The Spectrum Of 'A'

Hello Aces,

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Age 11: LOL what was I thinking of course I get crushes! The other kids say you get butterflies in your stomach and my tummy feels weird whenever I’m around people… do I have a crush on everyone?

Me:

Character that's oblivious to romantic coded things and doesn't pick up on flirting or romance in general: *exists*

Me:

Character that doesn't show interest in romance: *exists*

Me:

Character that doesn't understand romance: *exists*

Me:

Please don’t get me started about how the labels historically had more flux before policing became such a meme to get rid of the “unworthy” or the “lacking of gold star”. Please instead read here about that if you are so interested.

Now your question is hey, why aces have a spectrum of identity and not others labels? Wa-bam! Other labels do have a spectrum and I can show you instead of just saying communities simply allowed it before.

This is The Kinsey scale used in research to describe a person's sexual orientation based on one’s experience. The scale typically ranges from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to a 6, meaning exclusively 1948!! (Asexuals were x on this list we’ll get back that later)

Now I personally refer to anything from 1-5 as bisexual. 1-5 would be a “bisexual scale”. There’s no practical use for bisexuals to differentiate themselves but you will see biphobia on anyone not a 3. And in bi communities any differences between 1-5 are just labeled as preference.

Now let’s say, someone is a 5 but really believes and likes and finds self value and worth in being gay. According to a strict (and overly cruel) Kinsey reading they aren’t “exclusively homosexual” but they get to draw their own lines for their own identity and label. But with another overly strict and cruel labeling using terms that were never designed to play together applied to snap shot of sexuality a 5 that feels like a lesbian hypothetically could be a grey lesbian. But again that’s not how the community is organized and really a misuse of ace terms because asexuality is X (Still getting to this!!)

I also know plenty of 1 / 1.5 straight people who personally draw the line of themselves and say I’m not bisexual. That’s also their absolute right as a person.

I believe your confusion point of “why do aces have a spectrum, and not others” is hopefully cleared up. Other sexualities have a spectrum it’s just not their focus.

Okay so why is it an ace focus?

So the Kinsey scale is a crude 2D map from heterosexuality to homosexuality. Now Kinsey’s X of asexuality is another axis. From allosexuality to asexuality. And since that axis is really only important to denote limited to no sexual attaction it’s in our benefit to stay grouped together. Similar to how it’s in bisexuals benefit to stick together because they are defined by their multi-gendered attraction and aces are defined by their lack of gendered attraction. And just like how it’s biphobia to be like “ew get out of here 2” it’s acephobia for people to be like “ew get out of here demisexual you’re your own thing, we’re the pure ones.” Like blah makes me sick to even type.

BUT IS ACTUALLY

This is Sir. Booferville VII and he will fight the cobs for you!

Pages 52, 53, 54, 55, and 56 all at once!!!  Whaaat?!

Just because I didn’t include every single flag doesn’t make you any less valid.

#StayProud 🏳‍🌈

(Edit: I added the lesbian flag now bc I accidentally left it out at first)

You aren't negatively impacting how autistic people are viewed

Ableist opinions are not your responsibility

You are a real person and not #representation(tm)

You are Incredible and amazing

You still deserve love in any form you'd like

You deserve to have your boundaries respected