I know this isnβt something you want to hear, but I think itβs something you need to hear: sometimes someoneβs inability to love you the right way is not their fault. If you are the first person to show someone pure, genuine love, they may not know how to reciprocate because theyβve never experienced it before. In turn, they may not know how to give it back. This doesnβt mean that itβs your job to teach them, that you have to tolerate it, or that you deserve it, but Iβve found it incredibly helpful in my own healing to understand that sometimes people arenβt hurting you or treating you poorly intentionally. Sometimes people will self sabotage good things because they donβt think theyβre worthy of it. Sometimes they just donβt know what to do, so they ruin it, whether that be by running away, being disrespectful, or causing pain. Sometimes, people still have their own growing to do. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, itβs just that you happened to be there in the collateral damage. I donβt say this to justify any of their bad actions, but to offer a different perspective that may aid you in forgiving and ultimately reaching your peace.
β alhwrites





















