x.avi (he/they)

I have dreams of you asking me better questions. Your desire to know more makes the love feel fuller. Then I open my eyes and you’re never as curious as I want

One piece of advice I have if you're going through something terrible is to just give yourself permission to be weird for a while. You're gonna be irritable. You're gonna have weird dreams. You're gonna be a little harder to talk to. You aren't going to be your usual self because there's nothing usual about what's happened to you. The worst thing you can do is add shame to the equation. If you feel surprisingly okay some days, try to enjoy it without guilt. If you feel devastated some days, let yourself feel it. Cry to sad music and say yes to the anger. You might find that your brain isn't ready to process it yet, and you might find that often, you can't feel anything at all. This isn't a moral failing and it doesn't mean you don't care about what happened. This is your brain telling you that it doesn't feel safe to deal with it yet. You might be more distant than usual, or you might be clingier. You might find it hard to talk about it, or you might be the ultimate yapper. All of this is fine and part of the process. Try to be good to people, try to let people help you, but accept that you're gonna be a little "off" for a while.

I truly truly believe that the most important thing you can do in fandom is be a cheerleader. comment on fics. reblog art and rave in the tags. support the people making the things you want to see. this is how you keep a fandom alive. this is how you get more of what you want. you never know: that person could have decided to make more just because you liked it.

"i wonder if people know i like [thing]" <- guy who reblogs posts about [thing] 100 times a day

As an adult you must cultivate the skill of “Gross! Oh, well. Not my business.”