A year ago, someone came to our hospital. He's a new staff. Filipino, so it wasn't that hard to start conversations with. He's still adjusting to the workplace. Since he's new, almost everyone's talking about him from where he came from, how old is he, which area he would be assigned because at that time he can be seen in the ward then sometimes he's with the IPC. Eventually, he was able to adjust and our first encounter was when he noted that the ER and ICU staff who attended the code in our isolation room didn't wear n95 mask which caused me to be reprimanded because he told that, there were no n95 mask in the room and as head of the unit it's under my responsibility to provide the mask. It was his head who reprimanded me. After that, since I'm kind of reactive that time, I was irritated at him for telling his head, which is actually his job. We settled the incident but I was aloof with him due to that incident. There were encounters in between, next was when the MOH made rounds, it was me and him assigned to explain isolation precautions. I helped him to finish what he needs to say. He said thank you. Days passed and I was transferring a patient to the x-ray department, unfortunately, the patient is post hip replacement and she's big, add to that, she's VIP. We had problem during transfer. He's in the same floor and I called him for help. That time we're already okay. I can ask him for work favors and he was kind enough to do things for everyone in the hospital. There was a pageant that time and we need votes to win, he told me that he voted for me, though until now I don't believe that he did because he probably voted for eveyone else too. That time he's trying to get close, there were chats, randomly he'll send me his pictures which annoys me a lot. I was just kind enough to reply to his messages and I really find it unfair if I don't reply because I'm someone who'd want someone to talk to me because they're giving me their time and I'm not doing anything so why not reply, right? So that went on for quite sometime. At the night of the pageant he was asking me to send him a picture of me, all dressed up and prepared for the event. He said he just want to see the one he voted for. I refused, I found it creepy him asking for my picture. Still he continued to chat, send me voice messages of him singing and sending me his pictures. New year's eve 2015, he's chatting again while I was preparing food for everyone. Then he suddenly made a video call, I canceled it, he asked why, I said I don't take video calls. He called up my flatmate and made a video call, I closed the door and didn't open it till they're finished. We just chat until we fell asleep. I didn't told anyone that we're chatting that much. At work we're like a cat and dog fighting. I'm hitting him and always irritated while talking to him. He likes to pester me at work, my staff can attest to it. Though I try to refuse chatting /talking to him, I'm too shy to do so because I know he's wasting his time talking to me and I like talking to someone as well so I didn't told him to stop until he asked me something. January 3, we were chatting and he suddenly dropped the conversation ender. He was asking if he could court me. I was like, dude, you only knew me for how many days? And you want to court me, are you crazy? I said no. That time, I also like someone else so I said no. He told me I love you in his dialect which I had to google because I can't understand it. I said no. It was a short time for him to discern that he likes me to the point that he decided to court me. He just said, in time if we'll have a chance again, he hopes that we're still single. I just said, we could only be friends and we'll see. The conversations got awkward and we seldom chat after that. At work, I was avoiding him, I know it's easy for him but for me I really, really felt awkward, I didn't tell anybody about this. So it was obvious that I'm avoiding him. But it was getting obvious also to everyone that he likes me a lot. Then he started to address me "friend" . I started talking more about the guy I like, even he's in front of me. Months went like that, he's still initiating a conversation, I reply but less than before and there was a big issue which included him, which made me more aloof to him. And he was being talked about that he like so many girls in the hospital. Which was a turn off, he has a vice also so another turn off. But he continued to message once in a while, sending me voice messages while he's singing,initiate conversation at work, listen to my rants, sitting with me if I'm irritated and about to cry. He really stayed as a friend to me and to everyone else. June 22, during a meeting, I received a message from the other guy, he kinda said we'll stay friends and I need to find someone who'll be with me in our supposed to be trips. We had plans and those were canceled already because he said so. It made me sad, I was also talking to him that day because of the meeting and he pissed me off that day that's why he's saying sorry. Suddenly, I told him that I was sad and I need ice cream. At night we had a lecture and he brought me ice cream. We were chatting during the lecture, he said he left the ice cream at my unit's refrigerator. When I saw it, there were too much ice cream. I know I'm sad but I know also that I won't finish it all. He asked me what happened, told him that I was friendzoned (hate that word). After that we talked and chat more. It may seem rebound to everyone but from the time I told him to not court me, he stayed. Despite the issues, other girls, hitting and being aloof, he was still there. He waited for his turn, tho we became impatient (because there were other girls too! π‘) I gave it to him because I think he deserved it, and he has a point. Though he was linked to other girls, I'm the only one he asked to court and he waited for even if I like someone else. I really felt he's serious with me. From chat, he started to make calls, that time video call and calls by FB were about to be ban in KSA. So he can't call me, he spent load to call me after work. We try to find ways to make video calls eventually. So after two weeks, he said he has a project on the holidays (eid), I asked him what it is, he said first it was a secret but he's afraid that I'll get angry. He told me that he'll call my parents to ask if it's ok for them that he'll court me.
