THE BORDERLINE LIFE

Hey friends! It’s been like a long ass time since I’ve posted here. MAINLY because I found out that I in fact do not have BPD. I was wrongly diagnosed when I was 18 and went to treatment for it for no reason at all. Just because a shitty therapist got me all wrong. I feel terrible. Instead of having BPD I was diagnosed within the last year with C-PTSD. It’s not an official diagnosis as it is not recognized by the DSM. I’m sorry to everyone who follows this blog. I never knew I didn’t have BPD. In fact, my whole identity was built around BPD itself. When it was taken away, I had some kind of break down. So, long story short, I’ll be shutting this blog down. I feel like a fraud. I had no idea. I’m sorry to everyone. I love you guys. Thanks for being there for me, friends. 

Goodbye,

Jenny

PS: I have my main blog that is just random shit and it’s scoobyandjenny

Hey there! So, what I have learned in my years of mental non-healthy-ness is that there is no one normal. Everyone has something going on with them. Now, my advice is that you do a SLOW reveal of yourself. This isn’t lying its just being picky about what you choose to share about yourself. Stick to the facts when you’re introducing yourself. I’m Jenny, I’m in school to be a vet tech and I have a dog named Scooby. Right there I can talk about my school or my dog and have a really easy conversation. After that, always ask about the other person. Don’t interrogate them, but you can causally ask questions. Have some pre-made questions in your mind. (You can look them up online) That seems to help some people. Meeting friends outside of our bubble is scary and can be really frustrating. I am in a fairly new circle of friends and I’ve found it easier to, like I said, reveal a little bit over time. I’ve noticed that with each person I reveal a TINY bit to, they tend to reciprocate and tell me a little bit about them too. It makes your friendship stronger as well. 

Also, I know its hard not to throw your whole life story at people (trust me I know first hand) but its a better relationship if you go slowly. There are some things we reserve for just our therapists if you have one. Some people may disagree and say that friends can know everything, but I disagree. I think there are some things you just shouldn’t put on people outside of therapy. 

I really hope this helps and I’m sorry this is so long. I just wanted to share my personal experience on how to make “normal” friends. 

Have a great day!