A Taste More Bitter Than Blackest Coffee

“It’s easier for trans men to pass/be stealth!!”

Actually it’s easier for people with very specific bodies (white, thin, average height) with large incomes and supportive families to transition medically in a way which is more likely to conform to strict ideas of ‘man’ and ‘woman’

I swear every time I see someone try to make the argument for one of us having it better they exclusively either cite celebrities (again, see white, rich, thin) or assume that the people they know irl are representative of every trans person.

It also begs the point that YOU DO NOT KNOW IF SOMEONE IS STEALTH UNLESS THEY TELL YOU. No one actually knows how many trans people successfully live as stealth.

Most of the passing trans people I know personally are women, but most of the trans people I know to be stealth are men. I also know far more trans women than I do trans men. Not to ignore the fact that these arguments completely erase non binary people who are pressured to just pick a binary gender to ‘pass’ as because it is functionally impossible to be a ‘stealth’ non binary person.

I am on reddit. Which, yeah, hate me for it, but there are a lot of resources for trans people and I only got my top surgery appointment because of it. One thing I have noticed is that cis male chasers are told off (rightfully so.). Cis women chasers are often not even recognised as such. "I want to date a man but I have trauma with cis men, so I'll only date trans men". "I'm a lesbian dating a transmasc guy who does not feel comfortable with being in a lesbian relationship. I secretly wish he'd detransition". "Trans men are just the better men, they understand me as a woman the way cis men never would!" and similar stuff.

And the comments are nothing but supportive. I have seen simalar things on tumblr or various other social media sites. I luckily have not seen this outside if the Internet very much. At least not this extreme.

I have a very set opinion on this and am biased. I would personally never date someone who wouldn't date a cis man. I am gay and only interested in men, I want to be seen as a man by my partner. I am very uncomfortable with lesbians being into me and have made a bad experience with that. I would not want to date someone who dates me because I'm trans. This is a piece of personal opinion.

Note: This is not aimed against women. Only against chasers of all genders.

you still think aspec representation is a loss for queer representation.

you still can’t see a character with no romantic or sexual interests and interact with them without shipping them.

you still don’t accept people who are aplatonic, afamial, or any other kind of nonrose anattractional.

you still don’t accept alloaces and alloaros, people who are oriented aroace, people who are cupidosexual or cupioromantic, etc.

you still don’t accept hetero aspecs.

you still associate asexuality and aromanticism with whiteness, thinness, conformity, etc.

you still think of arormanticism as something that only occurs in tandem with asexuality.

you still think of aspec adults as lesser than allo adults, infantilize them, etc.

reminds me of how transandrophobes have been harassing trans men/mascs and one reason that gets cited is that we give them dysphoria when we talk about our reproductive rights being violated.

It can also be found on Google Drive here and on Bluesky here.

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