Shane

Make your own path. Find a way that works best for you, even if you’ve never seen it done that way. Forget what you’ve seen before… do it in a way that is authentic to you.

Take the harder path when you know it’s the right one. Be courageous.

Courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. It means you ARE afraid. And you lean in to it anyway.

Let go of the things you can’t control. It’s a waste of your energy. Likewise, worrying about something doesn’t help or change the outcome. Just spinning your wheels and using up energy.

You only get so much time in life - actively choose what you want to spend your energy on.

I refuse to spend a minute of my time being possessive or jealous of my partner. You’re free to go. So am I.

If you have to convince someone to be with you or stay with you - you’ll have to convince them for the full duration of the relationship.

Happiness comes from inside you. Wonderful things CAN happen. But, they don’t “force” you to be happy. You make you happy. You choose it. You see it. Your thoughts and beliefs have more influence on your feelings and behaviors than outside events. If you believe everything is horrible - then it will be. You don’t give it any other option. Instead, you are the bearer of happiness, it dwells in you like a light. Bring it everywhere you go. Protect it and build it up every chance you get.

Real strength. Is very quiet. It doesn’t come out until it absolutely must. Doesn’t stay a moment longer than necessary. And folds neatly back into its sheath. Real strength…. is gentle and is not without restraint. Don’t be mistaken. You might be sorry you did.

Set boundaries. Don’t allow a person to influence or hurt you past a given point. You get to choose to let someone in, how far, or not at all. Set boundaries. You’ve worked too hard for too long to just let anyone in.

Don’t date someone with the intention of changing them to be more like what you want. Find someone that pretty much is already what you want. You can’t change someone. Who are you to try to change someone, anyway? Respect your partner’s life.

People don’t change unless they, themselves, want to very very very badly. They have to want to change from deep within. Major life events sometimes lead to this.

Sometimes, you have to get worse before you will get better. Healing, recovery, and change comes when you’re ready for it. No sooner.

Don’t date someone with so much emotional baggage they can’t see passed themselves. They won’t recognize anything amazing in you… they only focus on their own problems. They see you through the clouded filter of their issues. They don’t see or appreciate you fully. For example, someone convinced that you are constantly cheating on them because thier ex used to cheat. So, you spend a great amount of energy fighting accusations that don’t exist anywhere but in your partner’s mind. Don’t do that.

Know when someone’s problems have nothing to do with you. Know when to back away. Clarity is a great, great thing. You and you partner will see each other better, if you both have clear filters with which to recognize each other’s qualities.

No, you don’t know what you would do in a situation you’ve never been in. You don’t know what you would do if you were sexually assaulted, for example. Because what you want, who you are, what you believe in, say or do…. Doesn’t matter. It’s not about you. You’re not in control. The attacker is. And you DON’T know what you’d do. Not until you’re in that place. I hope you never are.

External “fixes” for things like - insecurities…. don’t last. They’re just bandaids that can fall off or manipulate the problem to make it worse. (Like, depending on others to “make” you feel worthy.) No one can force you to feel worthy. You’ve gotta find it internally! Believe in yourself! You ARE worthy! Know it from within!!! That way it can’t be taken away or manipulated.

Don’t use people to boost you up. Get your own confidence and inner peace. Don’t use up people’s energy to fix your problems. That’s not what people exist for. That’s not what relationships are for. Support yeah…. but keeping you from falling completely apart…. that’s mostly your responsiblity. Baby steps. You can do it. There’s no darkness you can sink to that you can’t get out of. I believe that. There’s hope.

You have many more choices than you’re aware. The choices you have are your opportunities to make the changes you want to see in yourself and life. Choices are gifts. What you do or don’t do, matters. Don’t give your choices away. Don’t ask others to make your choices for you. Don’t take choices away from other people. There is a lot of power in choices. Your choices belong to you, and the consequences of those choices are on your shoulders.

The world already puts limitations on you that you can’t control…. don’t choose to put more limitations on yourself. Make choices freely and unburdened by your past. Don’t let awful things from your past, make choices for you.

Elsa sat quietly overlooking the pool, her pool. She had been a lifeguard for quite some time now, her parents urged her to get a “real” job to pay bills and such. She just couldn’t do it. The water was her home. Her peace. She enjoyed what she did. Water had beauty, but also great danger. She protected others from that danger. She was satisfied. I’m content I don’t need to justify anything I do to others, she thought her mind straying from the blue water to the bluer sky. She continued to repeat her mantra until a scream took all of her attention. She jumped from her chair, scanning the area for flailing bodies or submerged children. She huffed out a perturbed breath when she found the source of the shrieking. A fiery red head with her hair in two long braids quickly waded across the water to escape (what Elsa assumed was) her boyfriend, who chased her with a water gun. They were causing quite a fuss and annoying other bystanders at the pool. Elsa had to intervene. “Excuse me, I’m afraid you’re making too much noise, can you keep it a little quieter?” Elsa had tried to the best of her abilities to come off as kind as possible, though her social skills were not as strong as her swimming skills. While Elsa was contemplating whether or not she had come off as a complete ass, the red headed girl had swam to the edge of the pool to meet Elsa’s downcast eyes. “I’m so sorry, I forget to be polite when I’m with my brother Kristoff sometimes, he has that sort of rowdy affect on people” she said half smiling shooting a glance over to the tall blonde man. Elsa just stared at her dumbfounded by her unique beauty. From far away she couldn’t see her tan freckle dusted face, or her sparkling aqua blue eyes. Elsa couldn’t not compare them to her crystal clear pool. Not knowing what on earth could have possibly possessed her to, Elsa looked downward. As a deep rouge blush tinted her face upon the sight of the woman’s bosoms, Elsa forced herself to look up to meet the red heads eyes. Only, Elsa noticed the woman was no longer looking at her. Well she was looking at her, but it was where she was looking. Is she…no she can’t be…sh-she totally is! Elsa thought a small smile spreading across her face. She had been doing the same thing Elsa had seconds earlier, she was checking her out. The girl finally met Elsa’s eyes. “Oh, I um haha, I-uh, w-what’s your name?” Elsa chuckled at the girls adorable awkwardness. “It’s Elsa, and yours?”. “Oh my names Anna” Anna Elsa thought, I like that name, it suits her perfectly. “Well Anna as long as you keep the noise down, we shouldn’t have any problems” Elsa smiled at Anna adding a wink to solidify her friendly attitude. “Oh-oh yeah the noise thing, yeah we’ll be less quiet, um I mean quieter…We won’t make any more sound.” Anna stumbled across her sentence. Elsa smiled and turned to walk back to her station, but as she was leaving she heard Kristoff swim to Anna and say “Who was that? She’s hot!” The last words Elsa heard before she thrust herself into her tall lifeguard chair were, “Fuck yeah she is”

The next morning Elsa awoke, she found herself covered in a cold sweat. She had the same dream she had been having for the past four years. It would start with her in the middle of a calm glassy ocean under a starry sky. If Elsa did not already know the outcome of this dream, it would have been beautiful. But she did. She would begin to swim, panicking, looking for land when none was in sight. Then she would sink further and further into the depths of the black ocean. There were no sea creatures in her dream. Just her and this monstrous body of water. She did not drown, however. She could breathe just fine. What made this dream a nightmare was the fact that she was completely and utterly alone. She would always wake after she realized that. “Fuck” Elsa sighed and got out of bed. She headed to her shower and let the water wash away what was left of the nightmare…for now. After she finished showering she threw on her red one piece suit, her white hoodie with the words “Arendelle Community Lifeguard” printed in a bold maroon, and some red shorts. This was her usual attire. She then combed her platinum blonde hair and wove it into a french braid, smoothing her bangs back. What are you doing with your life? Elsa asked herself this question almost daily while in front of her steamed mirror. Unable to provide an answer, she grabbed her car keys and left for work. The pool was the only part of her life she had complete control of. It was the only thing she was good at. She arrived to her escape at 5:37 AM. Twenty-three minutes early…I guess that’s enough time for my usual laps. She thought stripping herself of her clothing, leaving only her swimsuit. She looked at the pool, as she always did admiring its static beauty, when suddenly an image flashed into her mind. A redheaded beauty with eyes bluer and deeper than any pool Elsa had ever known. Elsa was annoyed with herself. Stop. Stop that. You need to be focused today. Besides, she convinced herself, Anna probably isn’t even gay. She was just being friendly and you have to go perv out on a- what like 17 year old girl? Elsa knew Anna could have been older, she definitely had the shape of a woman. It was her attitude that convinced her she was younger. So upbeat, so cheerful. To positive to be old enough to know what the world is really like. To have it beat you down. You’re spending way to much time thinking about this girl you don’t even really know. Just get in the water and do what you do best. Elsa dove in, with perfect form. She shot under the water like a bullet. She was at the end of the pool by the time she had come up for air. “Hey!” Elsa jumped as she heard the perky greeting. “Oh I-I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to scare you! I just, um the guy at the desk inside said I should come out here and tell you, I paid for the beginner package and um I guess you’re my instructor” Anna looked down and smiled as she said the last few words. “Oh, ok yeah that’s-is um is your brother here too?” Elsa asked inquiring in whether or not this was a private lesson. “Nope just me” Anna giggled. She then stripped herself of her oversized t-shirt and jean shorts, revealing a rather…well revealing two piece swimsuit. Elsa subconsciously scanned the girls body going over every piece of bronzed freckled skin until she realized what she was doing. “Next time you might want to wear a one-piece suit” She had tried to recover from her not so subtle visual feast, but yet again ended up making things worse. “Oh, I’m sorry I didn’t know” Anna said disappointed and somewhat ashamed. She started to cover her body with her arms, when Elsa choked out, “Not that it looks bad. It doesn’t at all. Just for aerodynamic purposes ya know? I mean I’m really not complain-” Elsa clenched her jaw shut and closed her eyes. She heard Anna laugh full heartedly at her expense. A deep red blush was creeping up Elsa’s neck and face, when she heard Anna enter the water. “So” The redhead questioned, “what’s the best position for beginners?” Elsa cursed herself for blushing at Anna’s phrasing, but continued, “Let’s start off with the crawl stroke” Elsa explained how to do the move and used herself as an example, swimming from one side of the pool to the other. “Okay now you give it a go” Anna performed faultlessly. “I’m just going to assume that was beginners luck” Elsa chuckled. “Okay what’s next Mr. Miyagi?” Anna giggled in response. “Let’s try the breast stroke” Elsa replied paying no attention to a reference from one of her favorite movies. “Oh sounds fun, has one of my favorite things in the title” Elsa’s mouth flew open in shock and her head whipped around to meet Anna’s unrelenting half lidded gaze. Oh my fucking god. She just…does that mean she’s-she’s biting her lip shitshitshit. Elsa was not prepared for this so she did the only thing she could think of, she swam away. She did so using the breast stroke. Okay kill two birds with one stone, avert the sexual tension and teach her what she paid for, ok good. But when she shot back towards Anna and resurfaced completely, she could see Anna was not satisfied. “U-um your turn” Elsa said smiling, hoping for forgiveness. Without a word Anna not only executed the stroke perfectly but did so with such grace, that it left Elsa confused. There is no way a beginner could do a breast stroke that fucking well. “You don’t even need these lessons, do you?” Elsa interrogated as Anna caught her breath. “It doesn’t matter whether I need them or not I’m paying for them.” Anna said this stoically, which seemed oddly out of character. Is she…mad at me? “Well are you going to teach me another stroke or just stand there contemplating life?” Elsa looked up to see Anna with a crooked smile and a fire in her eyes. God she’s adorable. “Okay,” Elsa said rolling her eyes a smile teasing at her lips, “the next stroke we’re going to try is the backstroke. This one is a little different because you’ll be belly up swinging your arms back over your head to propel you like this-” Elsa demonstrated the stroke. “Okay you ready?” Elsa said fully expecting Anna to dart across the pool with ease. “Actually, would you mind helping me get the form down?” Elsa moved towards her before realizing that she was about to have full physical contact with Anna skin on skin. Anna floated on her back awaiting Elsa’s touch to guide her. As Elsa’s palm made contact with the small of Anna’s back gingerly lifting her up, she felt a sudden warmth move through her body. “S-so you just want to keep your arms tight like this-” Elsa moved her hand from the small of her back up to Anna’s palm straightening her arm. This action made the red head shiver causing Elsa to blush in response. “And do the um the…” Elsa was getting lost in Anna’s aqua eyes. “Flutterkick” Elsa’s eyes were now almost closed leaning into Anna’s face. But what she met was a face full of water. Anna had started across the pool using Elsa’s instruction, yet again flawlessly. Elsa wasn’t sure if she was annoyed of relieved. But when Anna returned she came as close to Elsa’s face as she could without making contact. Elsa could feel Anna’s every inhale and exhale of breath. She could feel Anna’s warmth radiating from her body. Elsa looked at Anna’s lips. They looked warm, inviting, wet. You can’t do this. For godsakes she could be underage or or her parents, she’s not like you she hasn’t had the time to figure her life out. Fuck, you haven’t even figured your life out and your 21! Anna moved towards her pressing their bodies closer. “A-Anna how old are you?” “18. Why?” Anna replied shooting her a curious glance. “Do you even know what you want? Here? Right now?” Anna moved backwards and looked at Elsa sternly, “Elsa does being 18 legally mean I am considered an adult?” “Yes I suppose, but-” “So not only am I legally considered an adult, I’ve been living away from home for almost a year now, paying my own bills, and working two jobs to support myself.” “Anna-” Elsa tried to apologize but Anna continued, “I know what I want Elsa. I knew what I wanted the second I saw you sitting in that chair. I want you.” At that moment Elsa lost what little self control she had been practicing and leaned in to Anna tracing her jawline with her hot wet lips. “If you know what you want,” Elsa whispered, “then why are you still talking?”

This is how I imagined it, modern AU where they don’t know each other. Anyway, hope you like!

So Tops/Dominants share some traits in common, like being controlling and assertive of their wants, but also being attentive and mindful of their partners needs. They need to know their partners inside and out for the play to proceed. Meanwhile bottoms/submissives share the willingness to serve the needs of their Tops/Dominants. But they also are the ones being catered to and taken care of.

This is exactly how i see it:

The Next Right Thing was specifically written for Anna to show the audience the intensity of Anna’s love for Elsa. The truth of the matter is there is only darkness for Anna when Elsa isn’t a part of her life. We saw her fall into depression because her star supposedly died. She was ready to surrender herself. There is no life for Anna without Elsa. This bothers people. 

Anna being in love with Elsa and wanting to follow her everywhere she goes doesn’t make her Co-Dependent. She needs to be with the love of her life. Co-Dependent is a label used by people that want to avoid the Elsanna ship or don’t want to admit the truth behind why Anna is acting this way. The term is overused and repeated many times. It would be out of character for Anna to leave Elsa alone when she feels something beyond sisterly feelings.

As difficult as it may be for some people to grasp, Anna is coded as being in love with Elsa. If you want to see it, it’s there in front of you. If you don’t want to see it, it’s still there regardless. Her story is being told in a very blatant way. A lot of people are questioning things between Anna and Elsa (more than ever before) and I will respect the integrity of these people by not making their comments public. 

For a sisterly dynamic, boundaries need to be met. Anna and Elsa have no filter especially Anna. Disney didn’t even try to hide anything either. Their comment about not listening to fans demands and writing the story they want to tell ties into this too. Over the years Elsanna became very popular and people complained about shipping two sisters. They could have been written lightly in the second film to not give fans more reasons to love Anna and Elsa together romantically. However, the opposite happened. 

In Frozen 2, Anna found reasons to touch Elsa. Some Things Never Change is at the beginning of the movie. Anna and Elsa were holding hands shortly during this song and at the end Anna pulled Elsa in for a tight hug. It’s the how she does it that gets to me. She extends her hand like a partner would and looked at her in a particular way. She didn’t hesitate waiting one second before bringing her closer. They appeared to be in a relationship.

Call me crazy but every new scene Anna shared with Elsa further validated how deeply, truly, and irrevocably Anna was in love with Elsa. I’ve never seen a character so willing to go to such lengths for someone and not giving it second thought. Anna teaches us about patience, loyalty, trust, certainty, and determination. She is something else. She is the first character I came across that became a game changer.

The only consistency in all of Frozen is Anna’s love for Elsa. Anna has never (not once) second guessed herself when it came to Elsa. Her feelings for Elsa didn’t change before, during, and after the six years. Elsa was a constant in her life. The writers didn’t ruin this part of Frozen. When we begin to consider everything, Anna hasn’t been out of character when it came to Elsa. She loved her then and now maybe even more.

I didn’t think it was possible for Anna to fall harder for Elsa. She proved me wrong. Her heart has unlimited love for Elsa on an unreachable level. I could even call it ‘the rarest of the rarest love.’ It means exactly as it sounds.Her love for Elsa is unstoppable. We’ve seen how far that love went.

Anna climbed the North mountain for Elsa. She froze for Elsa. She went into fire for Elsa. She did The Next Right Thing for Elsa. She jumped a cliff, put herself in danger with the trolls, and stood on the Dam as the stones were coming at her in memory of Elsa. I know this sounds a bit absurd but let me explain. She fought hard to not survive. She didn’t want to live. She wanted to die and forget her misery.

There isn’t anything Anna wouldn’t do for Elsa. She loves her more than humanely possible. To love someone so much is to love like you’ve never loved someone at all. Elsa is her first, only, and last love. She is absolutely crazy about her. I am not sure if Anna is aware of the degree of her love for Elsa. She doesn’t have to think about it.

Anna’s love for Elsa has been emphasized intensively in both films and the shorts. All of her actions, words, and tone of voice when she says certain words aren’t light. She doesn’t know how to be a sister. That’s not her fault. She wasn’t raised to be a sisterly figure to Elsa. She doesn’t want to be a sister to her even by choice.

A saying I came up with is “Sisters by chance, lovers by choice.” You don’t choose who to love. Love chooses you. It’s almost like Disney wanted reactions out of us in regards to Anna and Elsa to sell their original idea of romantic love interests. We saw right through them. The truth eventually comes out. They should have made Anna and Elsa friends.

Anna climbed the North Mountain for Elsa and they were strangers. She didn’t know anything about her and yet she was willing to fight for her no matter the outcome. How do you go so far for someone you barely even knew or know at the time? What was her motivation? Why did she do this? The answer is simple. I don’t even have to explain anything. Elsa was a mystery. Anna wanted to know that side of her because she wanted to be the first person to let her in while everyone else was scared.

Next thing you know… Anna froze for Elsa. The question about whether or not she knew she would die is somewhat subjective. I guess there is a part of her that didn’t care either way. The point is she gave her life. She died loving Elsa. I know some people like to say she would have eventually unfroze with or without Elsa’s love but the message is true love. A hug broke the spell and brought her back to life. She needed to feel Elsa’s love.

Following Elsa into fire went along the lines of “If you die, we die together.” There wasn’t another option. Anna experienced life and death situations for Elsa. The possibility of dying from fire exposure didn’t cross her mind when Elsa was in trouble. She wanted to save her even if she didn’t make it. Anna’s loyalty to Elsa is everlasting. She will go the distance for her no matter how far or life threatening.

Anna: Is it really you?

Elsa: Anna.

Anna: I thought I’d lost you.

Elsa: Lost me? You saved me. Again.

Anna: I did?

Elsa: And Anna, Arendelle did not fall.

Anna: It didn’t?

Elsa: The spirits all agree. Arendelle deserves to stand. With you.

Anna: Me?

Elsa: You did what was right. For everyone.

Anna: Did you find the Fifth Spirit? Oh, you are the Fifth Spirit. You’re the bridge.

Elsa: Well, actually, a bridge has two sides. And mother had two daughters. 

Anna: We did this together.

Hi! 😊I watched the movie five times since the day it was released so I think I caught a few scenes here and there. So maybe I’m qualified to answer your questions? 

Okay, the whole “Fifth Spirit” post I made was not an idea I came up with. Jennifer Lee (one of the directors and the writer of the movie) said that she thinks Elsa and Anna are both the Fifth Spirit. You can find the interview here (please click that link) and you can actually hear her say that. I didn’t make it up, I was just adding my opinions to expand that idea. I personally don’t think that it’s impossible for Anna to be the Fifth Spirit as well. She’s actually marketed as a “Forest Spirit” in some merch. Maybe it’s not just Elsa. Maybe it’s Anna, too. take a look at this pic: 

And a “spirit” does not necessarily mean that you have to be a deity or some sort of immortal :) You said “Anna is human” and she can’t be the Fifth Spirit because of that. But Elsa is also human? They were born from the same parents? I’m sure you already know that from the first movie as well. 

Elsa said that their mother had two daughters (her and Anna, obviously) and that a bridge has two sides. One protecting Arendelle and the other protecting Northuldra. It’s Elsa and Anna’s love, loyalty, and sacrifices that pacified the spirits, therefore bringing peace to both lands.

Elsa is the Fifth Spirit, and Anna is not the Sixth Spirit or something because that eradicates the part of their story where they saved both lands together. They didn’t do that in separate events or objectives. 

I think that’s what Jenn Lee meant. Elsa and Anna saved Arendelle and Northuldra together. They’re both the missing pieces that make up the last spirit. And to me, it makes sense because they’re both Iduna and Agdar’s children. 

Elsa literally says in the movie, "A bridge has two sides, and mother had two daughters." Elsa may be named as the fifth spirit, but she cannot do that alone. She needs Anna. Anna was the only one who contacted the Earth Giants. Without Anna's help, Elsa would have remained frozen at the bottom of Ahtohallan.

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