Hello there!

Un p’tit mardi dans la vie d’une calico!

This includes: 

Using whatever pronouns they like and changing them as often as they want. He on a tuesday and they on wednesday, ze on weekends, she on Christmas; we can do that if we really want or need to!

Using whatever labels for their orientation they like, whenever and however they see fit. If a non-binary person likes boys and thinks that makes them straight one day and then gay the next, that is allowed! 

Defining orientation at their own terms. If a non-binary person likes girls and other non-binary people, and thinks that makes them bisexual, you’re just going to have to deal with it! Non-binary people do not have to define labels in the same ways that binary people typically do. 

Dressing and presenting in whatever way they like to. Like their agab, the opposite of it, something in-between, whatever way they want. Even in a way that is unconventional or that might seem jarring to you. Honestly if you’re giving anyone a hard time about their hair and clothes and whatever than you’re just an ass 

Doing drag of ANY gender they want, regardless of what their agab is. They can be a King AND a Queen if they want, they’d be in drag presenting as a different gender either way! 

Using whatever flag or label for their gender they want! Even if it’s something reaaaaalllly specific or not very well-known. If someone’s not cis they’re not cis. Who other than themselves should care what they call it? As long you can get the point that they are not a woman or a man, and it’s not culturally appropriative, then stop worrying about their label!

Changing their gender label however often they want! 

Joining whatever spaces they see most fit for their gender, regardless of agab! This includes women’s spaces, men’s spaces, etc. If you’re gonna claim your space is accommodating to trans people, then really commit and make sure all non-binary people who want to be there feel welcome as well and not just binary trans people. 

And if any of this bothers you or strikes a nerve, then maybe ask yourself WHY are you so bothered? 

Maybe ask yourself whether you are compartmentalizing non-binary people into being either “man lite” or “woman lite” according to what makes you personally feel the most comfortable while disregarding our comfort and safety. 

Again,