Not understanding body comp is so freaking frustrating in this community. My starting weight when I began making content and documenting my gain was 220 lbs, and I didn’t look fat at all. Slim thick, but not fat. I had no belly unless I stuffed it. The smallest I ever managed to starve myself down to was 165 lbs, and at that weight I was a size 7. I’m not that tall, 5’8”, I just historically have had a lot of muscle (still do, tbh) which is heavy.
It can be hard, as a feeder, to know what to say to encourage a feedee, especially remotely. A great place to start though? Asking “what are you craving?” Get them to list a couple things, maybe 2 savory 1 sweet, and provide those things. Or give them permission to have those things, if you’re not directly providing. It’s always easier to eat something you’re hankering for.
I’ve done a 10,000 calorie stuffing. Once. It was hot, but also fucked me up for an entire week, digestively. The foods you have to pick to get that many calories consumable in a sitting (or even a day!) are super rich, and not particularly tasty all together. For me, it’s the being able to have all the delicious things that makes this fun. It’s not a reverse diet, it’s the opposite of a diet. Eating for pleasure, without thinking or counting fucking calories. Even if the 10k stuffing was hot once, if I was trying to hit a number every day to make another number go up, that’s just dieting in reverse. I fucking hate dieting. Why would I want to do the same actions as that. It’s a prison.
Now I will say, if a feeder provided whatever I craved without making mention of calories ever, but did keep track of everything and tally it up for me, to drop into dirty talk after? THAT would be hot. Like “you know how much damage you did just following your greedy little whims? 5,000 calories in a single day. Not even really stuffing, were you? Just being insatiable and pampered and getting plumper by the day. You know some of that’s gonna stick. I like it when it sticks 😈😈😈”
It’s interesting to me hearing some feedees who really are into gain more than stuffing talk about this, because the perspective is different. Calories in a quick and efficient way makes sense for the goal, but they have the same struggles keeping lots of cream down. I still see feeders be super weird about this too, which is baffling.
Sometimes “numbers” feeders remind me of baseball stat nerds, and I cannot pretend to mean that as a compliment.
I think there is a subset of feeders for whom this isn’t about play, at all. They have a fantasy they want acted out, they want someone to do it for them, and if that person is a feedee but has *gasp* their own, unique fantasy that doesn’t involve heavy cream or donuts off their dick or whatever, they’ll call that person a fake. I almost feel sorry for them, cause I’ve got unrealistic fantasies too, cartoon shit I love imagining but could never play out on a real body, my own or a partners. Bodies don’t actually behave like that. But I also get to experience real kink with amazing partners. I get to play in their fantasy lands. In person is so much more intense that the cartoon isn’t necessary, because I’m feeling them and feeding them and hearing their moans and watching them blossom and bloat and experience freedom and deep, deep pleasure. And vice versa, depending on my role.
I’ve tried explaining this to the more repressed, (and therefore self-centered) feeders I’ve known, and they can’t wrap their heads around it. Unfortunately this attitude is so repellant it’s hard to believe they’ll ever get the chance to learn about how different of an experience they could be having.
Uncurious, cowardly, and self centered are not qualities to hang your hat on, as a lover of any kind.
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