I feel like fandom in general pretty desperately needs to reconcile the fact that characters can be both interesting characters and terrible fathers without one factor taking away from the other. And this does not just apply to biological or adopted fathers!
Like, that man being dad-coded is already debatable, but if he is dad-coded, it's absentee-or-outright-deranged-father-coded. And that's fine. Not every character needs to be a dad and the fact that fandom pigeonholes so many sucky or pathetic men (/lovingly) into one dad-shaped hole is frustrating.
















