fundamentally loathsome

samdean sex where sam clearly safe words but dean is close to coming so he ignores it and when sam tells him that he said it once they're done dean is like "no you didn't" and sam is quiet for a while and then asks dean if he's sure to which dean replies "yeah I definitely would've stopped if you did" and then sam fully believes that he never said it out loud after all

(shouting over the loud music to the guy next to me at a crowded bar) no no listen. there's two types of piss kink, okay? there's the wetting kind and the golden showers kind. the wetting kind is all about loss of control. desperation. it's about surrendering yourself to your irresistible physical urges. it makes pissing a submissive act. sit back down i'm not finished. the golden showers kind is about pissing as a dominant act. it's about degradation. objectification. turning a person with agency into something dirty to be used for relief. there's overlap between the two but both can be used to reinforce different power dynamics in bdsm contexts. where are you going

its crazy that the old british boys school model actually existed and wasn’t invented as some sort of upper class gay guy bdsm thing

british boys boarding school is the closest an actually existing society has ever been to what i have heard of a/b/o