Marriage betweeen a man and woman was built in a way that benefits men far more than women. This is well studied.

If you’re a man marrying a woman, you need to be cognizant of this and make sure you *overcompensate* in order to make things as egalitarian as possible.

I emphasize overcompensating because there are aspects of relationships between men and women that far more often than not result in women doing more, because we live in a patriarchal and misogynistic society.

So you need to make sure you’re consciously doing more to compensate for the unseen things that she will most likely be doing.

And this is especially true in societies in which women also work outside of the home (so the past several decades in most Western societies).

And I refuse to have a dynamic that my parents, like a lot of late Baby Boomers, had.

One in which both the man and woman work outside the house, but the woman still does most of the child rearing and cleaning at home.

I know somebody is eventually gonna assume I’m saying this with ulterior motives and ask something stupid like “did she pick you?”

The answer is yes, she did. I’m married. Now go reflect on your inadequacies as a partner.

know who the family doctor is (as well as dentist, optometrist, etc.) and when everyone had their last appointment so you can schedule the next. This goes for pets as well

know your kids shoe sizes. Seriously, I had a coworker complain that her husband got too-small boots for their kindergartener.

do grocery shopping

based off the above, be aware of everyone’s allergies/intolerances/diets/personal tastes

know how to cook and do your fair share

know how to do laundry, dishes, etc.

know when the bills are due and pay some of them

take an active role in planning holidays, vacations, etc. and budgeting for them

know your kids friends so you can arrange playdates

know their babysitter so you can arrange childcare

if your spouse does the cleaning most often, know when they tend to clean and help out. Do they sweep every day? Do they mop once a week or once a month? Help with that

know the location of everything in the house (cleaning supplies, kitchen utensils, tax forms, etc.) so that if your spouse is away, you can run the household solo without having to ask constantly where everything is

SO COLORFUL

Here is an adult :)

The black-backed dwarf kingfisher is also very pretty!

heres the comparison:

Okay, you got a plan, or shall I just stay, duck, and cover? My plan was to drive us away. Well, your plan sucks.