The String Of Bengali Wedding Rituals
In traditional Bengali style, the tying of nuptial knot contains a series of elaboration of colorful rituals and customs, which are enjoyable as well as holds a great significance in conjugal life of every married couple.
So here we are talking about the varied customs and rituals followed in Hindu weddings which are extend up to four to five days or to some extent. These ceremonies are essentially divided into three parts - pre wedding customs, main wedding ceremony and post wedding rituals. Each of the three phases have deep meaning and significance which are about to perform by the couple for the sake of their married life. So it can be said that it must be a most concerned part for every couple.
The women gathered at the wedding venue, blowing conch-shells, are one of the most important characteristic of a Bengali Marriage ceremony. Shehnai recital played by live musicians or else played over a music system adds to this symphony. The purpose is to draw the attention of all and sundry to the wedding and also to summon the invitees. It is also a kind of social declaration from the family to the rest of the society.
Ashirbaad â In this auspicious day, the family members and relatives of the groom's side go to bless the bride and vice versa, by sprinkling husked rice and trefoil on their heads and giving them gold ornaments as blessings. It is a kind of acceptance of the boy and the girl on both sides.
Aaiburo Bhaat - This is one of the most important rituals among all where the bride and groom would have their last meal of their bachelorhood, thrown by relatives or friends before the D-day.
Holud Kota - A ceremony where five or seven married women of the household grind turmeric with mortar and pestle and ordained the bride and groom with turmeric paste with the help of any priest âs spiritual speech. This brightens up the bride's complexion and makes her skin glow. Also we can say that turmeric is a holy ingredient which can be used in any auspicious occasion whether it could be for wedding or puja or any other ceremony.
Dodhi Mongol â This ceremony takes place at dawn on the day of marriage, seven married women adorn the bride's hands with the traditional bangles Shakha and Paula - one pair of red and one pair of white bangles, and feed her a meal of curd and rice, the only meal for the entire day until wedding.
Bor Jatri - The members of the groom's house as well as his friends decked up in their best attire and set off to the bride's house where the wedding takes place.
Bor Boron - When the borjatri reaches the wedding venue, usually the brideâs mother along with other relatives come out to welcome the groom and his family by showing the holy earthen lamp, sprinkling trefoil, and husked rice placed on a bamboo winnow (kulo). Then they served sweets and drinks.
Potto Bastra - After the groom is seated at the chadna tola (wedding altar and canopy) â the sanctum sanctorum where only the groom, bride and the priest takes their place, the groom is offered new clothes by the person who is to do the sampradaan - a kind of gift to the boy from the girl's side.
Saat Paak - The bride, usually seated on a low wooden stool called piri which is lifted by her brothers and taken round the groom in seven complete circles. The significance is they are winded up securely to each other.
Mala Bodol - After completing the seven round, still sitting high on the piri, the bride and the groom exchange their garlands thrice. This is the first step in which they accept each other as life partners.
Subho Dristi - After garlanding to one another the bride and the groom are made to look at each other in front of all the assembled invitees. This exchange of loving glance is to initiate them to be together officially by the society.
Sampradan - The bride then takes her place at the chadnatola where an elderly male member of the bride's family hands her over to the groom and the couple's hands are bound by the sacred thread amidst recital of vedic chants and are placed on the mangal ghot - a brass pitcher filled with water that is covered with mango leaves attached to one twig and a green coconut placed on it.
Yagna - The bride and groom sit in front of the sacred fire and chant mantras after the priest. Agni, the fire god is made the divine witness to the marriage.
Saat Paak - Seven circular rounds are taken by the couple around the fire thereby solemnizing the occasion. This means that they are entirely bounded with seven aes of life.
Anjali - This is an offering to the fire. The bride's brother puts puffed rice (khoi) in the hands of the bride, and the groom standing back to the bride, round his arms to the bride and holds her hands from the back. They then pour the offering into the fire together.
Sindoor Daan and Ghomta - Once again seated at their respective places in chadnatola, the groom applies sindoor or vermilion (a symbol of marriage worn by Hindu women thereafter) on the bride's hair-parting. The bride then covers her head with a new sari offered by the groom as ghomta or veil.
Bidaai - This is a farewell - mixed moment of joy and sorrow as the bride is bid adieu with blessings of her parents and relatives to start a new life with her beau.
Kaalratri- After the couple reaches the groom's house and the initial welcome ceremony is over they are separated for the night, probably to get a refreshing sleep and prepare for the next day's final wedding ceremony.
Bou Bhaat & Bodhu Boron - The girl cooks and serves all the members of her husband's family. A banquet is held to treat the guests who lavish gifts on the new bride.
Phool Shojja - The couple is adorned with flowers and are left together alone in their room to enjoy conjugal bliss on a bed laid with flowers.
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