Ask the PolyQuad

Q:"What's everyone's favorite food, movie,and animal?"

A:"Lasagna, Love Actually, and Tiny Goats."

C:"Spaghetti, City of Lost Children, and Sight Hounds."

R:"Mashed Potatoes, Hocus Pocus, and Tropical Fish."

Q: "I have a friend that I have feelings for, and my boyfriend and I have spoken many times about things and have decided that poly is a thing we could do(as it's always been what I felt was right for myself) how should I approach my friend or other potential lovers about being a part of a poly relationship?"

Examples of monogamous privilege. If you want your privilege submitted anonymously, please indicate...

Q: "So is this Chris basically with 3 cis female-bodied people? Are there any other "male" involvements? Depending on how you answer this question I could think you're either the most liberated and progressive people ever or this is yet another form of traditional patriarchal, oppressive polygyny just disguised in liberal tappings."

C: "Wow. First, Tenna has a few male playmates. Second, our configuration is not really your business."

A: "Whats with the "male" in quotes? We're not telling you about our junk. Yes 3/4 of us are cis, Robin's Agender. 

Also fuck you, asshole."

T: "Haha! I told you you should stop wearing my pants!"

Q:"This may have been covered previously but were any of you an existing mono couple before finding poly?"

C:"Tenna and I were probably the closest to it, but even then, with her being so active in the BDSM scene, she insisted on a relationship that was at least open enough for her to continue being in scenes."

Q: "I'm having a dilemma. My primary partner has had a failing marriage for years now. I'd like to say it doesn't affect me, but it does. I tried my best to help, but there was really nothing I could do. They don't talk, share schedules, spend time alone, or really even pretend to maintain a relationship...outside of him faking it for the kids, and her half heartedly faking. The kids often ask him if she's happy, if she loves him, or things like that. What do I do in this situation?"

A: "   Support him. Just do your best to be a good partner. It's hard, but what he does about his marriage is his thing. You can offer advice if he asks, but there's not really anything else you can do about it. 

Q: "My partners and I (metafetishism and languagewench) share a blog with another partner (golden-marahute), and are seriously considering moving in together. Part of the idea of combining resources for the group as a whole to have some buying power is to form an LLC or some other company form that depends on our income and can be used by all officers (members of the house). Any advice for something like this?"

Q: "I recently followed, so you may have answered this before, but how did you end up in a poly relationship?"

C: "Tenna and I had been dancing around getting together for a long time. Not long after we did, with her insistance on an open relationship, I met Amanda."

T: "I was iffy about Manda at first, but Chris was WAY into her. I expected a Vee, but then I got to know her better."

A: "It was weird at first with  Chris and Tenna, but soon I loved it. Thenmy online friend Robin joined us"