Belly Positive

Feeders with praise kinks.

There are a ton of different things I see said that make me roll my eyes, but here are a few that have stuck with me over the years:

“You should eat so much that you gain five pounds tonight”

Friend. That’s not how bodies work. The amount of weight you can actually gain in one day is different for everyone, but it’s pretty safe to use the rule of thumb: 1lb per day maximum. Weight gain is caused by consistent calorie surpluses, not so much by occasional overindulgence. If you want someone to grow, encourage them every day, not just once in a while when you’re horny.

This one isn’t a specific quote, but eating goals that are unclear or unrealistic. “Mmm, keep eating. Yup. Keep going.” Okay. To what end? “You’re going to eat three extra large pizzas” no, I’m not. “How about 5,000 calories for a light snack?” You’re out of your fucking mind. It sends such a clear message that you have no clue what you’re doing when you interact with feedees like this.

“I want you to eat so much that your belly button goes from an innie to an outie”

Nope. Not even close to a thing that happens. If it does, you probably have a hernia. Or you have some other condition that has caused fluid buildup.

“Wow, you’re almost 300lbs? You’re gonna need a scooter once you get there”

What? I’m less than 25lbs away from 300 and I walked MILES in downtown, hilly Seattle last weekend. There are literally 500lb gainers who are walking (waddling) around with relatively few troubles. Please understand that when a gain happens gradually, mobility is far less impacted than in extremely quick gains. Also, I’m six feet tall. I can seriously pass for an average build in public if I want to. Please work on understanding how weight works on people.

It can be hard, as a feeder, to know what to say to encourage a feedee, especially remotely. A great place to start though? Asking “what are you craving?” Get them to list a couple things, maybe 2 savory 1 sweet, and provide those things. Or give them permission to have those things, if you’re not directly providing. It’s always easier to eat something you’re hankering for.

I’ve done a 10,000 calorie stuffing. Once. It was hot, but also fucked me up for an entire week, digestively. The foods you have to pick to get that many calories consumable in a sitting (or even a day!) are super rich, and not particularly tasty all together. For me, it’s the being able to have all the delicious things that makes this fun. It’s not a reverse diet, it’s the opposite of a diet. Eating for pleasure, without thinking or counting fucking calories. Even if the 10k stuffing was hot once, if I was trying to hit a number every day to make another number go up, that’s just dieting in reverse. I fucking hate dieting. Why would I want to do the same actions as that. It’s a prison.

Now I will say, if a feeder provided whatever I craved without making mention of calories ever, but did keep track of everything and tally it up for me, to drop into dirty talk after? THAT would be hot. Like “you know how much damage you did just following your greedy little whims? 5,000 calories in a single day. Not even really stuffing, were you? Just being insatiable and pampered and getting plumper by the day. You know some of that’s gonna stick. I like it when it sticks 😈😈😈”

It’s interesting to me hearing some feedees who really are into gain more than stuffing talk about this, because the perspective is different. Calories in a quick and efficient way makes sense for the goal, but they have the same struggles keeping lots of cream down. I still see feeders be super weird about this too, which is baffling.

Sometimes “numbers” feeders remind me of baseball stat nerds, and I cannot pretend to mean that as a compliment.

I think there is a subset of feeders for whom this isn’t about play, at all. They have a fantasy they want acted out, they want someone to do it for them, and if that person is a feedee but has *gasp* their own, unique fantasy that doesn’t involve heavy cream or donuts off their dick or whatever, they’ll call that person a fake. I almost feel sorry for them, cause I’ve got unrealistic fantasies too, cartoon shit I love imagining but could never play out on a real body, my own or a partners. Bodies don’t actually behave like that. But I also get to experience real kink with amazing partners. I get to play in their fantasy lands. In person is so much more intense that the cartoon isn’t necessary, because I’m feeling them and feeding them and hearing their moans and watching them blossom and bloat and experience freedom and deep, deep pleasure. And vice versa, depending on my role.

I’ve tried explaining this to the more repressed, (and therefore self-centered) feeders I’ve known, and they can’t wrap their heads around it. Unfortunately this attitude is so repellant it’s hard to believe they’ll ever get the chance to learn about how different of an experience they could be having.

…but this is all to be expected.

You meet up with your mutual gaining situationship for the first time in over a year, and she’s clearly pretty impressed with how far you’ve let yourself go since last time she saw you. She tells you how different it feels to hug you now, describing the way your body fits against hers and how you squish together as “the most perfect feeling I’ve ever felt.” You can’t help but agree. 

“The effects of everything you’ve done to yourself just hanging off of you and squeezable and soft and you’re just so. Fucking. GREEDY. You can’t help indulging. I know. It’s your weakness.”

She’s gained a lot too. You can’t take your eyes off her spilling over her bra, and she notices you noticing. 

“I need to size up, I’m coming over the top pretty heavily. This is my biggest bra, it’s a ****. That’s a US size. I don’t remember the translation but I’m sure you know it. You know it in every countries sizing cause you’re a fucking pervert.”

She knows you too well.

“And that’s the best part of gaining for me,” She continues “knowing that when you see big fat tiddies like this, it makes you horny, and when you get horny, I know you get hungry. That’s how you end up so fucking fat. It’s really just a sign of your virility.”

She really, really knows you too well.

She says that she got you pastries from “the good bakery”, and begins hand feeding one to you.

“I just want you to have something to think about, every time you’re thinking about slowing down, you know? I think it would be way hotter if instead of slowing down you thought about how you want me to make my tits even bigger and how much I’m gonna have to eat to make that happen and how you really just…have to match that for me, its the right thing to do.”

“I thought the hottest thing I was ever gonna feel was the way your body squishes into mine, and mine just envelops yours too. But, I think that you licking my fingers clean after just devouring a pastry that’s hand fed to you? Oh fuck, that takes the cake. And I mean, it's no surprise that you’re the one who takes the cake, is it?”

well, I read it recently and have put up an overview of its content on feedism.neocities.org!

whilst it's titled Feederism, it's actually incredibly positive on feedism as a fetish/kink! the authors spend a lot of time dismantling misconceptions about feedist practices and community, and the feederism vs feedism difference comes up a few times.

on the website I've put excerpts on:

participants definitions of feedism

feederism vs feedism

academic positivity towards feedism

feedism as sexuality/identity

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I have had such a rapid gain over the past couple of years. Outfit have become tighter, stretch marks have become angrier and my body just keeps expanding. 

In this video I try on 4 different old outfits while recreating 5 different videos from the beginning of my gaining journey (200lbs). The difference of 50lbs in the before and after videos is crazy, my belly is hanging lower, my tits are spilling out of my tops, my thighs are huge and my stretch marks now cover my whole belly 🤭

Nothing hotter then watching myself blow up, maybe you should come watch me too ☺️

I show the before videos on screen alongside the after videos so you can see there comparison in real time 🫶