Faust

See a car around town with funny writing about the world ending soon or the government injecting people with microchips? NOT YOUR PROBLEM

See a post online written in a frantic cadence where someones providing their unhinged perspective on something relatively mundane? SCROLL RIGHT ON BY

See a dirty man in public holding a weird sign and talking about things that dont make sense? GIVE HIM A BOTTLE OF WATER MAYBE BUT DONT YOU DARE TAKE A FUCKING PICTURE

See any of the things described above posted for shock value and laughs? CALL IT OUT OR IGNORE IT

See something like the above but the person in question has politics you disagree with? YOUD STILL BE A CUNT IF YOU TOOK A PICTURE

there is always someone who needs more support than you.

this does not mean that you do not deserve support. this does not mean you do not deserve treatment. this does not mean that your needs should not be met.

this does mean that your struggles should not be the end to your advocacy. this does mean that if something is difficult for you, it is inaccessible for someone else. this does mean that different forms of disability need to be kept in mind when it comes to advocating for accessibility.

i am extremely fortunate to be as well off as i am. my family is able to support my medical bills and can afford specialists. i can still walk with support. i can communicate verbally the vast majority of the time. i have access to mobility aids and other things that ease my struggles. im white and have reliable access to housing. i am lucky to have these and so many other things.

when you are advocating for disabled rights, always remember there are people who need various accommodations. options need to be available to people with all kinds of disabilities. being disabled is complicated, and it intersects with all sorts of marginalized groups. there is no one way to be disabled or accessible. just because something works for you, doesnt mean it works for everyone.

i love you disabled people with colostomy bags

i love you disabled people on TPN

i love you disabled people with carers

i love you disabled people with rare disabilities who never see themselves in posts about disabilities

i love you disabled people with high support needs

i love you intellectually and developmentally disabled people

i love you disabled people who live with incontinence, need assistance with hygiene, or have other needs that ableist people consider "gross"

i love you homeless disabled people

i love you fat disabled people

i love you disabled people who use AAC

i love you disabled people who don't see yourselves in other disability positivity posts

i love you disabled people who cannot sit up without assistance or for only a few minutes

i love you disabled people who've had to deal with bed sores

Bodily hygiene and household chores take time, effort and energy. Limited mental or physical abilities can make a simple task for one person into a huge challenge for another.

I have to choose every day what to spend my limited energy on. Have you tried doing the dishes when you're dead tired? That's my normal state. At times my hands and legs don't function at all. Have you tried sweeping the floor without arms? Or mowing the lawn when your legs buckle under you? And no, Santa's elves don't magically appear to help disabled people do their laundry.

i don't necessarily think every single bathroom stall should have an adult changing table and a lift to get from your wheelchair to the toilet, etc. etc. i understand that would be too much expense (and take up too much space) for the proportion of the population that would need it, for most places. what i do think there should be in public bathrooms depending on the available size is:

1-2 fully accessible stalls with absolutely everything a disabled person could possibly need, no matter the severity of their disabilities and no matter how much support they require. the stuff above, and everything i haven't thought of too. electrical outlets sound like a good idea to charge certain equipment. stuff like that

2-4 large stalls with space for wheelchairs and other equipment, still with outlets, plus a decently sized shelf to put things on so they don't have to go on the floor

3-7 smaller stalls that still have grab bars with antimicrobial materials/coatings, hooks to hang canes/medical bags/etc. on the back of the door, a sharps bin above the toilet tank, a trash bin on the wall for used menstrual and other medical products, and if not a separate shelf then at least a flat, stable top on the toilet paper dispenser in case a small extra shelf is needed (all this stuff should be in the other stall types as well obviously)

and in places like libraries and sports facilities, 1-2 that are shower stalls instead of toilet stalls, also with enough space for wheelchairs/carers/etc. because sure, showering in public sucks, but if you don't have the choice to do it at home or in a hotel (due to cost) you still need access to showers

this is all very unlike the current setup i always encounter where there are zero fully accessible stalls, 1 large stall if you're lucky, and 4-10 smaller stalls with no grab bars or hooks or anything.

narcissist abuse is just emotional abuse but with an ableist coat on it. i don't care if people don't think emotional abuse counts as real abuse, why not advocate for seeing emotional abuse as valid abuse instead? you are just playing into the "emotional abuse isn't real" crowd by saying narcissistic abuse instead.

and if you are advocating for narcissistic abuse to mean abuse at the hands of a narcissist and/or someone with npd(instead of it being a synonym for emotional abuse), then my question is why do we need a word for this? and there is no unique or special way for people with narcissists or pwnpd to abuse someone. because woah! would you look at that? it is just emotional abuse.

we live in a shitty ableist world which will use any excuse to harm those with mental disorders. i don't care if someone has the best intentions, i don't care if someone genuinely doesn't mean to implicate pwnpd when they talk about narcissistic abuse, it will still hurt us, so get over yourself and fucking stop.

and before the "narcissist doesn't equal npd!!" crowd comes in, i don't care about your language games, fuck off. but even if we accept that statement as true, people with npd will still get harmed by such language. npd and narcissism are and will always be linked to eachother. if you talk about the evils of narcissism, people will connect it with npd.

even if we change the name of npd it won't help. dissociative identity disorder is still widely known as multiple personality disorder. antisocial personality disorder is still widely known as socio/psychopathy. why would npd be any different?

(and idk. i think it is kinda shitty to be like "hey let's change the name of a disorder because i am too stubborn to say selfish instead of narcissist!!")