just a little ask about journalin together, if i may. im not much of a wrter but how does it work? isn't writing about the relationship rather than living it missing the point? do you use rituals to avoid reality like some mumbojumbo over-mediated escape? at what stage reflection becomes a substitute for experience?
forgive the interruption, sweethearts. pls return to whatever it was you were documenting.
#if you are reading this, reality is elsewhere.
It helps us understand each other on a deeper level.
Touching his body, mind, and soul with my words before my hands ever could is beautiful. He is not braille, I do not need to touch him to know him or love him.
Journaling together is also healthy not just for your own mental by yourself but together as a unit doode :) they even teach you that in therapy!
It’s a level of intimacy sex can’t even reach.
We get to provide a lot of things for one another in our poems and writings like:
Safe private spaces for processing emotions (we love an emotionally regulated couple)
Exploring our personal identities together
Building severe emotional intimacy
Always improving communication
Journaling gives me such a better, deeper understanding of bear, his feelings, and thoughts. Writing gives me the chance to express my thoughts, emotions, and brain to him more calmly and intentionally. I am also really shy, so writing gives me the chance to say or write things I am too scared to do out loud a lot of the times. I love being able to give that to bear and be this stability for him, and I’m glad he can be the same for me.
I’m truly sorry you haven’t experienced a healthy relationship before. This isn’t abnormal, writing for and to eachother.
Also avoiding reality? Actually what are you even on about? Haha you don’t know me or bear, we’re very much present in reality. Besides our tumblrs, I think some of you forget you don’t actually really know us. What we do. Anything. You see what we’ve curated and allowed people to see, just like anyone else does.
but um.. thanks for sharing your perspective.
I think our world is great.
You should come visit sometime, lol.
I feel really sorry that you’ll never get to experience something like this, really. You’re honestly completely clueless.