Couldn't qualify in the oppression Olympics

Of course they would mock us; they really do hate us. They hide behind a whole bunch of names to excuse their homophobia, but nothing that they say ever makes sense, so you start seeing all the inconsistencies when you look at things closely:

“I am bisexual/”pansexual”, so I get the right to call myself gay. Don’t dare to call me heterosexual, though, not ever!”

vs.

“I am bisexual/”pansexual” and you need to understand that there is a difference between being gay and being bisexual/”pansexual”!”

—–

“Why are you talking about gay rights and the gay community? You are being exclusionary! Include us or else!”

vs.

“Bisexuals/”pansexual” have the right to their own spaces and their own discussions!”

—-

“Why are you talking about gay marriage? Are you aware of how exclusionary that language is?”

*cohabits with same-sex partners at a truly incredible rate of 3%, compared to over 35% of partnered gay people*

—-

“The oppression and exclusion from gay people is what is keeping us from same-sex relationships!”

*just accidentally admitted that the overwhelming majority of bisexuals/”pansexuals” are unwilling to partner with the same sex and simply seek average heterosexual lives, something that is simply not available for gay people*.

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I have personally witnessed each and every single one of these.

sorry you can’t use the term for yourself if you haven’t been ostracized because of it. 

• It is still legal in 29 states to fire someone for being gay/bisexual/pansexual/not straight.

• It is still legal in 32 states to fire someone for being trans.

• It is legal in 29 states to evict someone for being queer.

• It is still purposefully difficult for same-sex couples to adopt children.

• Bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, asexual, and demisexual people exist.

• So, you know. It’s not “gay” marriage that was legalized. It’s same-sex marriage that was legalized.

• Queer people (especially minors) are still getting beaten to death and kicked out of their homes.

• Being queer is still illegal in 79 countries.

• Being queer is still punishable by DEATH in 5 countries.

Pride really isn’t for you, so don’t act like you deserve to be there as much lesbians and gay men. Really, just don’t go at all, because there are no resources there that are for you. what are you proud of? being in the relationship literally everyone expects you to be in and that introduces no actual oppression into your life?

but at the very least, if you must go (and god knows hell nor high water will stop you) please, please, please

don’t

bring

your

het

Let’s talk about Brenda Howard for a sec because I feel like all of the people shouting that “het”-partnered bisexuals don’t belong at Pride are missing a good chunk of their Pride history.

Brenda was:

A bisexual, polyamorous woman and activist

In a “het” relationship with partner Larry Nelson

Known as the Mother of Pride for her work in organizing the first LGBT Pride events

A participant in the Stonewall Riots

An active member of the Gay Liberation Front, Gay Activists Alliance, Coalition for Lesbian and Gay Rights, BiPAC, and BiNET USA,  among others

Co-founder of the New York Area Bisexual Network

Founder of the first Alcoholics Anonymous chapter for bisexuals

An incredibly important figure in the LGBT community, who paved the way for Pride and LGBT activism as we know it today

“Het”-partnered bisexuals don’t just belong at Pride, they were integral to its creation.

I’m sorry you’re so upset, Nonnie. *hugs you* 

I feel you, there’s a part of the LGBTQIA+ community that is just as gross as the straight bigots out there. The difference is that we expect hate from heterosexual people, but seeing that coming from inside what’s supposed to be a safe space? That fucking hurts.

There’s no het-passing. What exists is being afraid, is erasure, is being on the closet. If I’m in a relationship with a man, I’m bi, if I’m in a relationship with a woman I am bi, if I’m in a relationship with some other gender I am still bisexual. 

My sexuality isn’t a step, it isn’t a phase, it isn’t confusion, it isn’t greed, it isn’t a a dial that goes from “straight <-> gay”. My sexuality doesn’t change with the gender of my partner. I am bisexual. Period.

I hate it, I hate that bisexuality is often forgotten, erased, demeaned or conditioned to be accepted. I’m bi and I’m proud, and those biphobic trashbags can fucking go lick a lamp post for all I care.

*parents, family and friends are happy about my relationship* 

*gets a marriage license that confers social and economic power in any country in the world* 

*does not fear potentially getting killed for showing even the slightes public display of affection*

*entire world is structured to promote, uphold and benefit my type of relationship*