If Death is, then I am not

Don't follow (and actually just go ahead and block me) if:

You're a terf/transmed

You believe reverse-racism is real or that racism was solved in the 60s

You're a Republican/conservative (the American kind) or are in any way to the right of the spectrum

You think stuff like self-deprecation is an acceptable coping mechanism

You're an "anti-anti", "proshipper", or some other kind of pedophile or pedophile supporter/defender

You believe autism and ADHD are the same thing

You unironically believe it's completely fine to not feel any sort of compassion for other people

You believe in "mspec lesbians" or "bi lesbians" or in any way believe lesbians can be attracted to men (and trans women are women, so don't try to come at me with that shit)

You're anti-therapy, anti-medication, and/or anti-recovery

Secondly, and I learned this the hard way too - if you are constantly self-deprecating, even in joke form, that weighs on others. It stops being funny fast, and becomes exhausting quickly. If you constantly talk about being a burden and apologising for being in people’s lives, they will of course want to reassure you and prove you wrong, but they can’t keep doing that because it’s mentally draining. There’s an element of learning to talk about struggles in a real, vulnerable way? Not saying “god I’m such a burden, why do you hang out with me lol” and instead saying “thank you for being my friend, I really appreciate you.” and the like…

Lastly like… and this is the bit that SUCKS…. Cause social anxiety is the worst…. But friends don’t just appear. You have to go through an uncomfortable period of Putting Yourself Out There and talking to people and that may take time and you may need to repeat it. Eventually, you find one person. Who introduces you to other people (by which I mean say YES when they invite you to that board game night or whatever else, like yes I hate being around strangers too but every single person starts out as a stranger, friends included). And then you kind of just… figure out how to communicate. What their needs and wants and likes and dislikes are, and how they might vibe and clash with yours. It’s a give and take.

And yea, your friends will find you annoying. In the same way you will find them annoying sometimes. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you and that you’re a bad person. It means youre a person. No one is ever going to like you 100% of the time - and that’s okay!

I didn’t mean to have this be so long - sorry for filling your inbox! I hope this all makes sense and is maybe helpful to some people…

Sorry bud, you came to the wrong place as I'm in the same boat except I'm early 20s.