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It costs exactly $0.00 to not ask abuse survivors to prove that they were abused

i think one of the reasons us bpd people overshare with new people we’re excited about and want to know better is because we want to skip straight to the deep and intense parts of friendship because casual modes of relating are confusing and hard to navigate but bonding over trauma is something we understand very intimately

psa: different people with the same mental illness will act different. Two people can have bpd and be VERY different. two people with anxiety can be different. the point is, stop acting like someone with a mental disorder or illness has to be a cookie cutter of the symptoms. not. everyone. is. the. same.

i feel like this needs to be said: you literally can’t ask or expect anyone to drop everything for you and operate under your terms at all times. you can’t expect people to always be there for you and always choose you in any given ultimatum. sacrifice cannot be expected or asked for, it has to be freely given. and just because someone loves you, that doesn’t mean everything they do will be done with you in mind. if you have a problem with that, then you are the problem.

the amount of people in the tags saying this is ignorant and condescending towards mentally ill people is honestly astounding. as a mentally ill person, i recognize being mentally ill is not an excuse to be abusive; and yes, that’s exactly what this is. it’s abusive to expect other people to dedicate their lives to you.

notes on breakups: realize you’re grieving, crying is cleansing, closure doesn’t always happen, there’s no room for pride, you can’t fill the void with sex, stop checking their social media, go to bed early, focus on school, or work, or the gym, don’t lose yourself, embrace change, you’ve been here before, you’ll get through this again

being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative  being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative  being honest about my feelings isn’t manipulative 

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

I just reblogged a post but I’m pissed now so I’m going to make my own post. People with BPD have to CONSTANTLY question if we’re being manipulative and abusive, even in the smallest of interactions. Overshared on feeling bad? Abusive shit I should die. Wait. Wanting to die makes me abusive too, and God help me if I tell anyone. So, sometimes, we make tumblr posts telling other people like us that they aren’t inherently abusive, and there’s always at least one asshole who reblogs or comments saying “don’t forget that people with BPD can actually be abusive”. Which is not something we’re about to forget. I spend all day in a panic because I’m probably manipulating and hurting everyone, and I really probably shouldn’t have friends because I’ll just hurt them. WE DON’T NEED REMINDING THAT WE CAN HURT PEOPLE; WE ARE HYPER FUCKING AWARE OF IT

Look at you. You’ve come so far. You may not realize it but you really have. You’re alive right? Isn’t that a celebration? I’m so proud of you. You’re doing great. I love you.

suicidal people deserve a space to talk about their suicidal feelings without risking hospitalization/institutionalization or being accused of being manipulative or attention seeking

don’t trust people who are friends with people who have mistreated you in the past

9/10 they’ve already talked about it behind ur back n agreed u were “overreacting”