*｡･+ Synastry Observations +･｡*
I'm not an astrologer so please take these notes with a grain of salt. Everything is based on my own personal experiences and observations.
And I've tried my best to put it on the table as it is cause in my opinion we often idealise good aspects and ignore the difficult ones or romanticise the difficult ones and ignore the easier ones according to our own convenience. Which is not beneficial in a long run.
So yeah, not every mars opposite venus has that explosive attraction. Sometimes its just constant disagreements and rising insecurities within the relationship, which again, may apply to you or may not.
°~☆ Venus Square Pluto in worst cases is a down bad evil and dark placement to have in synastry. You'd expect Pluto to be possessive, obsessed and corrupting Venus. But have you seen Venus getting triggered? Triggered Venus is legit another form of Lilith. And when lilith doesn't get what she wants...she destroys it instead. Very vengeful. Can't stay happy together and won't let you stay happy while being apart either.
For ex. I had this synastry with a guy and after we ended things, he didn't react at all. But as soon as he knew I was interested in someone else, his behavior completely changed. He became clingy, warned me to stay away from that dude and started picking fights. When I stood my ground regardless, he schemed in silence. Only after completely ruining my relationship did he finally find peace. Irony is, he didn't really want me, he just couldn't watch someone else having me.
°~☆ Nothing is more comforting and soultouching than Psyche conjuct ascendant synastry. I swear, the Psyche person can just understand ascendant better than they understand themselves. There is a "I get you." Connection between these two. You can fake your emotions to 99 people in a room but Psyche will always know. Its more of an psychic bond where ascendant feels most safe with Psyche and will trust her with anything as if Psyche can read mind.
°~☆ I've noticed.... I find people with taurus mars and their voice super hot. Orgasmic voice for real. Then I realised its not really Taurus Mars in general but people having their Mars in my 3rd house. Its so attractive that everysingle one of them could bring me to my knees just by saying a few words help~
°~☆ Moon in 1st house / Conjuct Ascendant is so sweet. Its kinda similar to Psyche conjuct ascendant but different. Here, moon can notice even the slightest bit of change in ascendant person's mood just by existing together. Like how Psyche had mind to mind link, moon is more of an instinct based connection, being fully aware of each others habits and even smallest indifferences. Very nurturing and caring.
°~☆ The only guy I ever saw a future with— holding hands together as we grow old and building a home and a family together, had his IC conjuct my Northnode. It always felt so natural like it was meant to be. His home felt like where I truly belong and he felt the same. To him, I was home, his peace, his comfort zone, something that had always belonged with him. And to me he was my destiny, a missing piece that I finally found. Letting each other go would feel like letting go of something significant to each other's soul.
°~☆ The chances of getting attached emotionally are way higher when it comes to Moon in 3rd house synastry. You can’t stay quiet around each other. Conversations can exceed time limit and you guys won't even realise when its morning. I think its easier for the house person to initially talk nonstop while the moon person understands, encourages and loves to listen. Think like this... moon is a small kid, he enters the 3rd house, house person welcomes him with warmth, hospitality, endless Conversations and mutual understanding which makes the moon comfortable and put his guard down faster than expected, bringing out his true feelings which leads to heart to heart talks.
°~☆ I have this accompanied with moon in 12th house synastry. Its kinda roller coaster since then. My moon wasn’t really comfortable in his 12th house in the beginning. It took a lot of trust and deep conversations to build something real from scratch. Cause lets be honest, he wasn't comfortable with having me in his shadow side either. While I was intimidated by what I'd found there, I was also intrigued. And he didn't know how to make me feel home in the darkest, unrecognized parts of his soul without laying completely bare. Our conversations often ended up on the other side of the universe where reality, fantasies and dreams get merged... and I definitely can’t sleep without talking to him every night :)
°~☆ If you need to get your bad habits and messed up schedule in control, please contact someone with their Saturn in your 6th house. Trust me, they'll guide you better than mentor. So what if you end up hearing some beautiful curse words before. Its given considering how fucked up your situation is. But they'll sort it out, you can contact them even for the smallest inconvenience and they'll help. The only downside is, they might get a bit too strict to handle and might get overboard with putting structure into your daily life. Especially if you’re not following their advice. They don't like me procrastinating stuff but when they do the same, its supposed to be normal since they can get it done 1 sec before time. Note the sarcasm
°~☆ Saturn in 8th house is— initially house person feeling restricted by saturn when it comes to expressing themselves sexually. I've been at both ends and there was always some kind of barrier. Being saturn... always holding back when it came to sexual intimacy. And being house person I was often left frustrated by the saturn. I mean... yk there is a lot of tension between us, so much chemistry and its so hard to control then why tf are you not doing anything? Why turn me on and then pretend nothing happened? The good part is... once the barrier is removed, it'll be one of the best and most satisfying experience ever. Also... don't even bother with ego battles. Saturn knows how to put you in your place.
°~☆ Venus in the 11th house in synastry can be a bit tricky sometimes. It can also mean that you two met online, or that your connection has some kind of social media presence—like constantly FaceTiming, having mutual online friends, meeting through a friend group, or spending quality time together over the internet. This relationship isn’t clingy, and it’s less likely to be controlling or obsessive unless other placements intensify it. There’s a lot of freedom here, the willingness to share things without feeling forced or pressured to do so. I had this placement vice versa with him, and not gonna lie, we vibed a lot before things got serious. It’s definitely a major friends-with-benefits or friends-to-lovers trope. On the other hand, the house person might just see Venus as a good friend and nothing more, while Venus could end up having a big crush on them.
°~☆ Nessus in 1st house has to be a death sentence wrapped in gold. The massive amount of sexual tension and heat you feel while being in the same room is unbelievable. Some will say in worst cases house person suffers the most. But what I've observed so far is that its nessus who loses the control. I've been the nessus person as well as the house person and it was easier being the house person than nessus. Nessus is kind of obsessed and attached beyond persuasion. No one can help them until they help themselves or get ruined completely for the sake of house person. They want the house person like no other while the house person? They enjoy the attention and can sleep a lot better knowing someone is stalking their profile at nights. I still don't understand how can someone be so comfortable with a psychopath let lose on themselves. But it is what it is. Also, I'm gonna clarify a bit more. Even tho its nessus who gets affected initially, once the fog is lifted and they decide to move on, the game is over. They leave a very deep imprint after going. And its almost impossible to move on from them. Maybe that's why they say house person gets hurt the most in a long run. Also Nessus might backbitch about the house person but house person will always view nessus in a good light, won't hear a single thing against them nor speak of it and still act like a bish sometimes....to nessus only. Very very toxic and push-pull situation.
°~☆ Seen anyone talk like a stranger to their partner in a public setting one moment then slipping in cute nicknames just to make sure you all know they still together. Mercury in 10th house coded. Its kinda cute when you wanna be professional and personal at the same time. This couple thinks no one notices cause they control their PDA to the max but its actually the opposite. Everyone notices, thanks to the 10th house. Words of mercury can literally have a huge impact on the house person's image. Usually house person avoids the PDA but I've seen mercury gossip a lot about house person. Not so private After all. Might seem detached at points but not private.
°~☆ Pluto in 12th house synastry makes the Pluto person see through the 12th house. Hidden obsession and emotional possessiveness might arise from Pluto. House person is usually too deeply invested in the relationship but only notices Pluto when their shadow self needs validation. And no one can kiss darkness better than Pluto. 12th house person feels safe and comfortable to share all their secrets and hidden desires to Pluto without the fear of exploitation. And Pluto thrives in that.
°~☆ Asteroid Sado conjuct persephone creates a primal urge to capture and ruin. Sado is connected to control, pain, obsession and all taboo things while persephone has themes of being captured and manhandled. Which instantly attracts sado person, evoking instincts too abrupt and dark to comprehend. There is a duality of darkness and light, might lead to toxicity if not handled well.
°~☆ Pluto conjunct asteroid Bacchus in synastry is a drug. Sexual symphony is so high that it can overpower psychological hold of conscience. Everything seems perfect as long as you both spend time together. But this can lead to a cycle through explosive highs and crushing lows. Often mistaking drama for depth. Depending on what the Pluto is in, can indicate how Pluto deals with the jealousy and control issues when it comes to Bacchus person. The least detectable sign according to me is Sagittarius because they play it so cool that you will only realise it once everything starts piling up and they explode. Also, what I've experienced is that there is always some theme of secrecy and betrayal with the Pluto person in this synastry. Always remember not all dark obsessive placements scream dark romance. Some also hint at pain, betrayals, psychological trauma and boundary less behaviors which will not end up being nice for you. This placement is extremely sexual but also taboo.
°~☆ Someone said Ceres conjuct Eros and I heard mommy kink. I'm pretty sure one of you calls the other mommy. Eros person gets turned on by the nurturing and caring side of Ceres. And Ceres gets seduced by the Eros because of how they respond.
°~☆ Ceres conjuct pluto is such a safe haven type of placement. Imagine getting stripped of all your darkest secrets infront of Ceres and still being cared for unconditionally. The type of placement I expect to see in a person's chart who gets accepted for all his flaws irrespective of the past by his partner. Ceres is very forgiving towards Pluto and loves his darkness like a mother loves his child.
°~☆ Asteroid Tantalus conjuct Pluto can be an intense aspect to have. Pluto might feel the psychological bonding with Tantalus is almost there but not quite. One moment you feel you are connected and the next they hurt you again and you're back to square one. The original story of the asteroid might also repeat itself. Tantalus betraying Pluto and then submerging into an endless craving after Pluto's withdrawal cause Pluto is not so forgiving. Later Tantalus can get addicted to Pluto even after knowing this desire is a trap. He might face unfulfilled longing and keep trying to reach Pluto which is just a shame cycle.
°~☆ Asteroid Pan conjuct Descendant is another aspect that can indicate a relationship that becomes a chase. Descendant person runs, pan follows. Or Pan startles and Descendant recoils. Can be an on-off situation too. Yes, there is enormous sexual tension and both can't keep their hands off each other but physical intimacy is never polite or predictable and yet its as exciting at the same time.
°~☆ It really feels like you got hit by a cupid when you have someone’s Asteroid Cupido conjuct sun. Both feel socially alive and all giddy around each other. Cupid person sees Sun as their one and only. While the Sun person feels attracted to the cupid and adores them a lot. But often the dynamic stays asthetically pleasing, never going deep. You both might try to avoid conflicts, vulnerability or real intimacy because of the shallow front.
°~☆ H22 (priapus) in the first house creates almost undeniable raw sexual desire towards the house person. The house person might be just their type and even if not, that won't matter as they will be attracted to each other immediately irrespective of anything. There is so much chemistry and tension amidst them that foreplay is unnecessary for the asteroid person because their partner's very existence is the trigger.
°~☆ Asteroid Prevert in 1st house is that husband who can't stop checking out his wife every 2 minutes. And had installed transparent glass bathroom in their room so that he can enjoy the view while she takes a bath. But then that's the cute stuff. Now imagine him installing a cameras in your private space and watches you 24/7... secretly, stalks you and acts like a creep. Mhmm... be aware folks. Pervert ain't a nice word.
°~☆ The most scandalous relationships existing definitely have Lilith in 8th house synastry. I had two of them... ahem. So I know what I'm saying. Both situations were risky af. Nothing sort of cheating but it can be that too who knows... Very transformative and life changing relations which won't be seen in a good light, atleast for a while.
°~☆ Venus in 1st house and Venus being lovesick for house person is mandatory. Venus will like everything about them and will have a huge crush on the house person. Its such a beautifully placement. Oh, to be admired for beings the prettiest person in the world. That's what the house person is for Venus. This placement can help heal multiple insecurities that the house person might be facing. On the other hand, house person adores Venus and can't help but blush in their presence. Its cuteee.
°~☆ I've seen usually with having Lilith in 7th house synastry, Lilith is often a third person in house person's relation. Ik someone who hit on his bestfriends crush and successfully managed to get her. He had his Lilith in both the girl's and the bestfriend's 7th house.
°~☆ Mars in 5th house makes the mars person want to have kids with the house person or vice versa. I had this with someone and I wanted to be the mother of his kids real bad. We envisioned us having kids together and he wanted it as bad as I did. Not to forget the passion and creativity that we had together for things we loved doing together.
°~☆ Nothing pains like Nessus conjuct Chiron in synastry does. Its insanely fucked situation. Both asteroids speak for themselves. Nessus the embodiment of evil and chiron, the wound. If you keep rubbing salt on unhealed wounds, pain is gotta be brutal. Nessus might not even do it intentionally and everything can trigger chiron. Smallest issues will get bigger and bigger until there is no other option than to stay or leave. And even so, they'll choose to stay. Cause going away seems like sacrificing your soul. Repeated cycles of power imbalance and emotional abuse will tie them further to each other and the definition of love will be forever lost. They will never be the same again. And this will the new normal for them. Honestly, very toxic placement. Can't go, can't stay. Forget moving on. Even after breaking up, chances are pretty high that you'll will face each other again and again.
