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Day 28 - Write a letter to someone. It can be a coming out letter or a letter regarding how you hate their homophobia or whatnot. You don’t have to send it.

Dear all the idiots who think I'm a freak for being bisexual,

It's not in my power, first of all, to stop my brain from telling me what to be attracted to. Even if it was, I wouldn't change a thing about how it works now because I am proud of my sexuality and frankly, I think bisexuals/pansexuals etc. make the world just a bit better because we have the ability to love on a greater scale. Well, actually, everyone has that ability, but most of us either don't have the balls to pursue someone of the same sex should we ever fall for someone that isn't of the opposite when we've always identified as heterosexual, or just don't understand that what they are feeling towards someone they always thought of as a good friend, is really love. 

I don't have to choose one gender or the other to be attracted to and that's it. Contrary to your beliefs on the subject, it is possible to like both men and women. I couldn't explain why it is my brain works that way, it just does, and it's not at all up to me. I do like men, but I like women as well. 

Now, honestly, I do like women more than I do men, and so it's definitely not an even split down the middle, but I don't have to rule out men entirely just because I am more partial to women. Just because one time I may have a girlfriend and then that doesn't work out and the next person I happen to be with is male, doesn't make me perverted and wrong.

It's not up to you who I like and who I don't and I should not have to choose a sex and stick with it. I will continue to pursue women, likely, because I am much more attracted to them, but if I happen to fall in love with a man first you've got no damn authority over me to tell me I can't be with him because he's a man and I said I am more into women, so in your eyes I can only possibly be a lesbian.

Because I can go either way, that doesn't make me a freak or a sex-crazed perve like I've been called before, it just means, I guess, in a way, I can see love more clearly for what it is rather than the package it comes in. If I love someone, I am going to go for it, because love is a human experience everyone should have. Gender is the last thing I would ever look at when it comes to the person I want to settle down with. If I fall in love with them as  a person, what genitalia they have really doesn't matter to me.

Sincerely, 

Day 27 - Your favorite LGBT blog/tumblr/site

Day 26 - Your favorite gay joke (we all need to laugh at ourselves).

This isn't a joke, but it's a funny, and that so counts! xD I got a real laugh out of this. I'm not really out yet, nor completely gay (I'm bisexual), but I should start tagging "gay" on the beginning of everything I'm doing to show how ridiculous the fact that "gay marriage" is such a big issue.

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...or think that it's okay to be. First of all, it is, there is nothing wrong with being gay, so who gives a fuck if your kid is told that? Oh no! You're child is going to turn out to be a more decent, accepting human being than you are - the HORROR!!

Secondly, if seeing gay people really does influence your kid and make her/him think s/he is gay then ..so what. If they really aren't gay then they'll grow out of that, and if they are..they are. Who gives a shit, as long as they are happy.

I don't want children, but for the sake of my rant here, let's pretend that I do. Okay, so I'm sitting at home waiting for my son to come home from school. When he does I ask him how his day was and if he made and friends and he says "It was good. There is a cute boy in my class that I like. He's nice." I would look at him, big smile on my face and say "What's his name?" as simple as that.

I wouldn't encourage or discourage his attraction to boys or girls, I would treat it equally because I want him to be able to make the decision for himself when it's time whether he likes girls or boys (or both). I wouldn't tell him "Oh dear, Hun, you shouldn't like him, because boys shouldn't like boys," just as I wouldn't tell him "Oh that is so awesome!" I, as a parent wouldn't want what I say in that moment to affect his thinking negatively in any way so I'd be sure neither to praise or put him down for it, but just go along with what he wants.

I wouldn't want to praise my son being gay, and not for the reason you might think. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and if my kid was I would make sure he knew that and that I'll love him no matter what. But, I wouldn't want him thinking that if I praised so much that he is for sure gay because I responded so happily about it or he needs to be this way from now on to make me happy, if it turns out just to be a phase, ya know?

Even though I know your sexuality is something that can be discovered pretty early (I have a couple friends who knew VERY young - Ex. my friend Deannah knew she was a lesbian (well, didn't know there was a word for it, but she says her earliest memory of a crush on someone else was around then, and distinctly remembers it never happened with the boys) at the age of 6ish-7. Her parents didn't want to believe that because she was so young and was "probably confused" but she never "grew out of it" like they hoped because she really is a lesbian. She's never been attracted to men.) - I'd not want my son swayed at all by my thoughts or views.

I'd like him to be able to figure out on his own what he wants and hopefully then he'll have developed no fear to bring a boy/girl home to meet/see me. I would want my son to know there's no need for him to be "closeted", so to speak, with his mother.

If I do have children, having my kid come to me without worry, with a boy/girl that they like, to meet me would be such fulfilling moment for me as a parent. Never would I want my children to be afraid to come to me for anything thinking that I would love them any less.

I actually think it's very important for children to see gay couples just as much as hetero couples. Just as I think it's important for a child of same-sex parents to still have contact with that of the other sex which is not raising him/her. If a child is being raised by two women I think it's still necessary to have a male figure in his/her life, not because I think a child should only be raised by a man and a woman (because I don't, that's complete bullshit) but because I think having contact with both sexes is ..well.. important for the child so when s/he grows up s/he'll be comfortable around them both. (I'm probably not making sense, lol, sorry, bad at explaining things.) 

Seeing gay couples is good, and I would say crucial, because I would want my child to see that people come in all shapes and sizes and being different is not a bad thing, and I would make sure s/he knew that they should never try and change themselves because the world says they should. They need to be who they are, and no one else. Some people won't like it, but fuck 'em all. Not everyone is going to like you, and there's no avoiding that, but it's your life and you shouldn't have to live it as someone else to make others happy, when you're focus should be making yourself happy.

Seeing couples, not only gay, but any couple, that are in love is always a beautiful thing to me. Like it's just them an the world. I often wish for that, and should it be with a man or a woman, it shouldn't matter, cause it won't for me, and it's my life; no one else's business. I would want my child to feel the same in that regard, and go after someone for love, and not simply because they are the gender the world expects/wants them to be with. 

I've seen gay women couples out holding hands, as well as men, and of course a lot of straight couples, and as I see it, to me, in each instance I see the same thing - LOVE. It's beautiful. If they are happy then good for them. Just because it bothers you to see, doesn't give you the right to tell others they shouldn't be together. Stay out of their fucking business and focus on your own love-life, is what I say.

yea, any excuse to re-watch this scene. i'm pathetic, i know, but i never get tired of it. focused on their faces a lot more for this, which was fun. :-)