I met her at beginning of February and we chatted a bit, shared a bit of nerdy interests and had a fun conversation - she was new to the city and I was telling her about some fun places, she showed me her new dog, etc.

We exchanged info and the following day she brought up her boyfriend that she lives with and that they moved here together. I was disappointed at first but she was genuinely cool person so I accepted that it was just going to be a friendship and just talked to her once and awhile if something we both like came up.

About a little over a month later we started chatting again more about her dog and we planned to get a coffee and talk her dog out which we did. I’ll spare the entire details but it was a great time. After that we began talking pretty much daily. Mostly her intiating asking how the thing I brought up went (I went to a concert on Friday for example and she hmu asking how it was), she’ll share her baking stuff, dog photos, etc.

But anyway, about a week or so ago, maybe two, I told her about this terrible date I went on and we started talking about dating/relationships and she told me that her boyfriend and started treating her more like a roommate than a girlfriend. She went on to say she has been dating non-stop for like 6 years (with different people) and is viewing this time as a “non dating period”.

She went on to explain that she doesn’t want to break up because they share an expensive lease and it would complicate things but she is otherwise unhappy.

Needless to say, if you read this far, me pursing this is, how the kids say, fucking stupid. However, feelings are feelings and that’s just how she goes. We are making plans to get together again when she gets back from visiting family. I’m just debating if I should say something now (and of course let her know its fine just being friends) or just chill for a bit and see if things unfold on her end.