tired

you did not pop into existence as a transmasc demigrayaro enbyqueer whatever. you discovered interesting-looking words to describe minor aspects of ur personality, loosely, & then turned them into your whole gimmick for clout on the internet. 

Men kill others at war. Women are killed by marriage. 

But apparently men get the shorter end of the stick.

Everybody knows the only reason men are sent to war is because they are actually privileged in their country and hence have a reason to fight for their country unlike women who are abused no matter where they are, either by their own men or men of another country. Why would women fight in a war that does not benefit them? Why would women fight a war started by incompetent men? 

👉Trans women are male. They were born male and they’ll die male. We will all decompose in the ground and centuries later archaeologists will find our skeletons and be able to tell if we were of the sex that produces sperm or ovum. Is that not the definition of a trans woman? someone born male who ‘identifies’ with being a woman? 

👉Acknowledging the reality of the sex you obviously are is not violence. It may hurt your feelings, but it is not violence. Being critical of gender and males defining womanhood does not make someone transphobic.

👉Lesbians are female homosexuals. You can’t come up with your own definitions for words and get pissed when people don’t use your definition. 

👉Homosexuals are people attracted to the same sex that they are.

👉Sexuality is about attraction to primary and secondary sex characteristics, not an elusive sparkly ‘feminine’ feeling that you display with sexist stereotypes, presentations, and roles. No one is sexually attracted to gender identity.

👉Saying women have vaginas is not the same this as saying women ARE vaginas. it’s a classification. If i say dogs have fur, am i ‘reducing’ them to their fur? No, i’m just pointing out one of their defining features.

👉Defining woman as anything other than female is sexist garbage.

👉Lesbians don’t have to date, have sex with, or be attracted to trans women. To berate and harass them for the natural preferences that come with their sexuality is misogynistic rape-apologism.

👉‘Cis’ women are not privileged over trans women. An equivalent sentence is ‘females are not privileged over males’

👉Sex is not a social construct. Social constructs exist only in the context of human culture and are variable. Sex is a biological reality manifested by gonads, reproductive organs, skeletal structure, secondary sex characteristics, chromosomes, etc. Humans are sexually dimorphic with .05% being intersex.

👉Socialization based on birth sex is real. It manifests as differential treatment throughout life based on sex. Socialization starts the second the doctor says ‘it’s a girl!’ and the mother gets showered in bows, dresses, Disney princess, toy kitchens and cleaning equipment, all in sparkles and shades of pink while the father is simultaneously disappointed he won’t get to play catch with his offspring and worried about boys victimizing and harassing his daughter, knowing firsthand how that plays out.

👉Gender is socially constructed. It is the roles assigned to males and females. It is ‘women wear dresses, aren’t good at math and science, have to shave and wear makeup, don’t do sports, are fragile and sensitive, are overly emotional and totally nurturing, should not be assertive or in positions of power, should have a goal to get married have kids and take their husbands name’

👉There is no such thing as brain sex. When trans women see an article saying trans women have a similar sized hippocampus as ‘cis’ women and they’ll say to themselves ’SEE!This means my made up gender identity is valid and genetic!’ when in reality the discussion section will mention that even for cis women it is a spectrum/distribution and that the results do not automatically imply that those differences are not due to brain plasticity, experience-dependent development, and socialization (half the time they’re not even studying causal factors). So you may be thinking, ‘well what ARE those differences present from birth?’. Experiments studying male and female differences from birth as displayed in children and infants show that the only cognitive differences are few and minuscule, such as higher visuospatial ability in males. And these articles never even mention some correlation to ‘gender identity’. Thats left for psychologists and social theorists, because there’s no way to empirically study the bullshit gender identity in your head when you can’t even come up with a definitive, operationally sound definition for ‘woman’

They don’t have to wear pins or sit weirdly or dye their hair or wear flannel

They just are gay

There is, first of all, the idea that sexuality is fluid. The issues in this, I hope, are obvious; by saying that it is fluid, one is saying that it can change. I wonder who preys upon this idea, exploiting vulnerable gay people telling them that there’s something broken with them that can be fixed?

… oh. As we can see, not only does this conversion therapy group draw on this idea, it directly uses this phrasing that is so popular.

Then, of course, there is the idea that people can (or even should) “healthily” engage in sexual activities with those to whom they are not sexually attracted. For example, we commonly see the idea that it’s normal, great even, for asexuals to have sexual activities with their partners. I have seen this justified in several ways:

It still brings physical pleasure to the asexual

It makes the partner happy, and they have an emotional bond with the partner

Both of these could be used to “support” gays and lesbians having straight sex. After all, it’s not as if not being physically attracted to wo/men means that they still can’t love them on an emotional level, right? And they’re still capable of physically enjoying sex. After all, there are plenty of gay men who sustained physical arousal enough to have kids with their female partners.

Then there is the rhetoric that it’s transphobic for lesbians or straight men not to be attracted to a trans woman, or for gay men or straight women not to be attracted to a trans man—genitalia included. No, this certainly isn’t a view every trans person or self-style progressive holds, but it’s something that unfortunately happens too frequently:

I’ve seen several posts where a lesbian will ask if it’s wrong for her not to be attracted to penis if that penis belongs to a trans woman, or ask if there’s a way that she can overcome her penis repulsion for trans women, and she will be met with long lists of advice about thinking about something else, or imaging the trans woman’s genitalia as a cis woman’s genitalia, and so on, the fact she is incapable of being attracted to penis being reduced to “genital preference”. She could completely respect trans women, not be at all transphobic, but still be labelled as such for not being attracted to penis.

The phrase genital preference itself, used in these instances, reduces an immutable part of someone‘s orientation to a preference, in the same way that a bisexual might prefer men but still be attracted to women, or I might prefer brunettes but still be attracted to blondes.

1. Partner is virgin and somehow never seen a real genitalia

2. Different sex positions so they don't see your neo genitalia

3. Having sex while heavily inebriated

4. Having sex in the dark etc.

You are actively lying to your partner to have access to their body.