several people in a trenchcoat

Sometimes our memories aren’t nice, huh? It feels scary and sad, doesn’t it baby? It’s okay. Let’s remember/do a few things.

Take a few deep breaths if you can. In through your nose, filling your chest and tummy like a balloon. Then slowly let it out. Do that a couple times.

Get or do something that makes you feel safe. Get a blanket or a stuffie if you need. Rest against a corner if that makes you feel safe. Rocking yourself with your deep breaths may help some. Do whatever you need to do to safely soothe yourself.

Have some water. Sip at it slowly, when our brains get scary sometimes it makes us feel icky. Water will help, just take it gently.

More deep breaths and water until you feel better. It’s okay if it takes a while to calm down. That’s normal. You are safe.

If you are hurt, take care of yourself the best you can. (Yes, you deserve to be taken care of. You have permission to love yourself.)

After you are taken care of, you might be very tired. Big emotions mean big energy loss. Get yourself into bed and snuggled up. If you can’t sleep, at least rest and lay down. Try to close your eyes.

You are loved. You are wanted. And you are more than the scary things that happened to you. Just keep breathing <3

the future is plural because traumatized and neurodivergent children deserve to grow up into adults and live happy and fulfilling lives without being discriminated against for their plurality.

the future is plural because plural people make up at least 1% of the population, and that's a conservative estimate. plural people are everywhere and our contributions deserve to be acknowledged.

the future is plural because plural people deserve to be able to find others like them and build communities without being under threat.

the future is plural because a world made by, run by, and functioning only for singlets is a world where none of us are safe or free.

the future is plural because social acceptance of plurality requires real, structural change; and if that change happens, we will see lower rates of violence, bigotry, and mental health crises - or at the least have more people fighting for vulnerable people.

the future is plural because plural people exist and deserve a chance to thrive & be cared for because of who we are, not in spite of it.

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littles [stuffies + animals for faceless littles ^_^]

The emotional amnesia.

Your entire life feels like something that you watched on TV, rather than something that you actually lived through.

You know that some of the most horrific things imaginable have happened to you, and you feel nothing about it. Sure, the memories disgust you on principle, but you don’t feel anything.

It makes you question if anything that you remember is real. If that actually happened, shouldn’t it feel significant? Shouldn’t you be sad, angry, hurt, something?

We're all parts of a person that could be. Hell, maybe even a person that should have been.

But they are not a part of me.

I'm as much of an alter as they are.

I have parts in me, as in, I have moods and tastes and goals. Those part are not alters.

Alters are their own separate entity, although we are all parts of a dissociated potential whole.

I am an alter. They can't be parts of me if im also a piece of the puzzle.

you, as in the headmate sitting in co-con.

you, as in the alter returning from dormancy after a long time.

you, as in your whole collective.

you, as in the alter who's not sure who they are.

you, as in the new system member who's disoriented.

you, as in the person you've become.

you, as in the person who you used to be.

you, as in the body you're in.

you, as in the fragment with no identity.

you, as in the fictive who feels unseen.

you, as in the person whose pain doesn't get acknowledged.

you, as in the trauma holder who's really scared right now.

you, as in the syskid who gets talked over.

you, as in whoever or whatever you are.

genderdissociated

definition ⸻ ♱ when one’s perception of their gender is warped, distorted, nonexistent, or atypical due to dissociation or general disconnection with one's body / when one's gender doesn't make sense due to dissociation.

notes ⸻ ♱ self indulgent. already coined? take it as an alt flag.

One of us is named Saturn, because they really like learning about space and enjoy Saturn the planet the most.

Nicki also loves space. He says he likes learning about the rovers and other things we have sent into space long-term.

Sunrises hold a special place for us. If we see the sunrise, we've survived another day and night.

There's probably more. We have a lot of space-themed decor in our room.

maybe plurality is kindness. A kindness of the brain extended to a tiredness of the soul.