The Spider's Web

Then getting hornier when tickled.

And the vicious cycle escalating to becoming unbearably ticklish due to feeling incredibly horny.

I wrote a character experiencing that and it was the hottest thing ever. 🥵

I love the idea of someone trapped by the involuntary escalation of their physical reactions, and it's certainly one reason I love tickling.

But to add the extra layer of one reaction escalating the other... Increasing the helplessness against the increasing pleasure/agony in an endless loop?

I'm really into humiliation in a variety of ways, and it's a complicated relationship because I'm interested in some uniquely sick stuff sometimes, and I often wonder why this desire is so specific and so powerful. It's something I seek more information about, but pretty much everything focused on the sub and the desire to have xyz thing done to them.

Am I alone in thinking the two points of view have some things in common, but some critical differences, too?

The way the content I've found reads, you'd think doms have no desires of their own. It's often presented as simply "I enjoy whatever my sub enjoys."

Perhaps for some, domination works for them no matter what form it takes. And while that may be true, it often feels to me like the dom's desire is an afterthought, because I really don't think that's most people in the kink community, active or not.

Maybe I'm just one of the few who cares about this.

At this point in my life, I'm doing a lot of personal healing this last decade, and the psychological meaning of these kinks feel important to understand. And if there was no meaningful difference in the origins or meaning of desires between dominant and sub, then why aren't we all switches? Clearly, that's not the case, and I think there are good reasons why.