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Death Is Nothing At All
Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away to the next room. I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, That, we still are.
Call me by my old familiar name. Speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effect. Without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same that it ever was. There is absolute unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you. For an interval. Somewhere. Very near. Just around the corner.
All is well.
- Henry Scott Holland
Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)
How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions
Emotional regulation skills
Conflict resolution skills
Creating and enforcing boundaries
Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills
Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for
Axes of self-care/wellbeing
Self-care self-evaluation (find out where youâre starting)
How to make a self-care checklist
How to start a self-care habit
Reparenting resources
Crash Course Psychology
KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)
Emotional education activities for children and teens
Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)
I'm reblogging to actually use this
Reblogging so I can read all of this; I think I do need to do better with my emotional maturity so this will come in handy.
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âMost couples enter therapy 8 years too late.â I donât know if this is true or if itâs an exaggeration, but itâs conventional wisdom Iâve he
i saw someone say nobody needs to know what a .txt file is anymore. what the fuck is the world coming to
unironically i think we need to bring back computer labs because APPARENTLY some people WERENT taught basic computer literacy and internet safety in school
things about computers/the internet i think kids should be formally taught in schools because theyre important to know and the amount of soon to be grown adults i know who know NOTHING about any of these is quite frankly almost all of them (and resources to learn if you dont know these things, because its never to late to get better with computers)
how to troubleshoot by yourself when you have a technical problem
what common file types are
some very basics on how to use ""developer tools"" on your computer (because i cant think of a better way to refer to them) like task manager and command prompt (and their mac equivalents, terminal and activity monitor ofc)
how to read and understand a privacy policy and what your personal data is, as well as what it being collected actually means and steps you can take to keep it private
how to understand terms of service (hey. if you have trouble with reading legalese and worry about being able to understand these policies anyways, here's a site that gives basic summaries of privacy policies and ToS)
what a cookie actually is
internet privacy and your digital footprint!! seriously i dont know why we stopped teaching people that they shouldnt be putting their entire real identity online in a world where your online actions can ruin you irl
basic safety measures like antivirus software (and why you should use it or if the built in one on windows or mac is enough for you) and backing up your computer (also a mac guide)
common keyboard shortcuts (and on mac)
as an additional note: things i think everyone should know on computers and the internet but schools may bit hesitant to teach about for whatever moral/legal standards schools pretend to operate on
vpns and adblockers! (btw for most of these where you can pay for things im purposefully not recommending any specific software but seriously just use ublock origin for an adblocker)
how to not get a virus while pirating something
what a temporary email is and when to use one
red flags that you shouldn't trust a website (and how to quickly check the security of a site)
what javascript on a website does and how to disable it to get around paywalls
ok one last addition! if you want to take it one level higher, i think learning the very basics of at least one programming language is good for people. it makes computers less scary and it makes you feel very cool, and a lot of people get discouraged about it because it seems overly complicated and hard to learn outside a formal classroom setting, so heres some resources for learning the very basics of python (because i consider it the easiest language to learn and knowing one language will make it easier to learn others)
an online compiler so you dont need to download anything or worry about running code directly on your computer if that makes you nervous
a basic video guide to introduce you to python and walk you through beginner steps
a guide to some syntax and commands you should know (this was literally my lifeline in my first CS class)
some performance tasks to give you things to code to practice and assess yourself
Since my blog (and my life) is rapidly becoming more and more focused on working with kids, I wanted to share a tidbit from my notes app that has been my guiding star recently.
- [ ] How does this rule relate to our core values? (Kindness, respect, chivalry, bravery.)
- [ ] Is this rule necessary? (Is it either notably improving performance/productivity, or keeping someone safe?)
- [ ] Is this rule enforced equitably? (To bigs and littles, to boys and girls, etc. Boundaries and consequences should be the same for everyone. How is this rule applied to adults?)
- [ ] Is this rule easy-to-follow? (Can we reduce temptations and instances for rule-breaking to create an environment where respecting rules is easier?)
- [ ] Is this rule clear? (Do kids understand why this rule exists and how it either keeps people safe or increases productivity? Do they understand the boundaries and consequences related to this rule?)
- [ ] Does this rule have natural consequences? (What happens when the rule is broken? How is this discipline a natural consequence of rule-breaking rather than an arbitrary punishment?)
Need anniversary date ideas? From small and cute to big time and creative, use this list of 7 anniversary date ideas to get you started.
Any advice for someone pregnant with their first on how to raise a small human? (Or just surviving) I love love love hearing your stories about your children and can't wait to experience my own kids
Thatâs so kind of you, thank you!
I think with parenting, a lot of advice youâre given is going to come as a reflection of other peopleâs experiences, and is NOT necessarily going to happen to you.
pre-childbirth classes like NCT in the UK are useful and help build a network.
Donât borrow trouble from people sharing trauma. Itâs unfortunately quite common for, for example, older mothers to offer unsolicited labour-battle stories to the newly pregnant. Donât be distressed by horror stories about pregnancy, labour, babies, etc.
Where your mental and physical resources allow, anticipate labour like a marathon. Not as something that youâre the helpless victim of, but as a great big physical challenge with a clear winner and a decently interesting prize.
You can read books - I liked What To Expect, First-Time Parent, and books on attachment parenting and gentle parenting. If you have a partner, definitely insist that they read too. Youâll have to synthesize a lot of things together and discard what wonât work.
Thereâs a lot of politics in parenting, all shaded and nuanced by where you live and who you are. Picking what âkindâ of parent you plan to be is a whole thing! In general, evidence is on the side of practices like building attachment, breastfeeding, gentle parenting, etc - but if you delve too deeply into these books or circles, youâll perceive that people go off their rockers. You can also pick up weird pressures to do things prescriptively. I advise you to read lots and pick and choose.
Like âthe womanly art of breastfeedingâ is perhaps the best manual for supporting breastfeeding, with great bibliographies and tons of information! It makes it feel like a special journey. But if you turn out to hate breastfeeding, youâll probably find it sanctimonious and want to throw it at the wall.
As another example, âThe wonder weeksâ is a kind of semi-fake baby astrology that says quite authoritative things like âat the age of 32 days, babies will be especially grumpy and hungry because they are assimilating the concept of Universal Ethics. Donât worry! Itâs normal!â And then you turn the page and read: âAt the age of 33 days, babies will be petulant yet reserved, as they grapple emotionally with the twin concepts of head control and the transience of emotions.â And yet it can be tremendously comforting, in the sea of new parenthood, to be informed that your baby is not a wretched little weasel, they are simply BEHAVING like one, because they are Levelling Up. Today they are sleeping badly because they are Perceiving Colours and having a Wonder Week.
You see what I mean? Something reassuring to one person is always going to be insufferable to someone else. You just have to keep taking bits and pieces as you build your own parenting policies.
But it IS useful to start thinking about your policies.
Before having kids I read a book called âFrench children donât throw food,â which on later reflection wasnât that good of a book, but at the time and space I read it in, I realised I wanted my kids to be nice company in restaurants. It was a sudden goal/value I discovered in myself. I also became attached to the idea the author had about children being able to independently make a cake on their own. This is something my French friends have told me is utterly alien to them, and they donât know what the author was thinking of. but I loved the concept that a child should be able to make a cake by themselves. And so I do follow some of the practices in that book even though it wasnât good. You will find this everywhere.
All parenting advice is stupid, but some is useful.
Oddly enough, today the 5 and 8 year old made their first completely unsupervised thing in the kitchen. They made a very good banana bread by themselves. What a strange coincidence. I randomly decided that it was going to be important to me that my kids should develop the ability to make a cake by themselves, and today they did it.
In parenting as in life, I often find it more useful to look ahead to where we are going, or want to go, than to freak out about where we are. On the most basic level, this is about not letting spilled milk get in the way of the orderly bedtime you need to impose. But it zooms out too.
Best of luck and feel free to ask anything more specific.

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How do you do so much with three children? I have one (admittedly very, very young) child and I feel like I'm caring for him actively at all times and scrambling to do anything else. What is your secret??
There are a few!
Some are my deepest secrets, so please be kind, okay?
The thing is, even if you were lucky and your parents taught you how to clean, they probably didn't teach you how to clean the stuff you clean stuff with, like brushes, mops, sponges, rags, and so on. Or how to clean your cleaning appliances, like a dish washer, clothes washing machine, and clothes dryer and its ducts (if you have a ducted dryer), or a carpet cleaner, vacuum, Or how to clean up clean messes, like spilled bleach or detergent.
My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.
All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.
I'm going to reblog this post with resources for learning how to clean things and how to clean cleaning things (I'm not at my desk at the moment). If you have any favorites, please feel free to add them in too!
I like this video because it does a great job of introducing the basic foundations of house cleaning (and because he doesn't use bleach).
Download this easy DIY clothing repair guide (only 10 pages) from Uni of Kentucky
link to PDF
Excellent resource if you're new to sewing and want to start doing some clothing repair!
Professional seamstress here, who has taught intro to sewing many times, saying: this guide is excellent!
i taught a baking class for 12 year olds today and we made your garden variety chocolate chip cookies, but iâm a big believer in Questioning Everything and the who/what/where/why/when/how behind things, so the first part of the class was purposely letting the kids do things the wrong way, to show and explain why we do things the way we do.
âwhy do we bake cookies at 180 for 9 minutes when we could do 400 for 2 minutes?â -enter the godawful lump of coal with a still gross wet and uncooked inside
âwhy do we have to scoop out little cookies instead of doing the whole tray?â -ok well that one you can technically do if the spread is even. you just end up with one giant, structurally unsound cookie. âPLEASE CAN WE MAKE GIANT COOKIESâ (we did make 1 giant tray cookie)
we talked a lot about why consistency is important, but i donât think it really hammered home until i said âokay everyone gets ONE cookie, thatâs fair, right?â and then handed out cookies of hugely varying sizes. + baked one fat lump of a cookie that still wasnât done at the 9 minutes, vs the regular one i put in that came out charred by the time the first was actually done.
we also made a row of cookies where each one had one single differing ingredient omitted, like a cookie with no flour, or a cookie with no butter, and laid them all out on a single tray to bake together to see how each ingredient affects the outcome.
two of the little girls added cocoa to their cookie doughs until it matched the colour of each others skin to make best friend cookies, and that almost made me tear up a bit đĽş
got briefly distracted (âŚfor over half an hourâŚ) talking about how eggs form when someone cracked an egg and it had 2 yolks
expertly tolerated being asked how old i am (just turned 31 the other day) which was immediately followed by asking if i watched the moon landing live on tv
was so focused on keeping track of all the kids that in the end i forgot to make a cookie for myself, but itâs ok because one of the girls gave me this
tinyâŚâŚâŚ.
the class went well and they asked if i wanted to do another one in a couple weeks and i said yeah, and theyâre taking uh⌠fuck, whatâs the word for inventory when itâs people?? attendance?? whatever, theyâre trying to see whoâs interested to get a feel of if itâd be 1 three hour class again or if thereâs too many kids so weâd do a couple classes. anyways, i love the emails from Concerned Parents.
âwill there be knives involved?â we are baking cookies.
âwhat temperatures does the oven get to/will it be hot enough to burn?â we are baking cookies.
âwill there be [insert ingredient used in cookies]?â we are baking cookies.
âare you using fahrenheit or celsius?â ??????? d-does it matter?? itâs going to get Hot. (also celsius; this is ontario)
âare the ovens childproof?â no?? iâm assuming youâre asking if iâm going to let your kids reach into the ovens while iâm staring out a window in another room. i will not be allowing your children to use the ovens. they will not be left unattended.Â
âwhy is the library baking class taking place at the high school?â the library does not have 10 ovens. the library does not even have 1 oven. the high school has many ovens.
âwhat if i donât want my child to have cookies? can you let her make muffins instead?â this is a baking class for cookies. we are baking cookies.
âcookies arenât healthy. why donât you make [insert whatever]â do you know how many cookies i can make with a $40 budget and a trip to the bulk store? we are making cookies.
âwho needs a class to bake a cookie, why not teach something more valuable?â ITâS NOT JUST ABOUT THE COOKIES, KAREN, ITâS ABOUT FAMILIARIZING CHILDREN WITH THE ART AND SCIENCE OF BAKING/COOKING/FOOD, ABOUT TRYING NEW THINGS, MAKING MISTAKES AND REALIZING THAT THE MISTAKES ARE NOT ONLY OKAY TO MAKE BUT VALUABLE IN AND OF THEMSELVES, FAMILIARIZING THEM WITH INDEPENDENCE, THE UNDERSTANDING OF HOW THINGS CAN COME TOGETHER TO FORM A NEW AND BETTER WHOLE, ALL WHILE HAVING TRYING TO INJECT A MODICUM OF JOY INTO THEIR LITTLE LIVES. SORRY THAT THERE ARE CONCEPTS AT PLAY YOU CANâT SEEN TO UNDERSTAND HERE. MAYBE YOU SHOULD COME JOIN AND IâLL LET YOU MAKE A FUCKING COOKIE.
INDEX: Sewing, mending, and crafts
General information:
Fabric types
Basic hand sewing stitches
Hand sewing needles
Knitting 101
Embroidery 101
Visible mending
Crafting on the cheap
How to fix sewing machine issues
Yarn types
Clothing fasteners
Circular knitting
So you want to buy a sewing machine? (by Runeberry)
Sewing vocabulary
Introduction to bead embroidery
Embroidery stitches database (by Chanceyknits)
Yarn bowl alternatives
Tutorials:
How to sew buttons
Disability aid tutorials
How to DIY custom patches
Make some pocket extenders for your pants (by Quixiify)
How to darn holes in woven fabrics (by Delicatefury)
How to mend holes in the thigh area of jeans
How to make buttonholes (machine+hand)
How to make pockets
How to use a seam ripper
Three knitting bind-offs
How to sew a zipper
Bias tape 101
How to thread a needle
Interchangeable circular knitting needles
Patching a hole (by Bronzeagecrafts)
Knitted picot edging on button band
Making paper (by Ofmushroomsandmoss)
How to use dye plants (by Toadstoolgardens)
Game sprites and pixel-based crafts
Hand-sewing: how to start and how to finish
Tailoring masculine clothes with Stylish D
Weaving in ends to finish a knitting project
How to mend torn belt loops
How to knit buttonholes
How to bind a neckline with bias tape
How to hem your jeans
How to sew a rolled hem
Two ways to make your shirt bigger
Tailoring terms explained
How to upsize a sweatshirt with front and back panels
How to make bottlecap pins (by Coveredinredpaint)
18th century buttonholes (by Vinceaddams)
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The only downside to talking to small children like theyâre normal people and treating them like normal people (as per my mom) is that as they develop into bigger children they are viscerally aware of every single moment in which they are pandered to like stupid little accessories (as per my dad, my teacher, the special ed aide, every adult in my middle school) and you end up getting a lot of phone calls from people reporting your kid for (checks notes) âundermining authorityâ, âdisrupting the classroom environmentâ, âdisobeying elder peersâ, and âunionizing the grade eleven gym class with intent to incite a mutinyâ (as per me) and you end up with a Grown Adult who will absolutely encourage and enable other peopleâs children to fuck the sustem
Anyhow the most empowering shit you can say to a kid in my experience has to be
âWow that adult was being a jerkâ
âThat sounds really frustratingâ
âGood job handling that, I would have lost my mindâ
âItâs cool, I donât expect you to remember meâ
âYou donât have to hug me if you donât want toâ
âYeah sometimes (authority figure you canât avoid) doesnât know what theyâre talking about, itâs not your fault, just do your bestâ
âI donât totally understand what you mean but I get that youâre upset, is there anything I can do?â
âWanna go yell and break stuff with me?â
âYou donât need to be friends with that kid as long as you can still be politeâ
âIf an adult tells you to do something that will get you hurt, you donât have to listen.â
âMy number one goal is to keep you safe, but I donât know everything and sometimes Iâm wrong, so let me know if I make a mistake.â
âMan. Today sucked.â
âYeah I also kinda wanna cry right nowâ
âWhoops, yeah, my badâ
âI donât know the answer to that but we can probably figure it outâ
cruelty is so easy. youre not special for choosing it
"The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pedants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist; a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain."
-Ursula K. LeGuin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
"Evil is boring. Right? I kinda believe in the banality and mundaneness of evil. Evil is just selfish impulses, which at the end of the day are really easy to understand. Itâs easy to understand why people do bad things. Itâs like âyeah, ok, youâre selfish and scared and cruel, I get itâ. Being good is complex and beautiful and hard." - Brennan Lee Mulligan
"How monotonously alike all the great tyrants and conquerors have been: how gloriously different are the saints." --C.S. Lewis
"Now being righteous â that requires imagination! But sin? It's a dull business." â Gerald Morris, The Legend of the King