistently reward good behavior with positive verbal and physical affirmation.

And that’s it. It’s not about sex. It’s not about degradation. IT’S NOT ABOUT ME. It’s not about anything other than providing. 

Now listen, I screw up. Usually in really small ways, but sometimes in big ways too. I’m human, it happens. But I would never deny that humanity, and I’ve never been too big to be the first to apologize, and take responsibility, and I’ve always sought to demonstrate that I’ve grown by consistently displaying a better model. 

Questions:

~Who’s in charge? ~Who owns you? ~What did I say? ~Did I make myself clear? ~Do you remember your rules? ~Do you need to be punished? ~What did you just say? ~Are you going to be a good girl? ~Who’s my good girl? ~Who do I love the most? ~How’s my little girl? ~What’s my little girl doing? ~Are you in little space? ~What are you coloring/drawing? ~How are your stuffies? ~Can Daddy join? ~Are you taking care of yourself? ~Have you eaten enough? ~Are you drinking enough? ~Have you taken your meds? ~Are you ready for bed? ~Are you snuggled in bed?

Commands:

~Listen to Daddy ~Don’t disobey Daddy ~Do it for Daddy ~Be a good girl ~Speak up ~Use your words ~Stay close to Daddy ~Be safe ~Show Daddy what you’re wearing ~Show Daddy your favorite little outfits ~Show Daddy your coloring/drawing ~Show Daddy your favorite stuffies ~Tell Daddy about your day ~Go to bed, princess ~Close your eyes, baby

Reassurance:

~Good girl ~You’re such a good girl ~I’m so proud of you! ~You did such a good job! ~I love you so much ~You’re my one and only ~I only want you ~I’m not going anywhere ~I promise ~You’re such a cutie! ~My little girl ~Daddy loves when you’re in little space ~You make Daddy so happy!

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