i saw a post on reddit the other day of this person asking if they were the asshole for not feeding their granddaughter as a punishment for making a rude comment and like,, it was crazily controversial. lots of ppl were saying that to enforce certain good behaviours, punishment is good etc etc, and that not feeding them once does not equate to starvation. okay yeah it doesnt, but idk,,
imo its not good to enforce from a young age that food is a pleasure (idk what the right word is) and not a right?? like everyone deserves to eat, everyone. hence why even prisoners are given food in prison, food is and should always be a right.
from personal experience, my own parents punishing me with no food etc just made me think that only good people deserved food. so if i didnât go to school bc my undiagnosed autism&adhd had left me feeling burned out (and i had no words to even explain this to my parents), i wasnât allowed out my room, or to eat or to read/go on my phone/watch tv. now if i dont go to work bc im actually ill, i find myself not eating, as a punishment. i never really figured out why i was so averse to taking care of myself when sick, but reading that post the other day (+all the comments) got me thinking.
we canât force what connections ppl make in their heads, and itâs especially worse enforcing such murky punishment&reward things on a child. they can make other unhealthy connections, and even then, if they do learn the lesson that was meant to be taught, they wonât actual like,, get it. They wonât get that they should nice to ppl bc it hurts their feelings, but theyâll do it. though resentfully or fearfully
context: in the og reddit post, the poster sent her granddaughter to bed without dinner, not dessert or anything (dessert is a different story ofc)
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