Wilbur soot and his mommy issues.
As asked by anon and once another agenda from my Cc I would like to keep on going.
DISCLAIMER: This is a subject that to be honest is just my vision mixed with certain things he has said and patterns of behavior I have realized on him for a while now. So, you can take what I say as you like, I don’t know him personally I just have psychology knowledge and have seen almost everything known to men that has him on it.
— To begin with, we have to discuss one very important aspect of this whole complicated relationship, we need to do a quick description of Sue and her past relationship with Will’s dad. Sue is a very sweet woman in general, all her career moves were moved by her love of children and she dedicated her life to those career paths, Cbeebies and her book and store. She’s a very artistic woman too, doing arts, crafts and writing. Her relationship with Pat was a little odd as much as given the time period it was “normal” for age gaps they did have a 13 year age gap, when Will was born, Sue being on her early 20’s and Pat on his 30’s. There’s also this inclination to believe Pat was not a good man for her, or for Will, and probably had a drinking problem. Sue got remarried when Wilbur was a little older, by how he looked on the picture he was living with his father during that period. He lived between houses for most of his life.
Will’s relationship with his mother:
Sue is very lovely to Will, she genuinely loves him and is very proud of him, as she has shown time and time again. Though, based on some things he has said, specially on an old deleted video I won’t say the name for gatekeeping purposes, he has shown that he feels as if sharing much of his struggles with his mother was burdening to her. I think he has a complicated relationship with his mom to the extent that he probably is aware his mom loves him, but he’s reluctant to have her as a mom and not a friend. He has been removed from his Mom’s life for a long while and I think that takes a tool on him, specially as every time he was living with his father it was very, very bad.
Wilbur Soot looks for women who in a way, are similar to his mother.
This is something to notice, and I hope Sigmund Freud looks away as I hate to prove him right. I think Will sees his mother as fragile, not in a bad way, I think he was just aware of the bad relationship between his parents, his mom’s young age, and the fact that she seems like a very kind, loving and sensible woman. And Wilbur has a huge inclination to sensible young women, also, he always looks for artistic women too. Of course people have types, but some types become patterns. He also seems to be looking for maternal partners in a way, girls inclined to look after and fix their partners, as we can kinda see with Shelby. He also goes for physically smaller and delicate girls as his mom is a very small and delicate woman.
Traits that could be linked to his relationship with his mother.
Abandoment issues/Ghosting: Wilbur shows clear problems with being abandoned or left behind. It’s seem specially on his songs that he has a prone pattern of panicking when met with someone leaving him, or the simple idea of being left behind, which could’ve caused him to stay in relationships that weren’t as good (thus cause for concern). This crippling fear of being abandoned is completely linked to being either left, or feeling neglected by a one or your parents, specially when it comes from the mother, as the mother represents and shapes our relationship with love. It seems too, that his tendency to ghost people comes from his fear of them doing it first, as we know he tends to ghost people (said by friends and clear by his alleged situation with nikita), and that is also a trait of abandonment as a child.
Fear of rejection/not being enough: Once another trait of child neglect that is probably one of the most loud traits on Will. Maybe I was boring as a whole talks about that fear of rejection and not being enough, it comes to a point in which Wilbur (as a bit or not) keeps track of every single time he was rejected in his life. This can be heavily connected to a point I made before of feeling as he was burdening Sue with his issues.
Complicated relationships with women: It has come to a conclusion that Wilbur is rather emotionally abusive to women (meaning or not), as him himself has pointed out, as of course could be him villanizing himself or the plain truth. He also has some incel behavior sometimes, specially on his past that can be very linked with his very complicated relationship with the women around him. Also, it has been noticed that Wilbur rarely can see women in a way that is entirely platonic as most women he has interacted with were either romantic or somewhat romantic. Which is linked both with his mother issues and his issues with his father (who to be completely honest are much much worse than this)
Further notes: He has also shown a very strong fear of commitment that is kinda mommy issues but also is mostly linked to his parents divorce.
Once again, this is speculative, don’t come for me.