Always Anal

“Anal sex gets a bad reputation for a few different reasons. The main reason is that anal sex is often portrayed in porn as a power-dynamic with the woman being submissive to the man's desires.

There is so much "It hurts," "It's gross," "You're a slut," or "I only do it to please my man" dialogue. Unfortunately, anal sex isn't something that women openly admit to trying, never mind openly admit to enjoying.

IS IT NORMAL THAT I PREFER ANAL TO VAGINAL SEX?

TOTALLY NORMAL

Bum fun may have the rep as a sexual treat you only offer up on birthdays and anniversaries but, while just less than half of women have had anal sex, orgasm rates are actually higher for women who indulge in a little anal play than those who have straightforward vaginal sex.

“Q: We have a great sex life and we’re totally in love! He doesn’t seem to have much of an interest in my vagina — and my vagina, in my mind, is kinda the main thing that makes me a female sexual being. He likes my breasts and loves my butt, but he (literally) never goes down on me and I get the feeling that he only fingers me because he knows I like it, not because he does. He also prefers anal sex to vaginal sex.

A: As a firm believer in the spectrum of human experience, I don’t believe that your boyfriend’s lack of interest in your vagina “makes him” gay. He can definitely identify as straight and just honestly not like your vagina that much. Or he can be attracted to you, but just not like that kind of sex. “

“A lot of tension gets stored in the ass—physically and energetically.By opening up the area, we are forcing ourselves to relax and to let go deep within ourselves. Gently prying, relaxing and penetration can be just what we need to access the inaccessible.You are practicing the art of letting go.Being penetrated, in an area as sensitive as the ass, incrementally opens you. On all levels of your being. It teaches you how to relax and surrender. And fall into the unknown.

Anal play can be practiced in men and women. Both sexes can have anally-induced orgasms.

Some women climax even harder through anal sex than through vaginal.

Anal is the new pussy

Anal sex provides a completely different set of feelings during orgasms for both partners. Not only are the pleasurable sensations different, anal sex can also help enhance a couple’s sense of intimacy.

Some couples are turning to anal sex as an alternative to vaginal penetration. This can be due to a number of reasons, including health conditions.

Over 36% of women recently reported having anal sex at least once, and this increase can also be caused by society’s general acceptance that sexual intercourse is meant to be enjoyed. It is not an act to be performed only for procreation. 

With more couples willing to experiment with new sexual positions, anal sex has become less of a taboo subject and more of a normal and healthy sexual relationship. Over 44% of all heterosexual men admitted to engaging in anal sex.

An apprehensive reader asks:

“My husband and I really enjoy anal sex. I need a lot of foreplay, and it always kind of hurts at first, but once we get going, it feels really good and makes me climax. I have two questions for you, though. The first is, why does this feel good and give me orgasms? I don’t get the anatomy of this. It seems to me there is nothing in there that should feel this good. Secondly, what are the long-term effects of anal sex? My husband would have it all the time if I let him, but I try to keep it to once a month due to the fact that it takes a lot of time to warm me up and sometimes I’m just not into the initial pain involved. I’m also afraid that, if we do it too frequently, the long-term effects could be negative.“

Part of the problem not addressed in the article is that the reason it can hurt at first is because she isn’t having enough anal - once a month simply isn’t frequent enough to get the anus in physical condition for sex.

Still, the response gets it right in one respect:

“When it comes to anal sex, you’ve got several feel-good nerves working for you, including the pelvic nerve running to the rectum and the pudendal nerve to the muscles surrounding the anus. So your orgasms back there are perfectly — and anatomically — normal.“

The author of the article goes on to list only two possible long term effects. One of them, rough sex, is only temporarily inconvenient, while the other, anal cancer from HPV, is just as likely with vaginal sex and isn’t unique to anal.

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