Androgyn Style

It’s National Coming Out Day!

Coming out is a serious step for most LGBT and queer people. They not only risk to confront the change of closest folks’ attitude, inadequate reactions, they even risk their lives and health.

When your romantic or sexual preferences differ from what’s considered normal, you have much more chances to hide the secret if you need to. For transgender people it’s a lot more difficult. 

You don’t understand the existing gender roles at all. The standarts don’t leave you any air to breathe, you have to play another person’s part. You can’t do it well, since the real you will slip through the hateful mask out one way or another.  

Your daily life consists of hiding yourself, constantly pretending to be someone else, getting even more confused because of it, not knowing why you’re here or does this world need you at all… It’s an endless espionage game, and you’re a spy among enemies. You can rest from it only at home for several hours, surely, if you live alone or with people who understand and support you. How can we find strength to leave our rooms, the only places where we can be ourselves? It’s a torture - those hours, days and years of struggling to understand why everything goes this way, what’s your mistake and who you really are if you’re not the person everyone else sees in you.

It would be much easier to explore your genuine self, to get what’s happening around you and why you don’t always fit to these surroundings, if there were more brave people telling their true stories. We need more people who can inspire others to think “oh, their stories are similar to mine, I’m the same, now I know that I’m okay and the system is not. I’m not a feminine gay guy or a butch girl. Even if I had conflicts in my family or problems with the opposite sex parent, it didn’t make me trans. I am just me”. Is there something more important than being yourself and not wanting to be someone else?