Sugar Beluga

Here is a list of 10 damaging societal trends to avoid:

1 - Copy-pasting aesthetics and losing all personality (e.g. "that girl" clones who all do Pilates and drink green smoothies).

2 - Narcissism ("I am perfect"/"everyone is obsessed with me"/"I am the centre of the universe" etc). True narcissists are self-absorbed parasites who need intense therapy.

3 - Manifestation ("I am God/reality is an illusion/my thoughts and feelings influence reality/quantum realm" etc). This is a combination between new age pseudoscience, Hinduism, Magical Thinking (seek therapy) and Neville Goddard's work. This is a huge $$$ business and gurus make millions selling courses/books/etc. This can HARM you when it comes to taking action. E.g. you will not lose weight through writing it on a piece of paper, you lose weight through eating better and working out.

4 - Idolising people (celebs, influencers, rich people, etc). Nobody is above you. We all eat and sleep and breathe the same oxygen. Stop putting people on a pedestal and worshipping them.

5 - Posting everything online. Not everyone should see your private moments and thoughts, start living in the real world, stop sharing with strangers/people who will sabotage you.

6 - Getting political/educational information from SOCIAL MEDIA. That unhinged Twitter user posting radical content has never socialised with real people or read the source material. Have they even read the books/studies/manifestos? Or just repeating rhetoric from the echo-chamber?

7 - Casual hook-up culture. Studies show it decreases self-esteem. You're also (as a woman) giving undeserving men your most important source of leverage. What are you getting out of it? Aside from STDs and pregnancy scares?

8 - Internet 24/7. Turn off notifications, log out of social media, set timers on things. Read a book, take a walk, pick up a physical hobby, etc. Remember companies harvest time, which is your one most precious (limited) resource.

9 - Consumerism. Buying a new handbag won't fill the void in your soul, stop trying. Shiny new things give us a short rush then we go back to mundane. Buy a few quality items and find joy from other sources.

10 - Chasing fame. The internet is now saturated with wannabe-'influencers', IG models, Youtubers, TikTokers. Popularity will not give you the validation you crave. The followers you gain will put you on a perfection pedestal and then rip you down and devour you whole. It's isolating, it's false love, and once they're done with you the crowd will move on to someone else.

If you disagree with this list, don't tell me. I don't care. To everyone else, I hope this helps you find value.

It’s simple.

K = know what you want.

F = find feedback

C = change to get what you want.

So you get feedback you are too fat. Then you start dieting. Good! Now it’s great until your dates find you diet unhealthy and are turned off. You get feed back that what you are doing is unhealthy and they are busy. What do you do? Hire a nutritionist and a fitness coach and see a doctor to get fit the healthy way. Okay you made it but you are very easily triggered so inspite being pretty your dates manipulate you into bed for free kitty cat. You do inner work do that stops happening etc.

Do you see the cycle. Your goal is to marry up do you stop being a coddle coconut or special snowflake like broke Dustina losers. Your ability to level up depends on your ability to take well intentioned feedback and that might require self validation and inner work not to see it as an attack on your person.

The process is have a good, seek feed back, try out the feed back, then check the results by getting feed back and then if you don’t like it what more feedback you can do to do better, try it, then do it again. Keep cycling between change and feedback over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over… until you get your desired result.

Now you see why vision boards are helpful? It keeps you focused on the dream as you keep hustling.

And this is why most girls won’t ever marry a provider. They are too busy deluding themselves that they are some kind of prize. It’s as attractive to high value gentlemen as Kevin Sameuls red pill rudies saying they are the prize .. not cute.

If you don’t add value you might be loved by someone but you are not a prize so step off your high horse.

Your ability to succeed is a laser focus on your goal, get the best feedback from the best mentors, try things out, and get feedback, try again, get feedback and just keep on hacking with the cheerful confidence if you continue doing this & inner work you will achieve your goal!

Credit Maria Al Massani

When to say NO:

When you're already committed to too many tasks and taking on more would be overwhelming.

When you need time for yourself to relax, recharge, or pursue your interests.

When someone invades your personal space or asks intrusive questions.

When someone asks for something that's beyond your capacity or comfort.

When someone tries to involve you in gossip or negative conversations about others.

When someone uses guilt, threats, or manipulation to pressure you into doing something.

When your generosity is being taken advantage of, and it's affecting your own needs.

When someone asks you to do something that goes against your values or principles.

When someone borrows money from you without a clear plan for repayment.

When someone consistently disrespects your boundaries or treats you poorly.

When to Say YES:

When a close friend genuinely needs your support and you're capable of providing it.

When you're passionate about a cause and want to contribute your time and skills.

When an opportunity arises that aligns with your goals and helps you learn and develop.

When you're invited to gatherings or events that you genuinely enjoy and benefit from.

When saying "yes" to social or professional opportunities can help you make valuable connections.

When your family members or loved ones need your emotional or practical assistance.

When saying "yes" involves trying something new or acquiring useful skills.

When taking on a new task or responsibility can push you to grow and overcome obstacles.

When saying "yes" to maintaining healthy relationships involves compromise and mutual understanding.