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THIS IS SO WONDERFUL

reblog if u agree that aspec people belong in the lgbtq+ community

like if u think aspec people dont belong in the lgbtq+ community

Plus, if that’s really how they felt they wouldn’t be making mention of their stance on the matter in the first place since the first part of the message was about not making a big deal out of it and just moving forward with respect regardless of personal feeling (in the real world that’s called basic human decency but ya know)

Pronouns do not equal gender, no. A cisgender girl can still use he/him and a cisgender guy can still use she/her. And it happens all the time.

“But how can I be misgendering someone if gender doesn’t equal pronouns?”

Because those pronouns are what that person wants to be called in relation to their gender. If a nonbinary person wants to be called “she” and you call her “they” simply because she’s nonbinary, that’s still misgendering.

“Then calling people ‘they’ when you don’t know their pronouns is also misgendering!”

Simply put, no. If you don’t know someone’s gender or pronouns, you can’t really misgender them. Yes, even if someone you knew years ago is trans and you don’t know they’re trans. However, if they correct you and you continue, you are now misgendering them.

“But those pronouns are too hard, I’ll never be able to use them!”

That’s how I used to feel about neopronouns, too. Then I found this handy website that basically teaches you how to use any pronouns you plug into it. You can even make up your own with this tool! Now I’m able to use fae/faer pronouns correctly and my partner is happy.

“I shouldn’t be expected to use pronouns that don’t correlate to the gender I perceive you as, or pronouns that I don’t like.”

if pronouns are not gendered, you cannot misgender someone. bc even if someone uses a specific set of pronouns, other pronouns are not gendered which means they cant make someone uncomfortable bc theyre not correlated w a gender that someone is not.

neopronouns only have a place in the english language. & english is not the most widely spoken language. technically, the most widely spoken language is mandarin chinese. but my point is, one cannot expect ppl whose first language is not english, or ppl who just simply dont understand neopronouns, to use them. like, personally, i cant use neopronouns bc theyre too difficult for me to understand. thats why ppl have an auxiliary set of pronouns.

i will use someones pronouns to the best of my ability as long as i have the capacity to understand them & know how to use them in regards to simple english.

also, neopronouns dont translate to sign language as far as i know.

No. I literally explained why. “Those pronouns are what that person wants to be called in relation to their gender”

So, this is just my experience with autochorissexualism, and my understanding of the terminology, but.

The reason that autochorissexualism is termed as a paraphilia is because it has to do with the way that a person fantasizes about things, and what they find arousing.

A paraphilia is defined as “an unusual or uncommon source of sexual excitement or pleasure”. Most frequently, people recognize this as kinks or fetishes - sources of sexual excitement or pleasure that are less common. However, sexual fantasies are also a very common source of sexual excitement or pleasure - and autochorissexualism is describing an uncommon form that those fantasies take.

Autochorissexualism says that when someone is fantasizing about situations, it is not about them being involved in the situation. It is finding arousal through fantasies of situations in which they are expressly not involved. Nothing about how they are or are not attracted to people, or what they would or would not actually do with someone. It simply says that fantasies in which the person in question is not involved are arousing to them.

As I briefly mentioned, I say this as someone who experiences autochorissexualism. For me, I was always genuinely confused by descriptions in stories of characters imagining that the person they liked was doing things directly to them and finding it arousing - because I could never relate to that. That wasn’t ever something I found arousing in my personal experience. However, reading about a fictional character’s personal experience would be. Reading about two fictional characters would be. And imagining two characters together would be. Imagining characters in situations would be. My fantasies never involved myself. (For contrast - I very much frequently imagine myself in non-sexual romantic or even sensual situations. But never sexual ones.)

It’s not about behavior, what you would or wouldn’t do in real life, although someone who experiences autochorissexualism may also be sex repulsed, sex averse, or sex indifferent and have no interest in or choose not to have sex, the same as someone who finds bondage arousing in fantasy may or may not want to actually experiment with it in an actual physical way. And it’s not about attraction, because it says nothing about who you are or are not attracted to. It’s solely about fantasy - a form of sexual excitement - and what you find arousing, which is why it was coined and is used as a paraphilia.

People who aren’t ace absolutely do experience the kind of fantasies and attraction described in autochorissexualism. Ask anyone if they’ve fantasized about their favorite ship… chances are they have. They just also frequently experience sexual fantasies where they are a participant.

I don’t think it can be considered a paraphilia if the majority of people experience it?

And frankly? It’s strange to even think of it as not an orientation related term because... this isn’t just a matter of fantasy and attraction, it’s pretty much the only hold I have as far as attraction goes! In regards to actual humanity I’m fully aromantic and any and all crushes are fully just me admiring someone with no desire for reciprocation. And in that sense I fall in love so easy, but I don’t WANT anything. I just think people are cool! People are great! But not like “I wanna date you” great, more like “wow you’re super interesting” great.

Where do I fucking start? I have not switched the place of any of these things.

So, you claim to be “genderqueer”, “agender”, “nonbinary”, and male. You also claim to be trans, but only the last gender on your self-contradictory list could classify as trans, assuming you’re afab(and boy howdy call it a hunch but I do in fact think you are). Later onwards, however, you claim to be gay. Gay for “cute trans boys” specifically(there was no comma between cute and trans boys). I do believe I’m detecting a soft uwu boi fetish. Also, if you are… “nonbinary”, as you very much insist on above, you cannot be gay. Gay is a term for men attracted to men and sometimes used for women attracted to women.

Now onto the likes and dislikes. I don’t think I need to expand on your fetish for trans men. However, you seem to be stating that you like antifa. Glad to know those middle-class commies are out there doing good in the world while people struggle to free themselves from that very style of fascist government. Do I even need to touch the father son and holy spirit of trends of the interests of transtumblrs lmfao.

Moving on… you say that you dislike “people scared of goths and emos”, aka people you have made up to seem more unique, women(so you’re a misogynist), fellow queers(a homophobe/transphobe, then?), and… “non-queer-identifying”(cishet)”non-cishet”(how contradictory)friends. You hate your friends no matter what their sexuality is or whether or not they’re cis/trans then? At least you’re an egalitarian, I suppose. But then I guess you must also hate yourself, because according to your own post, you hate bigots.