i’ve started replacing “i want to die” with “i feel overwhelmed” in my internal monologue, which is usually more accurate and more productive
ive been working on replacing ‘im so stupid’ with ‘im so silly’ and it has the same effect!
“I can’t do this” -> This will be a challenge for me, it’s normal to feel intimidated
“I hate this” -> This is a tough situation to handle and I’m doing my best
“I hate myself” -> I’m struggling with low self esteem right now, I need to support myself as I would a friend
“I can’t believe I forgot again” -> It’s tough to balance so many things, maybe I need to let go of some of them
“They’re not going to like me” -> I don’t have to perform for anyone, my personality is valid and loveable just as is
The list could go on and on…
Redirecting the “blame” from yourself and recognizing that you are a human suffering through normal, difficult human experiences is important. Support yourself like you’d support any of your close friends if they said these things.
I can’t tell you how delighted I am to see Actual Scripted Examples!
I’ve known I need to modify my self-talk like this for three+ years, and I’ve been trying for that long, but I never know what to replace it with. So the examples are super incredibly helpful, thank you so much. ~<333
My revolutionary phrase has been “I am not having fun right now.” Because instead of exaggerating/catastrophizing, I usually go in the opposite direction: every time I think “I can’t take this,” the logician in my brain reminds me that *technically* I can, and so it’s not a problem. I’m capable of withstanding a hell of a lot, so waiting until I hit “I actually literally cannot take this for one more single second” is generally not the best idea. But reframing to “I am not having fun with this” has let me modify or straight up quit uncomfortable things much sooner, because it doesn’t have to be that bad for me to acknowledge that I’m not having fun anymore, and once I acknowledge that it’s easier to give myself permission to make a change!

























