Because real receipts prove something.

Trigger warnings for transmisogyny, cissexism, and misgendering for this post. This is a very long post, and I’ve decided not to place any of it under a cut there’s now a “read more” on this post by popular request. If you want the version without the cut, it is also circulating, check the notes. The post is split into sections for easier reading.

STFUMRAs and Femfaction are “sister blogs” created by the same person, which is why this post is about them both.

Issues with STFUMRAs:

- Keeps claiming trans women have male socialization and privilege

- Groups trans women in with cis men

- Constantly equates periods with womanhood, refuses to stop

- Ignores cis privilege

- Acts as if trans lesbians don’t exist, and that protesting transmisogynistic exclusion from lesbian communities is about trans women trying to force cis women into sex

- Reblogs and follows TWERFs (trans women exclusionary radical feminists) and transmedicalists (people who believe dysphoria is required to be transgender)

- Pretends accusations of transmisogyny & transphobia are fabricated by anti-feminists

- Never condemns transmisogyny & transphobia from followers

Issues with Femfaction:

- All of the same issues as STFUMRAs

- Mods include TWERFs and transmedicalists

- Trans men are encouraged to speak over trans women

Grouping trans women with cis men:

1) Kristi reblogs a joke post that equates men with penises. When asked not to because of transmisogynistic implications, she gets extremely angry and says to “fuck off.” (There is discussion of genital mutilation, violence, and an image of food. Image descriptions are here).

2) (Violence against women, murder, gun violence, rape mention)

TWERFs attempt to smear trans women by making out like they intend to disrupt a protest for the victims of the L’École Polytechnique massacre, just because they hate women and don’t want them remembered (image is of Natalie Reed wearing a jacket that says “Die cis scum” on the back).

The real goal of the counterevent - to protest the fact that virulent transmisogynists are heading up the Day of Remembrance and to discuss transmisogynistic violence - is clarified by a follower. While stfumras reblogged the clarification, there was no apology offered for spreading misinformation or sharing such a post that is blatantly hostile to and about trans women (TWERFs seriously tried to liken trans women’s motivations to that of the man who is behind the massacre) In fact, the misgendering and nasty language was shrugged off with the excuse “well we didn’t write it“!

3) (Ableism)

A post about how “autogynephilia” is real is reblogged to stfumras. “Autogynephilia” is a bullshit theory that claims trans women are just fetishists who are aroused by “dressing up as women.” I’m not claiming those featured in the article are trans women, but it’s obvious the post is meant to support TWERFs’ transmisogynistic beliefs, as evidenced by OP responding to a (rightfully upset) stfumras follower.

When called on the post through an ask, Kristi handwaves away the follower’s concerns of anti-trans posts on the blog (please note this is the same person who corrected the blatant misinformation and smearing of trans women in the previous point because stfumras reblogged without factchecking), excuses it by saying she reblogged the post “for the mention of Shaye Saint John” and claims she’ll look more into the issue later.

One problem: It’s Kristi who mentions Shaye Saint John. Trinitywells is her personal blog.

This blog doesn’t exist because I’m mad she’s a TWERF. This blog exists because she constantly lies about it, and goes to ridiculous lengths to attack people who call her out on anything (e.g. when called on reblogging an anti Semitic user, she published a “defense” from the anti Semite calling the Jewish woman a “h*e” uncritically). Nobody makes callout blogs about TWERFs who don’t deny it because there’s no need.

In response to #Blackout, White supremacists who were angry that we dared to have anything that was ours and that didn’t center them thought they’d “counter” by making a Whiteout tag. While most of us ignored them, White “allies” thought they’d distance themselves from their privilege help by mocking them. This post has a warning for classism.

(Food mentions link one and three) Kristi receives an ask suggesting that people spam the Whiteout tag with “pics of rednecks and hillbillies missing teeth on it.”

When called on the classism and asked to mock White people without mocking poverty, Kristi feigns ignorance (bonus: a White person and current stfumras mod tries to make this about defending White racists) and then actually claims that poverty has nothing to do with it because Duck Dynasty.

(Homophobia, abortion, rape, rape apologism, cissexism) Someone else attempts to call stfumras out on the classist crap, and Kristi stubbornly refuses to admit that there’s any association with poverty and just rants on about ignorance, bigotry, and lack of education. She also says she “doesn’t condone the toothless part”, but she hadn’t actually bothered not condoning it until someone pointed out that they were defending mocking “toothless hillbillies”. It wasn’t objected to until it was convenient to do so.

(Ableist language) Someone suggests that anyone complaining about those terms are just looking to claim White oppression, and the primary person calling stfumras out on this says she’s not even White, and repeats that her gripe is with the classism.

Kristi snaps that “The OP said NOTHING about poor people and only mentioned hillbillies and rednecks, (toothless part I don’t agree with). Stop changing history because you’re getting proven wrong you liar.”

Even if we pretend that the terms “redneck” and “hillbilly” don’t have strong associations with rural poverty, OP specified toothlessness. Kristi “objected” to that part after she realized it would destroy her point entirely, but it was anon who said it in the first place.

So yelling that “the OP said NOTHING about poor people” is a lie, and Kristi is in zero position to claim that anyone else is “changing history because [they’re] getting proven wrong”.

When people tell her she’s overstepping, Kristi yells about her rural family members and acts as if she has the right to talk about these terms because of them, because she grew up in a small town, and because she’s asked for donations before. 

(Racism) Growing up in a small town where people pretended to be Southern (not the same as rural) doesn’t mean you’ll be classed as a “hillbilly” or “redneck”. Being related to people who might be doesn’t matter either (I’ve never been even close to rich just because my grandfather was!). Toothlessness is associated with extreme poverty; needing some financial help to get a divorce is not poverty of the same degree at all.

Even though two other people said that “White trash” was not an acceptable term either and expained how, Kristi kept complaining that CxD was the one “equating” the terms to their actual meanings and that she was the real bigot for pointing out classism (apparently not a real thing to Kristi, as she used scarequotes). Seeing as one of the terms objected to was “White trash”, it’s hypocritical of Kristi to say she understood why it’s an objectionable term but then go on to berate CxD for objecting to it!

Kristi keeps right on with the disgusting tactic of accusing a Native woman of being invested in White supremacy. Even if this were true, this is not her place at all as a White person. She also continues to deny the meaning of the terms and says CxD should “shut up already” and “come off your pedestal.”

Kristi flat out lies about what happened, claiming it all “started when someone told a black person not to call asshole white people hillbillies or rednecks”. While a Black person did step in to claim that this was just a ploy to defend White people, the original ask was by an anon who suggested mocking “rednecks and hillbillies with missing teeth.”

It’s absolutely despicable to rewrite events so that the anon is now definitely a Black person, and so that the words used that make it clear that anon (like most people) associates those terms with poverty are left out. This is a White person being willfully ignorant and pitting brown folks against each other, all because she’s incapable of admitting that she was wrong or speaking out of turn.

More inappropriate responses.

(Gore mention) More accusations of defending Whiteness (speaking of “changing history” to suit you…)

Kristi tries to claim that mocking people for missing teeth (almost like they perhaps couldn’t afford to get treatment to keep them or replacements) is solely about ableism.

First, I want to quickly ask that even if for some reason you’re not convinced that “redneck” and “hillbilly” and “White trash” are classist terms, that you put that aside for a moment and focus on the lying and the backpedaling and the racist overstepping from stfumras. It’s a pattern I’ve already shown in my previous masterpost focusing on transmisogyny.

Second, I didn’t want to leave this without an explanation as to why all this is particularly damaging. First, yes, the terms “redneck” and “hillbilly” and “White trash” are heavily associated with “low class”, uneducated, poor White rural people. I don’t understand how someone can pretend otherwise. Of course the terms aren’t “racist against White people”, but I won’t say they don’t contribute to racism. Let me explain how:

The stereotype is that these people are ignorant and bigoted and oppressive. That may well be true, but by pretending racism is the domain of a subset of White people, we’re ignoring the fact that there are plenty of upper and middle class, well-educated racists. This impression is also really convenient for “liberal” White people, who refuse to accept that yes, they too can be racist, simply because they don’t think they fit the stereotypical image of one.

White supremacy is upheld by all White people, particularly ones with more power. All White people contribute to and benefit from White supremacy. Some are just louder about it.

A reminder that Kristi of stfumras is a White Feminist who responded to a poor Native women’s objections to her classism with gaslighting, mockery, and by accusing her of racism.

Hi there, sorry it took so long for a response; been a bit busy.

[Post by ivyaura:

i don’t rly get how ppl can ignore their Feminist Faves being swerfs especially if you’re friends with sex workers that are super vocal abt SW rights and why ur faves are being harmful like… how can you ignore that just bc they’re mediocre feminist 101 radfems]

Yelling at radfems reblogs this after he pulls this shit

http://actualstfumrasreceipts.tumblr.com/post/134799655935/rikodeine-yelling-at-radfems-said-please-dont#notes

He defended STFUMRAs against accusations of transmisogyny and whorephobia and dismissed any and all criticism of STFUMRAs as faked, but then privately asked a sex worker to do the work of calling her out for him, admitting that he KNOWS she’s a SWERF.

As always, there have been no apologies or even any real acknowledgement of wrongdoing for any of this, just cheap attempts at deflecting criticism or outright ignoring it.

[Post by ivyaura:

i don’t rly get how ppl can ignore their Feminist Faves being swerfs especially if you’re friends with sex workers that are super vocal abt SW rights and why ur faves are being harmful like… how can you ignore that just bc they’re mediocre feminist 101 radfems]

Yelling at radfems reblogs this after he pulls this shit

http://actualstfumrasreceipts.tumblr.com/post/134799655935/rikodeine-yelling-at-radfems-said-please-dont#notes

He defended STFUMRAs against accusations of transmisogyny and whorephobia and dismissed any and all criticism of STFUMRAs as faked, but then privately asked a sex worker to do the work of calling her out for him, admitting that he KNOWS she’s a SWERF.

As always, there have been no apologies or even any real acknowledgement of wrongdoing for any of this, just cheap attempts at deflecting criticism or outright ignoring it.

[yelling-at-radfems said:

please don't reblog that stuff... dthemod originally started the callout by saying stfumras was harassing her (K had reblogged from side blogs she didn't know were D) and only changed it as time went on because people were ignoring her. most of their callout is tailored, removed from context, not K of stfumras at all (she had multiple mods until v recently), or old unlearned stuff. it's all bc of that "uterus bearer" thing. D has never liked being argued with she has a bad rep that way.

yelling-at-radfems said:

if you wanna call stfumras out for something make a post about how she's antiporn, because that will at least be legitimate. and it would also be doing me a favor bc I'm too cowardly to do it myself ;u;

Reply:

i don't really understand what you're asking me here wrt not reblogging something drawing attention to a pattern of transmisogyny (and this is hardly the first post of its kind btw) but asking a sex worker to call out ur friend for their whorephobia cos you dont want to is gross. i deal with enough whorephobia in my own life i'm not going to comb thru someone elses blog for #receipts cos you dont wanna do it urself that shit is already traumatic]

I’m sorry if this is bitchy or whatever but like, @yelling-at-radfems i unfollowed u a while ago bc ur association with STFUMRAs etc made me uncomfortable and I want you to unfollow me also. 

I understand making mistakes before u know better, we’ve all done that i’m pretty sure, but these msgs demonstrate pretty clearly that this isn’t just past stuff, this is current stuff, as do the various receipts being posted over the last few months that i’m catching up on. The posts going around (there are a few) all show repetitive and unrepentant transmisogyny, whorephobia and many other oppressive actions. Here’s a blog that has a lot of them http://actualstfumrasreceipts.tumblr.com/ 

I’m not really sure what to say here cos really you should know better and I don’t know what I can say to make you see that but the fact that Kristi is your friend doesn’t mean any of this is okay and this wasn’t just you defending her (which was bad enough anyway btw) but you participated in lots of this stuff also. These are not the actions of someone who’s an ally to trans women or sex workers or women in general. It’s all right there in that receipts blog I just linked.

If you fuck up, you need to apologize sincerely, do what you can to repair the damage caused, and not do the same thing again. You haven’t done that and neither has Kristi, and neither of you are safe people from what I’ve seen here and I’m only now scratching the surface. I think you should go through these posts, read the links and really think about your actions and how harmful they are. 

As for the Mod D situation, I haven’t read all of it but STFUMRAs has a very long history of transmisogyny and harassment so I’m finding it very difficult to believe what you’re saying. What I’m seeing is that they responded to gross shit posted by both you and Kristi and you supported a rape apologist who was harassing them. 

You can’t be an ally to trans women and sex workers while running a blog that not only reblogs from TWEFs and SWERFs but reblogs whorephobic and transmisogynist posts, it’s simply not possible. In fact I’m pretty sure there’s another blog where the whole point is literally to reblog a clusterfuck of TWEF and SWERF bullshit in the name of ~communication between different branches of feminism or some shit? that’s gross. Interacting with that shit (unless you’re calling it out) is endorsing it, which is endorsing violence against women. There’s no middle ground here, TWEFs enact violence against trans women, SWERFs enact violence against sex workers. People deserve to live free from violence, there is no in-between here. 

Also one final thing, every time someone criticizes you or Kristi or any of your blogs, you mention antifeminist blogs either by accusing the people criticizing you of being antifem or saying that people should ignore all the shit you did and go after antifems instead. But the thing is, transmisogynist feminists are just as harmful to trans women as antifeminists are, whorephobic feminists are just as harmful to sex workers as antifeminists are (maybe even moreso tbh speaking as a SW i’ve never seen an antifeminist push for the criminalization of sex work but that’s anecdotal). In addition, STFUMRAs has reblogged from antifeminists and “anti-SJWs” anyway, so this argument is just an attempt to avoid responsibility and its gross.

I’m posting this publicly because I used to follow you and we’ve talked via tumblr msging a couple of times and that’s something I think I need to be open about, I should’ve stopped talking to you and blocked you as soon as I realized you were associated with STFUMRAs (now I know you were/are a mod there) and I want to apologize to everyone here for not having done so. It’s not an excuse but to explain, I didn’t understand what was going on here and I should’ve taken the time to find out.