sylvia plath stigmatic

stop saying you have a "special interest"/you're "hyperfixating" on something when you just like it a lot!

stop saying you're "overstimulated" when you're just overwhelmed!

stop saying you're "dissociating" when you're just zoning out!

stop saying you're "so OCD" because you like to be clean/organized!

stop saying you're "delusional/delulu" because you hope the person you like might like you back!

stop calling things "traumatizing"/saying you're "traumatized" when you see something that was a just a little weird or scary or uncomfortable and left no real lasting damage on you!

stop calling people/things "psychotic" when you mean violent/homicidal! (people in psychosis aren't inherently dangerous btw)

and most of all!!

stop fucking calling people/things schizo!!!! full stop!!!! there is never a good reason for it!!!! schizophrenics have enough to worry about without hearing you say that shit!!!! fuck dude omg

I think we should have sex with friends more often. Not just because some of my friends are real hot and I'm jealous of their partners. But most importantly because it's up to us queer people (especially the poyamorous, ace and aro folk) to challenge the preconceived notions about what normal expressions of sexuality and romantism look like. Because who we are already challenges the deepest roots of the way people think about intimacy (that you're expected to have a single person in your life that is your one favourite person and you want to have sex with that same person and nobody else)

I'm real done with the idea that certain ways of expressing care are only for one person in one's life. I hold my friends' hands, I compliment them and yes, I would 'go further' (interesting that sex is seen universally as something more intimate than let's say kissing. When I can think of multiple people with whom kissing would be peak intimacy)

Also it's a much safer way to explore your sexuality than hooking up with strangers from dating apps :] (No shade if you like that though, it's just. With a friend you at least know them enough to know what to expect when you act a certain way)

Also also we don't need a label like friend with benefits. It's just a friend. The fact that one has sex with said friend shouldn't be any different than a 'bake pies with' friend or 'cosplay together' friend. Why is this one action deserving of a specific phrass? (It's because we put sex on a pedestal as an ultimate intimate act. And it doesn't have to be)

it's up to us all, but especislly those that already don't fit the mold, to carve out our own way of experiencing intimacy.

90% of the time these people ABSOLUTELY preface first that your abuse wasnt okay and when they start talking about how you shouldnt blame a trauma based disorder for the abuse your abuser did you start freaking out. do you realize how pathetic it is to completely ignore when these people say it isnt okay to demonize a disorder people obviously dont choose to have.

It's a story about big stuff--falling in love, living with trauma, navigating the relationship between the authentic self and the performed one--and writing it has often been challenging. But it's also been FUN. After The Fault in Our Stars was published, I kind of forgot how fun writing could be, and this story allowed me to work my way back to true joy in writing, and I'm so grateful for that experience and I really hope you love this book. I am so excited to share it with you.

a lot of teens turn to social media for support with self harm and suicide when it's not safe to seek that support from parents. throwing notifications about it into the inboxes of parents will only lead to punishment of these kids. teens hiding these feelings and behaviors is a good sign that they are afraid to share them.

suicidal teens don't need punishment, they need support. too many parents think the answer to suicidal ideation is to take away internet access, force their child into a psych ward, or even outright beat them. for a lot of teens in unsafe environments the internet is the only place they can connect with others about their struggles because connecting with people offline is risky.

when parents find out that their child is talking about self harm or suicide online their answer is often anger. "why didn't you tell me? do you not trust me?" anger is the absolute last thing a suicidal teen needs in their life.

most parents are not equipped to approach their suicidal teen about their mental health in a way that is delicate and supportive right out the door. the internet is also not equipped to provide this kind of support but it appeals to a lot of teens because there is a sense of safety with the anonymity of it. when parents have a suicidal child they should feel like they have the time to take a breath and learn some skills for approaching teens about their mental health. panic-inducing messages will make parents feel like they have to respond immediately. immediate, panicked responses will cause harm to that suicidal teen.

it's much better to push evidence-based educational campaigns about the signs of self harm and suicidal ideation and what to do when you as a parent spot them.