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The lack of personal boundaries is bad, in my family 😅
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Keep. Your. Hands. Of. My. Things.
The lack of personal boundaries is bad, in my family 😅

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My family is funny, they say I don't wanna talk to them and then they exclude me.
Make up your mind damn it
“Young children have no neurological adaption to be able to see their primary caregivers as an enemy or a threat. Seeing a caregiver or your parent as an threat to your survival, goes against every evolutionary instinct that is instilled in a child’s brain. As children, our natural survival instincts mean that we rely on our caregivers to keep us safe in order to survive. There is no neurological adaption in the brain to see anything otherwise. This is how we’ve learned to survive. This is how our human society has come this far, we relied on being social creatures. We rely on being raised in a hierarchy where the eldest keep the youngest safe, or the strongest keep the youngest safe. Therefore, the child has to internalize their trauma. As very young children, we’re not able to see these caregivers as bad, because it goes against everything their brain says, ‘I need to survive’. So, as they can’t see the person who’s hurting them as bad, they have to turn it inwards. 'Something’s wrong with me. They’re right, I’m wrong, I’m a bad person, I don’t deserve to be loved.’ This is how we evolved to stay safe, even when our most basic mechanism are failing.”
— DissociaDiD
hey y’all wanna talk about a lesser talked about trauma effect?
loss of autonomy.
not knowing how to do anything without explicit permission or instruction.
feeling like you’ll get in trouble if you do anything on your own will.
waiting until you’re given permission to do so much as eat.
not feeling like your body is your own.
if you experience this you aren’t broken or alone. you were abused and traumatized and conditioned to be like this. remember you belong to nobody but yourself. you are and will be okay.
Hi!
I am Ella, previous owner of these blogs, @detetue @beloveddarknes @bigkidoyouknow which are inactive from today. All themes of these blogs will be on this blog:
books - classics and YA mostly
Libraries, Galleries, Art, old stuff
history
metal music - Rammstein, trash metal bands, and many more
physical and mental health - ableism, cerebral palsy, trauma related stuff (It can be triggering for some people, I am aware of that. I will do my best to post TW's)
k!nks - WHICH MEANS THIS BLOG IS NOT FOR MINORS, I am also no way responsible if minor follows me - YOU WERE WARNED!)
I hope you will be enjoying this blog as much as I do.

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Here is a post I have up on my Instagram (also nikkilanecreates) I’ve been spending a lot of time learning about the connections between stress responses and ND brains.
ID: Ten panels made by @ nikkilanecreates. They read,
Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, and Autism.
In our brains the amygdala processes our threat detection and our emotional responses to dangerous events. Because of neurological differences in autistic people's amygdala- Stress responses, like Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn happen more often to us. Autistic and other neurodivergent people can experience these extreme emotional, and physiological reactions multiple times a day, while many NT people only typically experience it in life threatening situations.
Fight: Annoyance, Impatience, Irritation, Short temper, Deep feelings of rage, Lashing out, Physical actions.
Fight: Example: You're standing outside in a line waiting to buy coffee and the people in front of you aren't paying attention. They are loudly laughing and talking, the air is cold, the sun is bright. Every part of you is uncomfortable, and you feel like you're standing "wrong" but can't figure out the right posture to seem "normal". You feel irritated and frustrated. The small things keep building. Noises become overwhelming and it fills you with this rage that is so hard to ignore. You might say something you regret- or text a friend or family member sharing your frustration- or hold it in until you're somewhere private and you silently scream and punch a pillow.
Flight: Leaving uncomfortable or unsafe environments, Leaving bad or uncomfortable conversations, Ghosting, Frequently changing jobs, Feeling fidgety / jumpy, Feeling panicked.
Flight: Example: You're at a party, you thought you could handle it but there is loud music, people laughing and yelling, the room feels warm and smells like food and beer. Someone you don't like starts talking to you. They are debating and playing "devils advocate" for something you feel strongly about. You feel fidgety and have trouble maintaining eye contact. You feel the sudden and overwhelming urge to just leave. So you quickly walk away mid conversation. You might even push someone out of the way, or stumble over things in your way because it's too much to handle and you just have to leave immediately.
Freeze: Feeling stuck, unable to make any decisions, unable to talk, unable to move from your position, tunnel vision, dampened hearing.
Freeze: Example: You're in a grocery store. You already feel on edge but you have to get a few things. The lights are harsh, the music is loud, there are blaring announcements, and a forklift is beeping somewhere. You've never been to this store before and nothing is where it should be. You finally find what you're looking for - but what you normally buy is out of stock, and everything else looks unfamiliar. The colors of all the products begin to blur and you're stuck.You feel overwhelmed with indecision, every choice seems wrong. Your senses are overwhelmed and you begin to feel frozen in place. You might bounce or stim but other than that you're stuck.
Fawn: People pleasing, Perfectionism, Needing to follow the rules, Downplaying your own feelings, Never showing your true emotions, Saying or doing something you don't believe in because you fear the consequences.
Fawn: Example: Throughout school and home life you have unconsciously seen how fawning helps you stay safe when you feel uncomfortable. Now you have a boss who is intimidating, gaslights employees, and demands too much. You appease them, strictly follow the rules, stay up for hours trying to make your work perfect. You laugh at jokes they make, agree with their opinions even though they go against what you believe in. You're afraid to speak your mind because of years of fawning. You feel like your survival depends on them liking you- or at the very least it depends on you not standing out as a bad employee or a rule breaker.
End ID.
Let disabled people own our sexuality!
Let us openly discuss sex without people acting like it’s taboo!
Stop treating us like sexless children!
Stop saying that all or most autistics are asexual!
Let poeple express attraction to a disabled person without them being labeled as weird or kinky.
Stop asking disabled people how or if they have sex
Stop inforcing the idea that disabled bodies and minds are gross and childish!
And very importantly, let disabled people desided their sexual identity. Let them explore thier kinks and preferences and lack there of! Let disabled people be gay, aspec, mspec, ect. We have the power and dignity to do that, we do not need permission or people telling us what THEY think we should like.
Also, I wanna make it clear that I’m not saying disabled people shouldn’t be asexual(that’s what I ment by aspec) or have low sex drive. What I’m saying is that some disabled people arnt asexual and do have a moderate or high sex drive and that’s okay.
breaking: bottling all your feelings up and letting them stew and boil actually isn't a mark of strength
[ID: a 4-page comic in illuminated manuscript style. /1: Text: "O, to be strong as the lion" Panel depicts the lion rampant, a heraldry symbol of a lion rearing up and roaring. /2: Text: "who suffers his pain /without a single complaint." Panel depicts the peasant character standing to imitate the rampant lion pose, looking unimpressive but determined. /3: They continue the pose, but they look worried as they start shaking and sweating. /4: They lean forward, dejected, with tears in their eyes. Text: "wauUGh /But it HURTS though!" /ID]

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What if, and hear me out, people DO love you
Your coworker who loves when they get to work a shift with you, even if you don’t talk
Your cousin who’s relieved when they see you at family gatherings, who thinks you’re “the cool cousin” but hasn’t said anything out loud
Your classmate who thinks you have great taste, even if they’re too shy to speak up about it in class
Your childhood friends who remember you fondly
The waiter you tipped during a busy night
That person you complimented on the street
The little kid you waved to
The old woman you made small talk with
People love you, because you’re lovable. And you’re worthy of love. Even if it doesn’t feel like it sometimes
(Self depreciating comments will be removed at best, bluntly and remorselessly told to shut the fuck up at worst. Fuck around. I dare you.)
"My child is completely fine" Your child talks to their comfort characters and acts out scenarios with them but also worries that they're insane for pretending to be friends with non existent people, however, it's their only somewhat healthy coping mechanism that is not self destructive so they compulsively use it as an escapism technique, while feeling horribly guilty and crazy because if they ever told anyone that they still basically have imaginary friends they'd probably be laughed at so instead they unload all their struggles on the characters they talk to and end up even telling them about this bad habit of excessively daydreaming and playing pretend so that they eventually create an inception of escapism because now they realise that they are talking about the crazy coping mechanism while practicing said coping mechanism and eventually have to explain to the character that THEY are the escapism because "oh shit, I'm doing it right now because I'm talking to you!"
No truer words ever spoken
And yet… they neglect both.
[Image ID
Black text on a white background that says, ““Allowing a student with a hidden disability (ADHD, Anxiety, Dyslexia) to struggle academically or socially when all that is needed for success are appropriate accommodations and explicit instruction, is no different than failing to provide a ramp for a person in a wheelchair”.”
End ID]
Mobility aids and sensory aids aren’t a “worst case scenario”
Stop acting like it’s a tragedy when someone starts using a cane or wheelchair, and stop acting like it’s someone admitting defeat if they need ear defenders or stim toys.
Aids are a good thing. They allow us to live better than we could before, and that’s something to celebrate, not demean and be doom and gloom about.

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