The Spider's Web

I'm really into humiliation in a variety of ways, and it's a complicated relationship because I'm interested in some uniquely sick stuff sometimes, and I often wonder why this desire is so specific and so powerful. It's something I seek more information about, but pretty much everything focused on the sub and the desire to have xyz thing done to them.

Am I alone in thinking the two points of view have some things in common, but some critical differences, too?

The way the content I've found reads, you'd think doms have no desires of their own. It's often presented as simply "I enjoy whatever my sub enjoys."

Perhaps for some, domination works for them no matter what form it takes. And while that may be true, it often feels to me like the dom's desire is an afterthought, because I really don't think that's most people in the kink community, active or not.

Maybe I'm just one of the few who cares about this.

At this point in my life, I'm doing a lot of personal healing this last decade, and the psychological meaning of these kinks feel important to understand. And if there was no meaningful difference in the origins or meaning of desires between dominant and sub, then why aren't we all switches? Clearly, that's not the case, and I think there are good reasons why.

Nothing can make me bounce back to attraction to men rn. It's gonna be women only for a good, long--

Oh... fuck. 😅😳

I already want to do unholy things to this man.🫠🔥💖

Only this level of Hibernian charm could've turned me.