i remember i made a post that said if youâre a toxic person, keep to yourself, focus on you, and donât enter into a relationship until youâre ready and youâve dealt with what makes you toxic to other people
and i got so many messages of people up in arms. saying âhow could you say that?â and âeveryone deserves love!â and âyou donât have to be perfect to deserve love!â
and all i could think is that they completely missed the point. because no one was even talking about who does and doesnât deserve love
but you know what someone doesnât deserve? no one deserves to open their heart to a person who is so toxic that it will destroy their lives. thatâs what no one deserves. i donât believe in this entitlement to relationships.Â
i feel like when a person opens themselves up to me, and allows me to love them while also loving me, is a privilege. it is an honor to love and be loved. if you canât be in a healthy relationship, then donât be in a relationship. donât make someone else suffer because you havenât taken the time to deal with your demons.
 if you have issues with anger, jealousy, inadequacy, abusive tendencies, etc. deal with that. focus on you. take time to sort yourself out. donât drag a person into your toxicity because youâre afraid to be alone, disregarding how youâre ruining someones life.