A Submissive’s Journey

* I wake her up almost every morning. She gets snoozes if she asks. (She always asks) 

* When she sleeps away, I pick her panties from what she has given me as a selection the night before. When she sleeps with me, I reach into her bag and pick one. 

* Every morning she wakes elsewhere, I get devotional pics of her wearing the panties I’ve chosen for her that day.

* When she sleeps with me, I pack her morning bowl.

*When she sleeps with me, I pack her food to take to work. 

* When she gets morning wake up calls, the final call ends with me telling her, “boots on the ground little soldier”. 

* When she spends the night, we share a cigarette before we part to head to work. 

* She gets medicine reminders at 9am and 9pm every day. They are always, “Take your medicine little girl.”, to which her response is always, “Thank you Daddy.”

* Whenever we leave each other I text her emojis within minutes to remind her that though she has gone, she is still being thought of. 

* In eating food three times daily, she reports her food intake with me throughout the day. 

* Each day she hits all the beats in her structure, she earns a sticker at the end of the day. 

When I sleep with Daddy and wake him up from a nightmare, he holds me close and pets my hair.

When I need to get clean he helps dry me off, brushes my hair, puts my lotion on me.

*Every morning we have a wake up routine that includes a kiss, many snoozes, and pretty consistently, 2 orgasms with the Hitachi. 

* When she sleeps away, I pick her panties from what she has given me as a selection the night before.

*When she sleeps with me, I reach into her panty drawer and pick one.

*Every morning she wakes elsewhere, I get devotional pics of her wearing the panties I’ve chosen for her that day.

*When she stays with me overnight, I pack her morning bowl.

*When she stays with me overnight, I pack her food to take to work.

*When she stays with me overnight , I drive her to work.

*When she stays with me overnight, I brush her hair the next morning.

*If she showers or baths while at my place, I remove her collar and put it back on when she is clean.

*If she wants to rest wearing the collar, I remove it for her and put it back on when she is ready to wear it again. 

*She gets medicine and food reminders several times a day. They are always, “Take your medicine little girl.”, or, “Time to consume food little girl.”, to which her response is always, “Thank you Daddy.”

*Whenever we leave each other I text her emojis within minutes to remind her that though she has gone, she is still being thought of.

*In eating food three times daily, she reports her food intake with me throughout the day.

*Every weekend I buy her a package of her favorite cookies to eat, for when she returns from her weekend adventures.

Some structure has remained exactly the same. Some structure has added. Some structure (like the cigarettes of old) has fallen away. Structure will morph and change as your relationship does.

* On work days, I turn up the lights and begin to rouse her at 6:45am.

* I head back in at 7am, open the shades, wake her up, and remove her collar for her shower. I pick her panties for the day.

* She reports to me with her collar so I can put it back on.

* I turn on the shower and pull down her towel for her.

* I pack her lunch box

* 15 minutes before she leaves, I warm her car and scrape the windows/remove the snow

* Checkins for food and medicine during the day

* When she gets home I greet her with, “Hello Beautiful!”

* She cooks for me three days a week, often in very scant clothing

* She asks me if there are things I’d like her to wear every evening

* We make sure each other takes medicine at 9pm

Some structure has remained exactly the same. Some structure has added. Some structure (like “when she stays with me overnight”) has fallen away. Structure will morph and change as your relationship does.

Here are three types of rules for Caregivers who are struggling to develop lists for their new little:

1. Rules That Establish Dominance:

These are the fun rules, and the ones that reinforce who is boss. Asking for permission to cum and letting Daddy pick out your panties each day are good examples.

2. Rules That Guide Health:

These help with physical and mental health. Eating breakfast each day, a required walk, journal writing, and required self play (good for burning calories and raising endorphins) are good examples.

3. Rules That Help With Goals:

These help make her that very best version of herself that she wants to be. Keeping her room tidy, working toward healthy eating habits, putting away money in the bank each week, and required time for studying are good examples.

**Rules may overlap into multiple areas. Required self play can help with mental health, weight loss, stress relief, sleeping habits, as well as establishing dominance. Looking at other’s rules can help you come up with your own, but by and large, rules should be tailored to serve specific littles and their unique needs. Happy rule making. 

Any wannabe Dominant, who enters your blogspace, barks orders at you, and thinks you are obligated to perform their demands because they know you are a submissive, either does not understand the power dynamics within BDSM, or hopes that YOU do not have a good understanding of them. 

As a submissive, your submission is something that must be given to someone before they obtain any control over you. Until the time you submit to a Dominant of your choosing, nobody should expect that you have any obligation to fulfill their demands, and if they do, you should tell them that they lack understanding of how D/s dynamics work. 

Before submission is offered, all the power in a D/s dynamic belongs to the submissive. It is the Dominant’s task to do what is necessary to earn a submissive’s affection and trust to a degree necessary for the submissive to offer their submission to the Dominant, at which time all the power in the relationship shifts from the submissive, to the Dominant.  After submission has been earned by the Dominant, they may now make whatever demands on their submissive that they wish, and expect them to be performed. (excepting hard limits or instances where the submissive uses their safe word) 

While holding the power is not intrinsically attractive to a submissive personality within the D/s dynamics, it is nevertheless important for them to wield this power with consistency before they find a Dominant worth submitting to. Standing up to those who don’t respect your submission will help to divide the wheat from the chaff among D types, and help you to attain a Dominant that is more knowledgeable about how BDSM works, and therefore, more likely to give you a fulfilling relationship, whether it is within a single scene, or a lifelong relationship.

1. Rules give structure which is very comforting to a submissive mind. To be able to see what is expected, and what is forbidden, allows a little girl to navigate the relationship easily, and with less stress. 

2. Rules remind a submissive who is in charge. Whether she is obeying them, or breaking them, Daddy put them there, and she is reminded that every time she navigates around them, or takes one off the shelf and breaks it. 

3. Rules are useful tools to improve your submissive’s life, and make her a better person. Don’t like that she keeps a messy room? Make a rule that changes that. Don’t like that she eats sweets before bed, and that it makes it hard for her to fall asleep? It must be rule time. Rules help Dominants take care of their littles, because we can’t expect them to take care of themselves all the time.