Bento Thug Life

if you haven’t, i hope you fall in love with life again. i hope you wake up with a happy sigh, hope you feel like doing things you enjoy, hope you are surrounded by people who make you feel safe, hope you smile at yourself in the mirror.

Deer in the furryverse are probably overwhelmingly sweat freaks because of the Salt

you don't know anything about me

about them

i saw this somewhere else but reply / tag what you did today so everyone can see that we all did something different today

my feeling about youtube video essays and w/e is there need to be a reason it's a video and not a blog post or audio podcast. what is the visual component adding to your message? if the answer is "nothing of substance", type it up instead

“the possibility of rejection is essential to forming deep relationships with people” - chanté joseph for british vogue

highly recommend "careful" as a communicative phrase with animals if you are a delicate and sickly cripple, invalid, convalescent etc who can be harmed with actions that would otherwise be normal. our cat has gotten very good at this and it has prevented many injuries but she also recognizes it as a warning of potentially causing harm through her effect on the environment. my pillow positioning is very fragile and if she is excited and rowdy she may walk on them but when warned with careful she will back right off and may even calm down slightly as she remembers her actions have consequences. she is especially good at recognizing cause and effect and also has a very high affinity for recognizing pain or injury in her people, so this may be more difficult in animals who don't have those traits to the extent she does, but it's been very helpful for me

can confirm i taught big ol grim "careful" when he was a puppy and as a result he has knocked cups off the table with his tail maybe twice in his entire life, they fully understand this concept

not to sound like a christian facebook mom but some of yall need to have grace in your hearts for the people in your lives or the people you pass once on the road and never see again like you literally need to stop assuming the worst of everyone and their intentions it is poisoning your brain. you can be careful and responsible without being a miserable person. it is possible i promise

reblog and put in the tags your favorite and/or the scariest non-USAmerican horror movies you’ve seen

The 4pm bird gets the weird and fucked up spider

It is true that people in fandom equate top bottom with dom sub and probably mean the latter when they "headcanon" the former but I also think people need to be more open to the idea that D/s doesn't necessarily get indicated from personality either. Like for example a shy person who gets pushed around easily very well might enjoy having a dominant role with a partner they trust. That can even be affirming. Like BECAUSE of this issue you have in your real life to feel like someone will submit to YOU and defer to YOU is special for example. I think the idea that you just play the role that suits your personality in real life is part of why these same people seem to genuinely think being a Dom is like, kind of bad and scary

life would be sooo good without my curse

At least on 'the price is right' you know (because someone *actually told you*) that you are playing a guessing game and that there is an over/under mechanic and that the conquence of guessing wrong isn't a punishment or damaged relationship or getting fired

On an unrelated note my psychiatrist has given me a referal for a formal ASD evaluation