and then you can bring up any personal instances where you have recieved transphobia from staff, and/or mention one of the many instances of staff unfairly targeting trans people

to help you fill it out for company you wanna put : Automattic and/or Tumblr for address you wanna put : 12 E 49th St Fl 11, New York City, New York, 10017, United States for phone number you wanna put : (646) 513-4321 and for category of discrimination you can put : Discriminatory harassment and basis of discrimination you can put : Gender; Gender identity

All you are telling her is that you do not care about her as a person and will misgender her as long as you feel like you are justified in doing so, which is the exact same logic used by transphobes in misgendering trans people. You cannot tell someone what their gender is. You cannot see their true gender, better than them, and decide what words you want to use.

When you say you are using bro or dude in a gender neutral way, you are not calming her down. You are telling her that she is to blame for the dysphoria caused by your misgendering.

This is a purposeful tactic used to make trans women look dangerous, unstable, and hysterical, ready to get angry at nothing, when it is in fact a continuous and measured harassment.

If you see someone arguing against a trans woman pointing out transmisogyny and they use bro or dude, recognize that this is a deliberate harassment tactic. This tactic can be utilized by anyone, including trans people.

Do not let those who use this tactic get away with it.

I’m not going to judge you for venting in the tags about being misgendered with seemingly innocuous terms (that’s pretty much what the original post was) but please keep in mind this is primarily about the discrimination against trans women through masculine terms.

This includes they/themming trans women who specifically use she/her, this is about calling trans women “man,” and “buddy” and “dude,” and “bro.” This is about every method used by anyone, including those within the queer community, that misgenders and degrades the identities of trans women in a way invisible to anyone but us.

Again, recognize it when this happens and call it out. Do not let people trick you into viewing trans women expressing their pain as hysterical, angry, and foolish.

and then she knocks one of your teeth out with her yoyo, which is giant and made of stainless steel and has .357 hollowpoint loaded into its side for some goddamn reason, and her teddy bear suddenly grows to 3x its size and glomps you before bodyslamming you with the force of a semi truck, while the girl rides on its back and shouts “rooooock the baby! :3”

There she is. The Duchess.

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