the world we live in, and people in general don’t care about men. we are pretty much robots who aren’t allowed to show emotion. we’re taught from a young age that boys don’t cry. 

No means no means no. It even means no in at least 3 different languages. No=stop. No=I’m not okay with this.

Always get consent. Always respect other people’s autonomy, regardless of whatever bullsh*t excuse media or society or your own idiocy may have ingrained in your brain. The only guarantee they are into it and it is okay is if they give consent without being under any pressure or duress.

Rape is nasty and insidious no matter who the perpetrator or victim is.

If it’s not okay for a man to say or do it to a woman, it’s not okay for a woman to do or say it to a man, and vice versa. And with any gender inserted in place of man or woman in this sentence. If it’s not acceptable behavior for one gender, it’s not acceptable behavior for any gender.

And don’t victim blame. It’s NEVER the victim’s fault. That being said, being ready to protect yourself and not getting yourself into a situation where this could easily happen is never a bad idea. But those are precautions to try to prevent things and even then it doesn’t always work. But even if you didn’t take them, if someone raped you, it’s not your fault and you aren’t a bad person.

I mean if we subbed out rape for murder or attempted murder, this wouldn’t even be a debate, right? You’re not going to look at a dead body and be like, oh you really shouldn’t have worn that, you were asking for it. Or oh you really shouldn’t have gone into his/her room, it’s your fault they murdered you.

If you’re a victim of a crime, you’re the victim. It’s not your fault. Report it or tell someone else who can report it for you or help support you through it so that they can’t do that to someone else, if at all possible. You have nothing to hide, because YOU’RE THE VICTIM! You aren’t unclean, it’s not your fault, you didn’t do anything wrong. Anyone who tells you otherwise is an assh*le and you don’t want toxic people like that in your life as you work on recovering and moving forward.

Anyway. That was a rant. But if you’ve been assaulted, I hope with all my heart that you find people who believe you and are able to get the help and support you need. I hope you are able to build an amazing life in spite of what happened to you. And I hope you get therapy so that you can make sure your brain fully healss from the trauma of what happened. I wish all good things for you. I have several friends who have been assaulted and it breaks my heart seeing the pain and suffering it causes. The lives it’s ruined.

You are still worthy of love and good things. You will always be worthy of love and good things. There is nothing wrong with you as a person, no flaw in your character, no blame that led to it happening. It’s not your fault. Just get help and support reporting it then focus on healing and moving forward. You may feel guilty, but that’s the trauma talking. You have nothing to feel guilty for. There is no excuse for what they did. If someone tells you not to report it, that person is not on your side. Let a court of law determine their punishment, don’t let them get away with it (if you can. I know that can be hard when dealing with trauma, which is why I urge you to get someone on your side who can help you report it. It’s plausible even a therapist can help you through the process, and they can’t tell other people about it without your permission, so there’s not a lot of risk getting their help.)

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me: hmm okay

something: *is pink*