Alix At Home

Honoring your husband means respecting his opinions, even when they differ from yours, and engaging in conversation—not argument. Honoring your husband means asking him for what you want, not just complaining when he didn’t read your mind.

Your respect for your husband will encourage him to fulfill his duties as the head of the family. He gains the confidence that he can measure up to your expectations and you are always there to support him.

Find out your husband’s primary love language and then find a way to display love to him through that language.

Ask him what he’d like to do…after supper…tonight…this weekend…whatever the situation…and then do your best to make sure he has the time to get it done.

Thank God for him every time you think of him.

Refrain from undermining his authority in front of the children.

Tell things to your husband in a factual way (without the fluff or emotion).

Respond to potentially argumentative conversations with self-control.

Celebrate your husband’s successes.

Answer a perceived insult or accusation from your husband with one of these responses - “What can I do to improve this behaviour ?” “Let’s discuss this together and come up with a solution” “Please, allow me to be better for us.”

Wear clothing that flatters your body but does not flaunt it in front of other men.

Do something your husband enjoys doing with you.

Keep his secrets.

Ask for forgiveness.

Give forgiveness.

Iron his clothes.

Spend his hard-earned money wisel. 

Focus on what he’s doing right.

Be happy and positive when he is home.

Speak honorably about him and to him in front of the kids.

Humbly admit your mistakes.

Avoid nagging.

Refrain from placing the blame on him when something goes wrong.

Respect his stuff; ask before moving or throwing away something that is his.

Work to keep yourself in shape and attractive

Stop what you are doing and look at him when he talks

Refrain from interrupting him when he’s talking

Pray over him when he is going through some tough decisions or stressful situations

Smile at him

Tell him something you admire about him.

Ask him about his day.

Talk positively about him to others.

Thank him for something he’s done.

Give him a space of his own IN the house.

Dress in a way that makes him feel he’s worth it.

Let him pack the car for vacation.

Ask, “what can I do for you today?”

Let him drive.

If going to the store, ask “is there anything I can get for you while I’m at the store?”

Stop what you are doing and welcome him home with a kiss.

Give him a kiss as he walks out the door in the morning.

Get his input on big decisions.

Honor his requests

Let him know you like your life with him

Encourage him in his line of work

Avoid the use of sarcasm when speaking to him.

Say “yes” in bed.

Initiate love making.

Let him know what you like most in bed.

Compliment him often.

Make his favorite meal.

Avoid complaining.

Write him a love note.

Avoid criticizing him…especially in front of others.

Respond to his thoughts and advice with enthusiasm.

Respect his likes and dislikes.

Refrain from comparing him to other men.

Ask for his help.

Kindly try to understand his reasons, even when you don’t agree.

Give him space and time to spend on his hobbies.

Focus on what he’s doing right.

Be happy and positive when he is home.

Speak honorably about him and to him in front of the kids.

Buy his favorite brand of personal care products.

Let him open his own mail.

Laugh at his jokes…or at least smile.

Give him advance warning of family activities, schedules, and events.

Show an interest in topics, hobbies, or occupations he enjoys.

Carve out time to spend with him apart from the children.

Give him time to unwind after work before bombarding him with home life.

Touch him with affection.

Talk together about your family’s goals and how you can achieve them together.

Let him do his “to-do list” in his own time…even if his timing is not your timing.

Defend him if others speak disrespectfully about him.

Send him an encouraging email or text.

Surprise him with a gift of something he’s wanted for some time.

Meet him at his work for lunch.

Meet his co-workers and speak kindly of both him and them.

Reserve some energy for him at the end of the day

Get up when he gets up.

Go to bed when he goes to bed.

Be kind and thoughtful to his parents, siblings, and relatives.

I ask E.

But it goes deeper than permission. I ask his opinion. I bring him my choices, this or that, here or there, and I wait for him to decide. And the moment he does, something in me just... settles.

The anxiety lifts. My shoulders drop. I can breathe.

I didn't fully understand it at first, why someone else making the decision would feel like relief rather than loss. But it does. Every time. There's something profoundly calming about trusting your man enough to hand him the weight of a decision and know he'll carry it well.

The world calls that weakness. I call it the most honest thing I know about myself.

I don't want to carry everything alone. I don't want to deliberate endlessly in my own head. I want to bring it to him, hear what he thinks, watch him make the call... and then simply rest in that.

He decides. I relax. We move forward together.

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