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Asexuality gets so little representation in media, and much of what is depicted shows ace folks who are repulsed/averse to sex, those who don’t want to have it.  While those folks certainly make up a segment of the ace spectrum, for that to be the only way ace people are depicted falls flat of demonstrating the complexity and heterogeneity of the community.  Asexuality is defined as experiencing sexual attraction never, very rarely, or only under certain conditions, and the way it is expressed is different in every person.  Because it was on my mind, I thought I might make a working list of thing that ace people can think, do, and be that would add to a more dynamic and three-dimensional representation.   Other Ace Folks, please feel free to add on!

Having a dirty mind/sense of humor and being the first person to take a conversation to the gutter

Scientific curiosity about sex and sexuality (i.e. watching p*rn for research, listening to allo people describe their experiences, reading erotica, etc.)

Getting physically aroused, but not wanting to have sex, and being annoyed and grumpy because of it.

Being in a relationship with an allo person and having sex with them as an act of service and expression of love

Enjoying sex as an activity, you know… like playing tennis or watching a movie

Referring to having sex as “playing tennis”

Forgetting that sex is a thing for months at a time

Being the CHILLEST partner if someone’s nervous about their performance. (”No srsly, I don’t care. This was for you anyway.”)

(For the graces out there) The “HolY ShIT” when you actually experience sexual attraction.

Being romantically or aesthetically attracted to someone and going “wait… is this sexual attraction? No…wait! No. Still no.” 

When the emotional connection kicks in and you’re demi

Having a higher “body count” than allo friends because you were just making sure

Being the wisest about relationships/having the most realtionship experience in a friend group

Being popular/friendly/outgoing

Wearing revealing clothing

Having a lot of self-confidence

Having healthy, fulfilling satisfying romantic relationships

Being happily, healthily single

Recognizing you love someone because “playing tennis” doesn’t sound so bad with them

Being oblivious to a partner’s attempts at seduction (”oh so THAT’S why you were kissing my neck??”)

Needing to prepare for physical intimacy days in advance

Wanting to have biological children

Not wanting to have biological children

Being polyamorous/in a polyamorous relationship

Belonging to another LGBTQ+ identity

Compromising on sex

Not compromising on sex

Feener:

Corrects you're grammar

Spontaneous combustion upon reading previous sentence

Does math for fun

Nerdy:

Artsy(TM)

Mom friend

Memes

Madlad:

Handy

Tired of your shit

Convincingly fakes being a responsible adult

Maggie:

Plays guitar at 2 am

Not even sorry

Weirdly competitive

Celery:

Annoying

Emotional range of a teaspoon

Dog person

Carrot:

Good with money

Fashionable

Takes photos to avoid being in them

Dad Jr:

Better than you

Dad jokes

Knitting in public

I'm Rad:

Lit

Came here to have a good time

Honestly feels so attacked right now

Ambarussian:

Smokes weed

Will fight you if you insult their friends

Always has snacks in backpack

Celebrimbored:

Smol bean

Loyal friend

Jekyll

1931 Jekyll: just wants good dick in his life, isn’t fucking getting any. Salty. Crying. A goddamn emo

Musical Jekyll: “now add two shots of vodka-”. Can’t determine pain from dying. Constant yelling.

Book Jekyll: tired and ALONE. kinda creepy. Low-key gentle. Chugs cillit bang in cupboards.

Tgs Jekyll: closeted emo. Closeted twink. Painful smiles. Help him. Yells at reflective surfaces. Monster fucker, probably a furry

Mazm Jekyll: go outside you pale man. Twunk. How is he not dead yet wtf. Big gay boy with good face. Sof, did one thing wrong

Hyde

1931 Hyde: happy hairy man, apparently likes looking through windows, a meme

Musical hyde: “there is no Henry, only Hyde”, everything he says is a fucking pun, here to have a good time, furry? probably, heavy breathing

Book Hyde: angry trash gremlin, nobody knows who he is, lives in the kitchen cabinet

TGS Hyde: furry, or maybe he’s actually a cat, the verdict is still out, can’t do a cockney accent, arsonist, probably cries watching the lion king

This:

Is neither okay nor funny. 

I’m not going to hammer down they are 15 years old, but I am, but also the??? fuck????

It’s unecessary. It’s not funny. Why you have to reduce your female characters to a tongue-in-cheek joke for the male viewers? 

It is fanservice, it is for the male gaze. Jfc, you have wonderfully written female characters, who are interesting, who have their own goal, who are incredibly likable, and you decide to make a pause in the narration to sexualize them??? what the fuck. What the fuck.

Of course fucking Mineta did that, but Kaminari is no better, what the goddamn fuck.

Especially since it was brought to the girls with a lie like this:

and that once they realize they are tricked, they get uncomfortable and hurt like this:

Why indeed. Why does it keep happening, why does it even need to happen??? 

Listen. None of those fuckign scenes has an impact on the story. It comes out of nowhere like a cheap joke at the expense of the female characters, and usually against their consent/without them to have a full information about it. This is not funny, this is seriously starting to be annoying.

And I hate that it’s always after fucking amazing scenes that makes me love the characters and gets into the story, and then suddenly I have to be taken aback because “oh ye a grown man adult decided to write it this way”.

And it’s even worse than those female characters are good, likable and well written, and yet it seems okay to make a pause in the story at their expense. Especially Momo who is seriously likable in every way but is constantly brought into those scenes.

hello! here’s a killugon song i wrote ages back that i forgot to post like i forget to record and post all my songs hahaha anyway. i’ll be recording the version with harmonies soon but i quite like this one so!

I’m not one for confessions I’ve been taught to keep my mouth shut and the truth is just a wreckage and I’d never let you get hurt I’ve been touched but not this soft, I’ve been scared but not this lost Oh you’re blind for someone with eyes so open Nothing’s spoken of, turn me off

And you have such big plans, and this world’s a great expanse You don’t need me (though you once asked), I’d hold you back Tried to guard you and I failed at even that Oh I’m missing, I’m missing worth

Here I fall for you again, out of love for you and then I’m hoping I will find something I want, and it won’t be you I swear I’m coping I was always close behind, and were you ever close to finding I was a little out of sight I was always close behind, and were you ever close to wanting or was I always out of mind

I’m not one for confessions, and I think you’d rather I keep my mouth shut And you’ve proved the truth leaves wreckage and you’ve already crashed enough I’ve been told, I’ve been needed, I’m beholden to your pleading But you’ve always been fine alone, I think you’d rather I just go

Here I fall for you again, out of love for you and then I’m hoping I will find something I want, and it won’t be you I swear I’m coping I was always close behind, and were you ever close to finding I was a little out of sight I was always close behind, and were you ever close to wanting or was I always out of mind

Oh of course I’ll fix you up, and when you wake I’ll run, before I mess things up I’ll keep her safe, and keep away from you As you want me to Just a word, just a smile, just a cry for help, and I’d be at your side Give me that, I’ll give you everything

Here I run to you again, out of love for you dear friend I’m open I have searched for what I want, but it’s always you I swear I’m hopeless Oh I’m always close behind, would you let me close beside you if I try to face the light Oh I’m always close behind, and if you’re never close to wanting I swear I’ll never really mind