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panther redesign? (traced the concept art for the second in case it wasn’t obvious).

Argued with my dad about being trans non-binary and he straight up told me

I wasn't trans because being trans is "A to B" "Male to Female or Female to Male" and I said I didn't identify with either sex, and argued with me when I told him the current definitions of being trans because I said Assigned Sex at Birth in it and of course I forgot he believes in definite Biological Sex

Said nonbinary transition isn't as much as Binary MTF/FTM transition because "there's only A to B or B to A" and both him and my mother go straight to bringing up bottom surgery, like buddy I'm 17, I wasn't even thinking about that I just want HRT, god.

There.isnt any nonbinary transitions , either it's one or the other 100% and also if you're nonbinary it's still in the middle of this made up binary line between Male or Female, also must have all the surgeries and hormones 100% estrogen OR testosterone and if you only want a few or mix match, no you can't do that actually according to us

They said Gender labels have definite rules like sexual orientations, which I half agreed with but still they said that to disregard me being trans because to them transgender means "transitioning from Male to Female or Female to Male" and of course if you don't identify as either sex it doesn't fit in our definition of transgender so you're not trans

Disregarded my social dysphoria because I didn't identify as binary trans, because there's no nonbinary transition

Said they wouldn't help me at with transition until I'm 18 and I'm still certain they won't even after that

Disregarded getting my gender changed to X Marker because it wasn't Male or Female and told me I didn't HAVE to change my gender marker then

Didn't understand why I wanted to change my name again and said I could change my name without it being about being trans because "your name isn't tied to gender" do you hear yourself, just because a few women have men's names or men having women's names doesn't mean names AREN'T gendered.

I tried arguing that in the past I did identify as binary trans and yet I was still disregarded transition, to change my gender marker. They seemed on board for a name change atleast but if only I didn't change my gender marker, which well I wanted to change both. I get in this state we can't do that, but that's why I was so desperate for them to move out but they seem uninterested in moving AGAIN. Could've atleast been more understanding and compassionate about it but no they wanted to win a argument.

I honestly give up with them, I already have my own transition plans and I already know they won't help me even when I turn 18 because they don't think I'm responsible anyways. Hopefully when I turn 18 they change their minds, but I'm scared they're going to move the goalpost. I really really do need to get independent soon, I don't want to go NC I just want to finally have my feelings heard instead of spoken over because "according to OUR definitions you are wrong" rinse and repeat. I couldn't even actually tell them what I was dysphoric about, because according to them I shouldn't be dysphoric because I am beyond gender but at the same time if I want to medically or legally transition I have to be binary trans, give me a break if I was binary trans they still wouldn't help me, I'm certain because I was, my parents continually made me dysphoric about my body because I didn't live up to their standards, because of things I couldn't easily control like my weight, or my behaviour. It seems with me being nonbinary they have nothing to go off of so they can't "help me" by trying to degrade me or tell me If I ate more I would pass. Also they've said very ableist things to me to say I cannot transition because I'm autistic or something and that being in the doctors might be triggering for me. Everytime I bring up old shit they said to me to be transphobic they tell me I'm misremembering, no you said at some point nonbinary people didn't exist, boys don't get periods, you said I was confused and lost and that I shouldn't get my name legally changed at all and NOW you say I can, as long as I don't change my gender marker, MAKE IT MAKE SENSE.

I think this is my tipping point honestly, I love them but I need to stop clinging to them. I thought they'd understand atleast, y'know agree to disagree but no, my dad just had to make it into a debate to explain what being trans is to me, a trans person. Oh wait, I forgot, I'm not trans, because Trans = MTF or FTM and anything else doesn't matter. Thanks.

If anyone has any tips on becoming independent because I've been extremely dependent on them for years I would really really appreciate it, despite them just being uneducated and ignorant they have control over where I go, what I can buy and what I can do.

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[PT: This post is primarily about exorsexism; please do not derail. /End PT]

Derailing in this case does NOT mean "don't share your experiences with exorsexism unless you're nonbinary", just please don't remove the fact that this is about exorsexism. Thank you!

you all are GOING to be normal about nonbinary people, not force them into a reconstructed version of the gender binary in any way, and be nice to them. now. I'm not asking, I'm DEMANDING, and I am not a bad person for that because you all are so weird about nonbinary people.

quit asking nonbinary people if they're "AFAB or AMAB nonbinary". not only is this incredibly intersexist, nobody owes you their ASAB and it is incredibly weird that this is a normal thing to ask in 2025.

quit asking nonbinary people "so, when will you start T/E?," "its just a phase, you'll be binary trans eventually," and so on. it is NOT that hard to comprehend that nonbinary people will not "turn binary trans" most of the time. do some people identify as nonbinary and then later on realize that they're in fact binary trans? yes, and its great that they figured out their identity! but being nonbinary is not a "midway point" between being cis and being binary trans.

quit insisting that nonbinary people must be transfem or transmasc. are there nonbinary people who are transfem or transmasc? yes, and they are no less nonbinary for that! however, transneutral, transandrogynous, transnull, transfemmasc & transmascfem, others, and none of the above are options as well. we do not owe you femininity or masculinity exclusively.

the second side of that coin; quit expecting nonbinary people to automatically perform androgyny for you. there are nonbinary people who are feminine and masculine, and they are not "just binary trans with an extra step". we do not owe you androgyny.

quit calling nonbinary people "they/thems" and similar. do I even have to provide an explanation? you sound like a fucking right-winger.

quit using "he/she", "girl/boy", "man/woman", and similar. those are not the only two options.

quit automatically assuming that every nonbinary person uses they/them pronouns. there are plenty of nonbinary people who use she/her, he/him, neopronouns, etc., and plenty of nonbinary people who use they/them alongside other pronouns! gender does not equal pronouns. why is that so hard to understand specifically for nonbinary people?

the other side of that coin again: treat nonbinary people who DO use only they/them normally.

quit treating feminine (whether by choice or not) nonbinary people as "girl-lite". quit treating masculine (whether by choice or not) nonbinary people as "boy-lite". our presentation does not downplay being nonbinary.

its disappointing that we have to make posts like this in 2025. this is exorsexism, and I'm sick of it.

{no reposting but re-blogging it okay! }

Ah yes. What's a good indicator that a person cannot possibly be transmasc, transneutral, transnull or even intersex? The fandom (and no one in the fucking source material!!!) misgendering them. Why do you need to be TOLD that she/herring a nonbinary person who only uses they/them is the EXACT SAME as he/himming a nonbinary person who only uses they/them. Both of those are exorsexism. Neither of those are "proof" someone is "TMA".

Also, do these people think trans women invented dysphoria hoodies and dysphoria sweaters?? Like, do they think transmascs and nonbinary people would be too stupid to do this on their own??? Do they think only transfems can ever use deodorants "for men" until adulthood???

I don't even have a problem with a transfem enby read of Kris, it's just so grating to me to hear so many people say they HAVE to be that or else YOU'RE stupid. Like. What's the fucking point of having nonbinary characters who only use they/them if people are going to demand you to see them with something specific in their pants. And every single time they'll say "people only act this way towards transfem Kris. People are fine when they're drawn with top surgery scars or a binder but not when they're headcanonned as transfem and it's because you're transmisogynists who have an extreme hatred of transfems" NO??? I've just literally NEVER heard anyone say "if you don't hc this character as transmasc you're stupid and wrong and hate trans men" but I keep fucking hearing it about transfems. No acknowledgement of transneus and transnulls. As fucking always.

Sorry for the rant, it's 3 a.m and I'm angry and tired and I don't like how transfem headcanons are just treated as superior and a nonbinary character can never just be nonbinary.

people say nonbinary means being in between the binary genders until someone is androgyne or something similar, then they're a bad nonbinary person for fitting a stereotype.

people say nonbinary means not having a gender until someone is agender, then they're missing a fundamental part of what makes us human.

people say nonbinary means being both binary genders until someone is a manwoman or similar, then they're being contradictory.

people say nonbinary is a third gender until someone is maverique or similar, then they're just making up identities to be special.

people say nonbinary means being gender-neutral until someone is neutrois or similar, then they're also bad for fitting a stereotype.

people say nonbinary people all fit into either transmasc or transfem until someone does, then they're actually just a trans man or a trans woman in denial.

and this supposed validation of different ways to be nonbinary is only done to invalidate other people, i.e. if i say i'm nonbinary and maverique, i guarantee you someone's gonna turn around and insist i must be masculine or feminine, or that i'm not really nonbinary because nonbinary means genderless, then they will do the same thing to an agender person. they only say this to invalidate us while not trying to seem like a complete bigot, as in "i accept nonbinary people who do it correctly".

they keep moving the goalposts so that we can never win.

and the fact that some nonbinary people see this exorsexist behaviour and insist there is a thing such as a "gender trinary" where three genders are more accepted than others means that their rhetoric is working. it's creating a divide within the nonbinary community. it's making our community tear itself apart.

the sooner we realise they do this to all of us and work together to defend each other, the stronger we wlll be.

the youtuber/streamer Sykkuno is “being cancelled” because he got outed for allegedly cheating on his girlfriend. Thats all people are saying and it makes me so angry, because thats just the start of the problem, and in my opinion is already bad.

What really happened is a 34 year old man with power as a very popular creator and also as someone who was 15 years older then the main woman who spoke out against him, put on a fake persona of being wholesome and nice in his content to attract a primarily woman audience. He then turned around and showered young woman (multiple at a time) who were trying to grow as content creators with a LOT of money (hundreds of dollars) and attention in order to have a sexual relationship with them, all while having a long term girlfriend who reportedly no one knew about. Not even his streamer friends/roommates

“they went to him first” it was his responsibility as both the older man, and technically celebrity to ignore them, or tell them he was not interested

“it wasnt with minors” your bar is in hell. raise it