Trying To Live My Best Life

Day 1: knives

I say this with all the gentleness in my heart: It is okay for you to be a man. If you want to be a man, you can just be one. You also don't have to stop being a woman to be a man. Multigender people exist. You can be a man and a woman at the same time. Or you can be just a man, or a non-binary man, or non-binary, or something entirely different. You can do and be whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.

Becoming a man is not a betrayal of womanhood and feminism. And everyone who makes you feel like it is an absolute asshole, and you should not ever listen to them. You do not have to push your own happiness aside for other peoples' comfort.

If you want to be a man, try it out! See where it gets you. Maybe it turns out that you really weren't trans, or not a trans man but something else entirely, and that's fine, too. Maybe it turns out you are a trans man. In any case, following those thoughts might get you to a happier and better place in the end. And if you turn out to be happier as a man than you were as a woman, that is wonderful.

Please don't feel forced to stay a cis woman for feminism - any feminism that mistreats or hates trans men and transmasculine people is bad feminism. Being a trans man or transmasc is not a moral failure.

I know what it feels like. It can get better.

All of this also goes for trans men and transmasculine people who still struggle with such thoughts, of course. It doesn't just go away the second you realize you are trans.

Hell, you can just decide one day that you are a man and change nothing about your life if you want to. The possibilities are endless. Transmasculinity is not a loss, a lessening, a closing of doors. It does not mean you are boring or traditionalist or falling in line with the status quo. It's cool as fuck, actually, and takes a lot of bravery and determination.

Me at the slightest tf2 reference:

sniper as a young and older man