Sunshine and Roses

unpopular opinion but it’s cool if you don’t want to be in love

like, idk. I used to feel so compelled to make excuses for being single, whether it was self-deprecating jokes about myself or insisting that I was too busy for a relationship or making myself go out on uncomfortable and pointless dates just to make a show of trying to not be single. there’s such an expectation that if you’re single you should be actively working of changing that, and it’s like. nah. there are 9999 other things you can be focusing your time and energy on and if you don’t really feel like being in a relationship now or ever that’s cool.

True whether someone is aromantic or not

It is normal for your healing to feel like a rollercoaster. It is normal to find yourself doing good for awhile and then falling back. You are not failing. Healing is not linear. 

You know, if you’re thinking about sending someone a nice message and you’re unsure because you’re shy or whatever, just do it anyway. This world lacks so much kindness, and I see people all the time talking about why receiving a sweet message was the highlight of their day. If you have the ability to literally make someone’s day by taking a moment to say a few nice words like, just do it.

i am forever proud of you for making it as far as you have, and i hope you’re proud of yourself too. you should be.

When talking about stigma around mental illness, we need to remember that people with psychosis, schizophrenia, dissociative disorders, and/or cluster B personality disorders tend to receive the most abuse and violence because of the false, harmful stereotype that people with these disorders are actively trying to hurt others, even though they're far likely to be hurt than to hurt someone else. That paired with the ableism they face constantly increases the suicide and self harm rates among people with these illnesses. Please include them in your conversations about mental health, they're some of the most vulnerable and are too often forgotten. People with these disorders are all around you, they deserve support too.

“i can’t do simple hygiene bc im depressed” that’s easy babe! just do simple hygiene

I don’t know what any of you people think professional help looks like, but when you walk in and say “i’m too depressed to do anything” they don’t just nod and say “well you’re broken forever i guess”. they don’t say “here take this pill and it’ll fix everything”. they work with you one step at a time and explain to you that you CAN in fact do simple things even though you’re depressed. it isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible, it just happens in small steps, but it isn’t getting any easier when you react to every instance of someone trying to help by refusing to listen.

The advice he gives is seriously so solid. A lot of times it’s hard to motivate yourself to do something because it seems too daunting to commit to a full routine, so doing one simple thing can help you get motivated for the next simple thing and so on and so forth. Other posters are right, therapists, at least the ones worth anything, don’t just throw pills at you and tell you you’re never going to improve oh well, they give you simple manageable tips to improve your situation.